Question for you, let’s pretend you have a ne born human baby at home, it was up all night crying and gassy, slept an hour and is crying and carrying on demanding to be fed, changed held. Is it okay to put the baby in it’s crib next to other people and ignore it several hours while you rest and recover from caring for it? How many minutes or hours is it acceptable?
When you got the pup what did you think, it was a smell dog that would fro up into a big dog, coming housebroken and have set times and patterns so you could rest and not have to worry about it?
You have an Infant dog. Same as about a 2 month old human baby. How long is it acceptable to ignore a baby?
Get the pup into a routine, then you won’t have to be so stressed out and exhausted. Puppies need 24/7 supervision but they don’t need 24/7 activities.
When we get a new pup after the 8nitial settling in time (about 3 days at most) the pups get 8nto their routing so I don’t end up going nuts trying to care for it. First thing in morning, pups carried from his pen or crate to outside to empty in the back yard. We run and play until successful. We go in, pup eats his breakfast and so do I. He plays about 20 minutes then back outside to potty, once successful and lots of praise later we go back in and play for about 20 minutes, I wait until the pup starts sniffing around then back out to empty, pup goes in, takes his first nap, usually doesn’t protest, they love their towels and stuffed animal and usually play with 5hem till they fall asleep. During his nap time I take care of the rest of the dogs.
About an hour later pup wakes up, needs to empty, once again carried out so no accidents, then praised, we start out 5 minute training session after his run outside. We do basics first, sit, down, no, wait and leave it our first week f training. Usually 4 times a day, I 8ncorporate I in play as reinforcement, however longer than 5 minutes it’s stressful and boring at 8 to 10 weeks 9ld.
After training we play inside and then go out to empty before his lunch, the pup eats, then roams the house about 20 minutes and back outside (pups need empty every 20 to 45 minutes when young until their minds are mature not to mention their bladders). After lunch is quiet play alone time in the pen or crate, after 15 minutes or so the pup goes to sleep.
When pup wakes from the nap, starts whining or looking around on the floor, back outside to empty and run around about 10 to 15 minutes to help tire him out, usually chasing something or attacking his ball.
We go in, train, play and I simply watch him to make sure he doesn’t get into trouble beside watching to see if he needs to empty. Pups are good about playing with their toys, they do not need constant human interaction but they can’t be left alone for hours or ignored, 5hat# 2here they start developing separation anxiety or if totally bored because of no human guidance they develop their own games especially around 7 months old. Digging, destructive chewing of wood, chewing on furniture etc. when you find pup doing inappropriate things, redirect him and correct him gently to a toy or other activity.
I have not had any problems with separation anxiety or barking, chewing up and destroying things in my house. until the pups old enough and has learned the obedience, the pups watched and supervised. Pretty much by 6 months old I can hav my guys running around the house without worrying about them getting into inappropriate things, but I also puppy proof the house all the time as adult dogs can get curious or bored too and get into things.
For evenings I feed the pup, we play, go outside and run off any energy until he stops and wants to rest, then we go back inside and he just plays with his toys till bed time. A final out then to bed.
At young ages pups need to go outside once of twice during the night I usually feed dinner about 5 then we play, review training then quiet time.
The more time and effort, training etc you put into your pup the less trouble you will have with your adult dog, they learn all their behaviors, good or bad from how they are treated as young dogs. If you leave the, alone for long periods then when you feel like your give attention they can become clingy or demanding later in life.
5his does not mean you have to supply 24 hour play and hands in, they do understand nap time and bed time, they can be by themselves for short periods of time but since they are babies you do need to give 24/7 attention such as taking them out to empty, exercise, training, appropriate behaviors etc, but it’s not a constant hands on.
When the pups housebroken and can hold it an hour or two is when you can cut back on the constant cares, they are self sufficient and know the house rules by then, what’s theirs and hate not. They will seek you out for company, but some praise and some petting should reassure them enough and send them to play with their toys or just chill.
I won’t lie, the first three months are the hardest for any new pup owner, they need to be taught everything and watched so they don’t eat inappropriate items, don’t chew up what’s not theirs, don’t pee everywhere. Even though they are still very much babies they can be taught basic obedience and will imprint on you and your moods. They learn their routines and how they will be acting the rest of their lives.
Too many people get pups and have no clue how to care for them and the amount of work that goes into having a well balanced adult dog. So many people get an 8 week old pup on a Friday, play with it all weekend and come Monday morning they shove it in a crate or in the back yard to sit alone all day while they are at work. Come Friday they start playing with pup bu are no getting angry often hitting it or yelling at it because it’s not housebroken yet, has not learned how to sit or lay down on command and don’t know their names or don’t seem to care. After about 6 weeks I’d being treated like some toy the owners get fed up and frustrated, after all they bought proper toys and their stupid pup doesn’t appreciate it, they have nice bed the pups either soiled or chewed up out of desperation or boredom and gets punished for ruining that once nice bed. And the final insult why people get rid of pup because of either play biting (all pups explore their world by taste and mouthing just like a human baby puts anything new in its mouth to see hat it can do... food? Toy?). Besides mouthing that the owners didn’t have time to correct, the final insult that either gets pup thrown outside in the yard for the rest of its life or they take it to the shelter is because the pup refuses to become housebroken, it pees and poops on the good carpet, in it’s kennel etc. people don’t stop to think about how many times they use the bathroom during the day while at work yet they expect an infant dog to hold it 9 to 11 hours when they themselves as an adult have used the bathroom 4 to 5 times. The baby gets punished, they get rid of it and then months or a year or so later do the same exact thing with yet another pup.
Check YouTube for guidance for raising puppies, there’s George Zak, Kikopup and many others that cover training, housebreaking, crating, cleanup, biting,leash training... just about anything you need to know.
It’s okay to tire the pup out and let him rest for an hour or so, but if he’s upset and screaming, carrying on, he’s not tired out yet. Once 5hey get into the routine of going to their pens to nap, they seem to enjoy their quit time. At first they are not sure but usually a day or two they catch on. I use a portable crib for my little ones which work well for me, I can supervise them when awake but I don’t have the time to play (like when cooking dinner) and I can get them out when they need to empty.
You said there are others around so the pup won’t be alone, why don’t they help care for the pup, can’t someone watch it for a couple hours hole you nap? It takes the whole family to raise a pup, not just one person. The pup needs to learn to listen to everyone, not just you. Have you even thought of asking for help?