*EDIT* I do not know if you will ever see this, though you should 'feel it. Short answer: You have a way to contact me. I need some partners for a new project, people to talk to are fine too. Get any readings on me, tell me about it. Tell me some specifics of experiences. Questions? ask me or yahoo. I can not ask you for 10 points, yahoo does not allow that. But - keep me in mind
Longer answer: more thoughts (9/20 edit)
No very few people are like you. I do not think your life ever goes back to how it was. It should get better than it ever has been or the same direction you feel it going - much worse. I do know a few things you said expressed responsibility, maturity; accountability and openness. Women not all just too many (even gifted ones) are insecure, are not responsible, not accountable for past failure or future action and closed to finding new ways to expand and improve (themselves, their gifts or others). So that is really great, the few words you typed implied good things. I do not know why gifted people are chosen, we just know they are. It sounds dumb, you are a vessel all universal energy flows through. Its probably much more than a "trite" gift of being able to feel people. You don't have to, most don't but using this gift properly reaching your full potential means you have to push harder than anyone (everyone) else. You might need others to literally pull when you won't push. Its not fair or ok either, but I had nothing to do with it. Most people will do nothing being a magnet to negative energy forever - That's ok, it is their choice (they won't be open, accountable, mature or responsible)
.Feeling spirits is a feature of clairsentience. This is a very feminine (goddess) energy. It is called a lot of things but tied with the strongest form of energy we know, 'Kundalini'. That is the first name I remember how to spell that came to mind. 'Feeling' energy (people;emotion) the way you do is tied to intimacy. Sexual energy is the most powerful because it is intellectual & emotional energy. Intimacy is much more than just sex, it is a primary feature of spirituality (communication; love or expression). So sexual energy combines the 3. When you really understand it picking up on spirits is an intimate & personal thing. It might be stressful/panic sometimes. But you are picking up on a raw and pure energy - personal and intimate. You are feeling the essence; energy of a person. Even fewer people can do that, it is such a raw/pure connection. To prove how powerful it is. Usually you might feel the temperature change, pressure in the room, a thick/heave feeling, tones/rings, tingly or hairs stand up. I think you are lying :) but that is ok, trust no one on the net unless you can read them. But it just proves what I said. You are very gifted. Like I said clairsentient empath fits based on this. A lot more looking is needed.
Original reply 9/19:
Short answer: clairsentience empathy. To control it understanding what is 'technically' going on is the first place to start. The most important place is removing all negative people & learning to shield yourself then growing and controlling your gift.
Someone who asked a question like this wrote me a week or 2 ago, was it you?
Before I answer there are many things you probably already understand that are important. Naming the gift you have matters. But if you really want to control it and deal with your anxiety and any other concerns you need to understand whats going on.
Not learning to control it literally leads to trauma. Typically you've drawn negative energy/people to you your entire life. Jealous women who express it through emotional belittling/abuse, people who exploit and use you and others who never accept and just push away. Its great you are interested in learning more and it is something you must do.
Naming the gift is not really important - sure it is important. But the way this question was asked understanding seems more important. You are picking up "energy" from 'external influencers' (people, situations, objects). There is: Intellectual, Emotional, Sexual & Spiritual energy. Quantum science or things as simple as "mirror neurons" (neurology) prove this. While it is rare you have been selected or 'gifted' as you said to be able to experience and interact with this energy in ways no other people can. It sounds dumb but your body is a vessel this energy flows through (positive & negative).
We know physical atoms are made up of vortices of energy that are constantly spinning and vibrating, each one radiating its own unique energy signature (everything is vibrating energy & that connects us). 'The thoughts' of external influencers (other people) are made up of this as well. Your gift allows you to communicate & process these vibrations differently than everyone else. I do not know why you were gifted, you can try to figure that out later. We just know your body is a vessel energy is attracted to and flows through.
You are experiencing anxiety not because you 'know' someone is thinking or 'know' what someone is thinking. But because thousands of signals (literally) are being processed by you at any given moment. Most people do not feel what you do. Much of the energy is very negative too. Most people do not experience what you do.
Think about that, whats going 'scientifically'/'spiritually' it is some pretty wicked and wild stuff. A friend described it like having 3rd degree burns on her skin to her soul. Another woman told me, 'drowning in my emotion'. An intense unstoppable emotional roller coaster. I get It but better you than me :/
I am unfamiliar with anyone whose gifted that only has one gift. You either can or like 99.9% of people you can not feel/interact like you do. Most of our bodies are not vessels, I guess. What you are describing though is clairsentience empathy. You are describing more of a "feeling" (your reaction to the vibrations/energy). Think of it like radio/cell phone waves. At this point you are not really listening to them. You can sense them, know they are there and directed at you, you are not reading thoughts or emotions other types of clairvoyants or gifted people might.
That is what kind of gift you have - "clairsentience empathy"
There is a lot you need to do now but you did not ask. I think I answered your specific question though, "What is my gift". If you are over 18 and need a job. Willing to chat and open to verifying who you are after I do the same. I'd like to hire some people for cognitive intuitive marketing. You might be perfect if you learn to expand your gift.
If i see any questions even trolls, I will answer them :)