gender identity ?

I identify as female but I don’t care what pronouns are used for me but I also don’t like my breasts or being told i look feminine. What would that be considered?

10 Answers

  • 10 months ago

    Probably genderqueer

  • Lauren
    Lv 6
    10 months ago

    I feel just about the same way. I think for many people it's a "phase." You see representations of "tomboys" in movies or school who eventually feminize themselves when they've matured. For me, in my 30s, it hasn't changed, and I've only become more settled in this attitude. 

    You really need to decide on a term that you feel the most comfortable with youself, though (IMO). There are many now. You could just be a female or woman with x issues with her body. You could be gender non-binary, non-conforming, or gueer, having some form of dysphoria over your physicality. You might be a "demi-girl." I found looking through testimonials online to help fall into or lean into one or two more than others.

    I think once I landed on a label I felt comfortable to move on from holding it tightly bc language is as fluid as identity. But there is a lot of comfort in labels at the same time and they help sort out who you are, so I don't like when people poo poo on this type of question and I would probably feel quite at home having a "what do you identify as conversation" with anyone for two hours. Maybe once a month for a year. 

    In the end there is no law saying you need to define it by whatever date or your New Year's Resolution will have been ruined. 

  • 10 months ago

    Female with body dysmorphia. (not dysphoria)

    Source(s): right wing transsexual guy
  • Anonymous
    10 months ago

    If you identify as female that means you are female. Lots of women don't want to be feminine, some women don't like their breasts and some people just could not care less about pronouns but these things don't change someones gender. The only thing that determines gender identity is well, your gender identity which you clearly stated was female. 

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  • Anonymous
    10 months ago

    You may be genderqueer/non-binary.

  • Anonymous
    10 months ago

    There is no goddamn such thing as "gender identity" and you are a perfect example of why.

  • ?
    Lv 5
    10 months ago

    If you identify as female, Mia, then your "gender identity" is FEMALE.  The fact that you don't like your breasts, or that you don't like being told you look feminine are irrelevant.

    I don't mean to seem unsympathetic, and I'm not being critical.  Many young women have difficulty with 1) the changes to their bodies brought on by puberty (including periods), 2) the changes to the what society expects of you, also brought on by puberty (from how other girls treat you, to what older women tell you, to the way boys look at you), 3) the loss of the ability to hold your own with boys, to mix with them freely, and to continue doing things you enjoyed as a little girl.  All of these things combine to make many girls think that they are suffering from gender dysphoria and therefore must have a gender identity issue.

    In a sense, this IS a general unhappiness - that is, "dysphoria" - but it's not really just about being a woman.  It's more about missing the way you used to be.  Just bear with it for awhile.  You are about much more than just your breasts or butt, and eventually that will become clear to you and you'll stop missing the old you so much.  Other girls will follow the course of making themselves into someone who IS all about their breasts and butt.  That doesn't mean you have to do the same.  Just be who you are - that'll create a bit of distance between you and them, but in the end it'll help you avoid a lot of self-doubt.

  • Emma
    Lv 7
    10 months ago

    "I identify as female but I don’t care what pronouns are used for me but I also don’t like my breasts or being told i look feminine. What would that be considered?"

    That would be time, to see a gender therapist (without a religious bias), to help you figure out what that should be considered, either way.

    Note, it's only the evangelicals (conservative christians) that would have you believe that ALL christians are against the lgbt, NOT ALL christian denominations and congregants are against the lgbt.

  • 10 months ago

    I would definitely call that gender incongruence but I wonder why you dislike your breasts or looking feminine, because it might be because of what it represents socially.

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