If a man makes his fiancée's 17 y/o son cry by yelling/criticizing him, & the mom says nothing, is she in the wrong for just sitting there?

Keep in mind of the following behavior he demonstrates in front of his fiancée: 1. He proposed to her within the same month she introduced him to her son. She's immediately smitten and falls for him, as he is her first "real" boyfriend since motherhood, as she raised her son all by herself with no... show more Keep in mind of the following behavior he demonstrates in front of his fiancée:

1. He proposed to her within the same month she introduced him to her son. She's immediately smitten and falls for him, as he is her first "real" boyfriend since motherhood, as she raised her son all by herself with no male companionship, and is so quick to jump the broom to make up for lost time.

2. He says that he's a lawyer AND college professor, but drives his fiancée's car to the bus stop every day to pick her up from work (the "two jobs" part is plausible, as you can be a lawyer without leaving the house; however, picking her up from work EVERY day?)

3. He gives her son the "don't test me" look, as if he will spank him if he pushes the limit, and he constantly criticizes him, such as the fact that he never had a job, while telling his fiancée that her son is a spoiled brat who needs to shape up, even though he's in school (translation: NOT sitting around doing nothing) AND is well on his way to graduation. On top of that, he convinces her to set some ground rules for her son regarding his computer and other belongings, such as restricting access to such 'n such on weekdays, won't let him do this 'n that, basically convincing his mom to treat him like he's in the army.

4. He tells his fiancée and her son that he's adopting him, and that her son's last name will legally be changed to his before he graduates, and that his new last name will be on his high school diploma.
Update: 5. He says he's a widower whose wife was killed in a car accident, and that he has two daughters. Meanwhile, she and her son have never met them or any of his family, nor spoken to them on the phone.

Edit to #1: He also moved in to her house the day she and her son met.
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