How can Christian denominations be OK with divorce when Bible is clear that there are only very limited grounds for divorce?

If I recall correctly, Jesus said that adultery or the like is the only permitted basis for divorce and that anyone who wrongly divorces and then remarries commits adultery.

With that, how can Christian churches be OK with divorce and with allowing remarriages to occur inside their church buildings? 

Mainline Christian denominations in the US have divorced and remarried pastors, leaders, etc. and do not have a problem allowing people to leave their spouses for a range of reasons and then remarry inside cn rich buildings.  How?

21 Answers

  • 2 months ago
    Favourite answer

    Because forgiveness is a central part of Christianity.  However, my sister-in-law, who is a divorcee, had considerable difficulty getting ordained because of that, and I know other divorcees who felt very judged by other parishioners, so it isn't really that smooth.

  • Paul
    Lv 7
    2 months ago

    Various Christian denominations accept many ungodly ideas, and reject many of the teachings of Jesus Christ. Which is why Jesus founded just one Church, said it was to remain one, and promised that one Church the fullness of God's truth until the end of time. When unauthorized manmade denominations defect from His Church, they leave behind this promise of truth. Which is why there are thousands of denominations, the teaching of each one contradicting the teaching of the others. Truth cannot contradict truth, so obviously a tremendous amount of untruth is being taught.

  • Anonymous
    2 months ago

    Only by ignoring his commands, or rejecting his word outright. 

    Jesus speaking.....

    Mark 10:11-12 KJV — And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.

    Matthew 19:6 KJV —What therefore God hath joined together, let no man put asunder.


  • 2 months ago

    Jesus' hyperbole about divorce was intended to underscore the ancient belief that marriages can and should last forever.  Sometimes there are layers of meaning in what Jesus says.

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  • 2 months ago

    I do not accept divorce, even though my denomonation does.  

  • 2 months ago

    At the time of Christ life expectancy was 35 - 40, and women needed a man to provide for them. Now life expectancy is twice that, women can support themselves, and it's not uncommon for people to live into their eighties and sometimes nineties.  

    The position of the Orthodox Christian Church is that, being human, we sometimes choose unwisely, and that keeping people in a toxic relationship is just wrong.  It also recognizes our human weakness and need for love and companionship, and allows remarriage but only after counseling with a priest to determine whether the marriage is beyond repair.

    Source(s): Greek Orthodox Christian
  • gillie
    Lv 7
    2 months ago

    Cherry-picking.  They tsk-tsk about divorce briefly, then ignore it.

  • TeeM
    Lv 7
    2 months ago

    This is another example of Satan's influence upon false christianity.

    Other examples are the teachings of the trinity, the immortal soul, and hellfire.

    It is not 'just' mainline christian denominations, but many of the 'non-denominational' churches continue with these false teachings.

    For our worship to be acceptable, we must be no part of the world.


  • 2 months ago

    God NEVER permitted divorce in the first place.  It was Moses who allowed a certificate of divorce - not God.  God said from the beginning is was not so.

    God hates divorce (Malachi 3:16) and God doesn't allow what He hates.  It's a fallacy that divorce is permitted.  It never is.

    Whoever divorces his wife and marries another has committed adultery and if a woman divorces her husband and marries another she has committed adultery (Mark 10: 11 & 12 and Luke 16:18)

    Whoever divorces his wife FOR ANY REASON  causes her to commit adultery (unless she already has done so, then he didn't cause her to), and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.  Matthew 5:32

    Moses permitted divorce because of the hardness of man's heart but from the beginning, it was not so (Matthew 19:8) so whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery (unless she already committed adultery and then it was her and not the husband) and whoever divorces his wife and marries her who is divorced commits adultery (Matthew 19:9).

    For a woman who has a husband is bound by law to her husband for as long as he lives.  But if her husband dies, then she is released from the law of her husband.  If she marries whilst he still lives, then she is an adulteress and will be called an adulteress, but if her husband dies, then she is released from the law of her husband and not called an adulteress if she remarries. (Romans 7: 2 & 3).

    I don't see any scriptural evidence where anyone may divorce or remarry, especially a Pastor.  The Bible says of Leaders, if they can't keep their own house in control, how can they look after and be in control of the house of God? So God doesn't permit Pastors to divorce because if they do it, then the congregation thinks it's acceptable

  • 2 months ago

    Mt. 19:9 give the only cause for divorce.  It is serious error to practice otherwise.

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