Anonymous asked in Social ScienceOther - Social Science · 1 month ago

How do you stop your sad thoughts from returning?


Distractions aren't a permanent solution.  

8 Answers

  • star
    Lv 7
    2 weeks ago

    U must understand how satan works.

    He will try to 'get u' thru yr weaknesses.

    So if .. sad thoughts .. weaken u, then u must IDENTIFY sender.

    U know its satan. This is his trick.

    Will u continue to be affected ? of course not

    U r in a ring .. u gotta know how to win.

  • 1 month ago

    you can't always keep them from returning that just happens sometimes. Those are called intrusive thoughts and some people cant get them to go away. Talking to a therapist usually will help though.

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    1 month ago

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  • 1 month ago

    You can't, but you can reduce the time you think those thoughts. Think of a few happy moments and when a sad thought surfaces, immediately think of a pleasant thought.

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  • 1 month ago

    Acknowledge that you have the thoughts and then ignore them. They are just thoughts. They come and they go. 

  • Nancy
    Lv 7
    1 month ago

    By feeling them. Chasing sad thoughts away, that's avoidance and repression. You're not dealing with them, and that's what makes them keep coming back. In fact, in so doing, you're actually conditioning yourself to have those sad thoughts. 

    If you take any training in CBT, you will learn that how you keep sad thoughts from returning is by sitting with them, letting them happen and just feeling them through. Don't try and chase it away but just quietly sit there and let it wash over you and feel it completely.

    Generally, an emotional state if allowed to persist will only last a few minutes, hardly ever more than 20 minutes, so it's not as terrible as it sounds. You are emotionally strong enough endure being sad for a bit, strong enough to let that sadness run its course. 

    If you do, if you just allow yourself to feel sad, cry, and work through that emotion rather than try and chase it away, that is how you will emotionally deal with it. The sad thought will return less and less frequently until it eventually stops, or until when it does come, you no longer feel sad because you will have reached catharsis. 

    It's actually trying to chase them away that makes them recur, and recur more and more often. That's because when you do that, you generally do something to comfort yourself, do something that replaces that sadness with something that feels good or at least not as bad. That can be something as seemingly innocuous as chasing the thoughts away with happier ones, but sometimes that doesn't work and so people will then resort to having a drink or smoking a joint or cutting themselves or whatever they can think of that will take them out of that sad head space and give them relief. 

    It's this avoidance behavior and the relief that ensues that then creates a reward system for that sad thought recurring. You are actually conditioning yourself to keep having those sad thoughts coming back, because you unintentionally teach yourself that by having that sad thought, you will then do something else that feels good. That's called positive reinforcement-- the introduction of positive stimuli that increases the frequency of a behavior, that behavior being that sad thought.

    So, if you have problems with recurring sad thoughts, what's best is to let yourself have them, let them run their course. Also, you would do well to do a little homework for yourself on the topics of "cognitive behavioral therapy" (CBT) and "mindfulness." 

    Fair warning: mindfulness may sound really schticky, like some meditation quackery nonsense, but it's really not. I mean, there are those permutations of it, but if you stick to the scientifically supported methodologies, those even addressed in how to self-administer CBT, you will find it helpful. While he was a professor of literature at Sarah Lawrence College who worked in comparative mythology and comparative religion rather than in the field of psychology, Joseph Campbell and his writings on mindfulness is who psychologists most often refer to get their arms around what it means and most often refer patients to for them to. Now Joseph Campbell largely based his paradigm of mindfulness on famed psychiatrist Carl Jung, whom you'll see him refer to often and who was a student of famed psychiatrist Sigmund Freud, but unlike Carl Jung, whose paradigm uses mindfulness as a tool for exploring our darker natures, Campbell uses mindfulness to as a tool for bringing about our brighter nature. That isn't to say that Jungian psychology is at all invalid, because it's quite valid and can help people overcome guilt and learn to fully accept themselves as they are, even embrace those parts of ourselves we tend to reject because we've been taught by parents or friends or society that they're "bad" or "ugly." It's just that, while you may see Campbell refer to Jung so often that you may be tempted to also read up on Jung, Jung may not be right for you right now, being that what you're trying to overcome is intrusive sad thoughts that keep recurring. If it's intrusive dark thoughts or intrusive guilty thoughts you're having recur, that's when you turn to Jung.  

  • Murzy
    Lv 7
    1 month ago

    distract yourself                            .

  • GA41
    Lv 7
    1 month ago

    Overwhelm them with positive thoughts and thankfullness.

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