Do you know the story of the lad here in England who found an old lamp in his grandmother's attic, and when he started to rub it a genie appeared? The genie offered the young man a single wish - "Anything you want, just name it". "Well", came the studied reply, "I have always wanted to go to America, but I am terrified of flying and become very seasick even on my local duck pond. Please can you build a road bridge across the Atlantic?" The genie paused. "This really is a big ask, and I don't think it can be fulfilled; have you alternative?" The lad thought then said, "I have always wondered how a woman thinks". The genie eventually replied, "How wide do you want the bridge to be?"
If everyone read books like Dr Phil McGraw's excellent, Relationship Rescue they would get deeper insights into how relationships work and learn to be much happier! (I wish I got commission, as I recommend it to so many people!). As he writes in the book, it isn't only or people whose relationships are in trouble. There are other excellent books, of course.