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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsWeddings · 5 months ago

At a wedding, does the church decide what the words in a reading are or is up to the person who reads the reading?

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  • 5 months ago
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    You can discuss that with the officiant. At my sister's wedding she didn't want them to say for poorer in the for richer or poorer part so they took out or for poorer. The marriage didn't last obviously and she didn't ever get married again but she has done pretty well for herself all things considered.

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  • Kelly
    Lv 7
    5 months ago

    It widely varies by the church. Some only allow you to pick from things they have available and others let you choose. It's the same thing with music.

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  • 5 months ago

    The couple selects readings, and generally asks friends/family to read them.

    At church weddings, one generally has to be a religious reading; the church may make suggestions if you don't have anything in mind

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  • 5 months ago

    The couple getting married decide what's read.

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  • 5 months ago

    It is a combination of the couple and the officiant based on the traditions of the religion. For example, many demonizations will provide suggestions or a list of verses from which the couple can choose. They may also make changes to the standard vows. In other denomination or non-denomination churches the couple designs the ceremony and selects the readings and the vows.

    • Jon
      Lv 6
      5 months agoReport

      You might want to proofread your answer.

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  • Jerry
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    5 months ago

    Depending on the pastor, it could be either...we wrote most of our vows and let him do his thing as well.

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  • Anonymous
    5 months ago

    That's up to the couple and the officiant to decide.

    The couple can request something very specific, or give general preferences, or can completely leave it up to the officiant. The officiant can accept or decline.

    Generally speaking, the couple will choose an officiant that they are compatible with. For example, if you're two atheist guys getting married you probably aren't going to ask a Hasidic Rabbi to marry you. A Unitarian or Justice of the Peace may be a better fit.

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  • 5 months ago

    Generally it should be the bride and her family, but the groom may want an input. If they have no particular preference, the officiant will probably help and advise......

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  • Foofa
    Lv 7
    5 months ago

    If it's a reading by the officiate that person will usually ask the couple what tone they want and will often run the draft past them before the wedding. If it's a reading by a family member or the bride/groom themselves they'll sometimes have to clear that with the officiate, but not always.

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  • 5 months ago

    It's up to the bride and groom. They work it out with the pastor/priest/rabbi during rehearsal. The vows are also chosen by the bride and groom.

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