Acknowledge the emotions your feeling, this will allow you to observe rather than be swept away. If you’re struggling with difficult emotions after a put down, acknowledge the feelings. Let pass through you without resisting or attaching yourself to them. If you’re put down or criticized, confine your feelings about the criticism to the action being criticized rather than making it about you. When criticism feels like a personal attack, the more personal the put down, the greater the likelihood that it’s more about the other persons insecurities than it is about you. Put downs can make us feel small and it can cause you to feel like you have no control over how you feel when it’s happening but you do have power, you can focus on the positive. If you choose your attitude, you create an emotional shield that can withstand any insult. You'll understand the powerful truth that it’s not the put down that makes or breaks your confidence; it’s how you choose to think and feel about it.