By accepting that this is how they are.
By learning to face your own annoyance, and perhaps your fear of not being in control, and then relaxing into it.
Don't blame them for the emotional habits you have build in your subconscious. 95% of our emotions arise from OUR subconscious and others do not control that.
The only people we CAN change is ourselves, and we either accept others as they are, or we make ourselves miserable and risk losing our relationship with them.
So if you are not going to take responsibility for your own emotional reactions, so that you can relax and accept them as they ARE, it will be far easier on everyone if you just get divorce now.
But understand that you will face the same challenge (self-mastery) in the next relationship you get into. And you cannot guarantee that the next one will be a nice person (even if they seem like it for the first 2years).
Some people are risk-takers and some are not. And this does NOT change.
How to deal with this? For starters, STOP over-dramatizing how "sick" you are of this, and how much it is "driving you crazy". These self-statements cause your annoyance and make it stronger.
It is really important what we tell ourselves, because that creates our responses and how we see our reality.
And your self-statements are feeding your stress and unhappiness and WILL wreck your marriage sooner or later.
Talk with a therapist to learn how to get some mastery over your cognitive self-statements.