Thank you for reaching out for help when you are dealing with such a sensitive situation for a lot of parents. Being a parent in and of itself is stressful and messy, but things can get even more complicated when we look at difficult topics such as household rules.
Every household and the rules associate with that household are unique to each family unit; what works for one family will very likely not work for another family because the people, attitudes, behaviors are all so different. With this variability in mind, it is most important for the parent to establish and follow rules that are appropriate for their home because they, as the parent, know their thome better than most anyone else.
One thing to keep in mind with household rules is allowing your children to be successful. Even if a household rule is strict, it is important to be upfront about the standard of the rule; by being so upfront, the child or teen in question can be better prepared for achieving success in the home, which is important.
If there is a concern, as the teen in question, that the household rules are too strict, there are different ways that you can address that concern. For example, examine what would be going on that would call for such standards in the rules? After examining the source, determine if there is a way to demonstrate that you are responsible enough to lift the standard of those rules (e.g., go above and beyond on household chores, getting a part-time job, etc.). You are also able to talk with the parents in question about ways that you can earn to have those rules alleviated, that way the people enforcing the rules can tell you up front what they need to see in order to lift some of the rules.
Hopefully this answer gives you some support in continuing to be successful moving forward. Please let us know if there is anything more that we do to help you; we can be reached at the resources listed below.
Alex - Crisis Counselor
Boys Town National Hotline (24/7, parents and teens): (800) 448-3000