There are several questions to ask yourself: Did your mother cut you off, or did you cut her off? If it was the latter, did she ever try to contact you after you severed the relationship? If you have siblings, did she treat them the same way she behaved toward you, or were you the only object of her abuse? My mother was verbally and emotionally abusive to me, and then I discovered it was because my father had had an affair and then he named me after the girlfriend. My mother had no choice in the matter (this was before the days of easy divorces), and so every time she said my name, it was like a slap in the face to her. I was never close to her, but I did go see her when she was very old, ill, and at death's door. I didn't say anything, but she knew I was in the room. I just sat there quietly. That was enough. You're the only one who can decide in your heart what you feel you need to do.