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Anonymous asked in Social SciencePsychology · 2 months ago

Why do people stay in victim mode forever?

Just because a dad was abusive verbally, does not mean we should dwell on that forever. Constantly feeling sorry for ourselves and continue talking about that person. They gone on with their happy lives and this family stills playing victim and the blame game. Get over it, it was the past. Go and fix the rest of your life.

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  • 1 month ago

    Maintaining the victum role is a learned behavior and response to the behavior experienced.  People do not have to remain in the victum role for ever, but it is very hard to break the behavior and a victum can often become the abuser later in life.

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  • Anonymous
    1 month ago

    Sometimes, it happens because people are mentally unwell. They are struggling to process that trauma and need professional help. With the right therapy, they can cope with the feelings of that trauma and avoid dwelling on it further. But it's also important that some people are in therapy and have not touched this aspect.

    Trauma is something that is incredibly hard to get over, and it has long lasting impacts on the individual. As well, some who have been abused tend to play the victim more often because they were the victim in the past. 

    Basically, they're likely unwell and not getting the help they need. If they are getting the help they need, they have likely not touched the subject.

    • Alicisa1 month agoReport

      The fact is some treat other's the way they want to be treated but never get the same in return. Being kind and friendly. People tend to try and run over them. Cause they have scars. People do use people past against them. Maybe that person could be to trusting. So it possible.

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  • Anonymous
    2 months ago

    Sadly that is how most people are.

    It may be upbringing.

    I say forget it and go about your own life.

  • 2 months ago

    Who has taught  them how to get out of it?   Their family?  I don't think so.  They would need professional help for sure.  They also need to observe others, friends who are light hearted, and good-natured.   

    • Alicisa1 month agoReport

      Maybe good friend's are hard to come by in this day of age

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  • 2 months ago

    Because people carry this stuff around with them, without even realizing it. that's why

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  • Jesere
    Lv 7
    2 months ago

    LIVE AND LET LIVE

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  • Anonymous
    2 months ago

    Why are you trying to lecture other people on how they should live their lives? If they want to be victims it’s their business. Just worry about yourself

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  • JB
    Lv 4
    2 months ago

    Sometimes offenders get with victims and perpetuate a cycle. "Just get over it" is a misguided shortcut offered by persons who don't know what they are talking about. This is also why no one seeks you out for advice, and why your own personal problems remain unresolved.

  • Anonymous
    2 months ago

    I mean this is an entire field of psychology- we still don't have a full scientific understanding of trauma. It's not as easy as "getting over it", traumatic childhood experiences affect neural pathways. And because it's a matter of brain chemistry and social conditioning, something that might not have a major effect on your future could be life-altering to others. Not that victims are helpless, but for many trying to "move on" from their trauma would be like deciding to just get over a broken bone. 

    • Alicisa1 month agoReport

      But what if you have night mare's about your past. But still try to move on no matter what

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  • 2 months ago

    For many people this is merely habit and it can be extremely detrimental to their entire life. Everyone has problems, but for some individuals, pointing the finger at another person can be satisfying. As in; "they're at fault for all my past, current and future issues".

    They need to take responsibility for their own lives, but some people really struggle with this concept.

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