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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsSingles & Dating · 1 year ago

there is this guy I’ve been friends with for a few years. About 4 months ago we started getting romantic and have slept together a few times?

But he says he can’t have a girlfriend right now because he needs to focus on working to get his own house and a new car. Is this just an excuse because he really doesn’t want to be with me? He is really confusing because we act like we are together even though we aren’t. He calls me babe and boo and hun and will hold my hand when we hang out. We text each other good morning and goodnight everyday but I don’t know how he truly views me. Should I just move on and find someone else even though I think I love this man? Or should I wait and see if he ever asks me out?

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  • Anonymous
    1 year ago

    Honey, you gave yourself too easily, that's why he’s running away .Having sex with someone does not always mean that there is love. Sex isn’t love and love isn’t sex. Listen, men are like predators🤷🏼‍♀️, the more hungry you make them , the more they want you. Do not let your emotions control you, I will not tell you to move on. But I can tell you to stop having sex with him. You do what you think best for you. We can all recover from a fall if we want to, but we need to be determined and focused on what we really want. Your choice, your life, your success or your failure. You choose honey🌝

  • 1 year ago

    Move on

  • 1 year ago

    He gets free sex. With no commitment.

    Why bother committing?

    Can I join the queue?

  • 1 year ago

    Why buy the cow if the milk is free? You made a mistake, he is tired of you and now is going on to somebody else. You made your bed now you have to lay in it. Next time do NOT EVER have premarital sex EVER.

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  • 1 year ago

    What you should do is take a break from him.Until he is ready to be in a relationship walk away from him.Dont have sex with him. Something isnt right.Its a bit of con job.If he doesnt want a commitment then dont see him again. You hold the power right now.Decide the future.

  • kim
    Lv 7
    1 year ago

    Women have hearts men do not so much. Believe me there are worse things than being let down early. Like carrying on and off for 7 years. Took me that long to wise up. It sticks in your crawl like MFer then. Even forever. So he has other exploits, let him go. Believe me there are more pleasing men out there. Pray about this. God is Great!!!

  • Anonymous
    1 year ago

    If you give someone the cow before they buy the milk then that is how valuable you might be treated and is why family values are important. Cannot support this kind of behavior because it can only lead to sadness es.

  • Orla C
    Lv 7
    1 year ago

    He's not that into you, so don't settle and don't try to push him into a declaration or anything. Better to break off contact for a while and start seeing someone else. If he says anything, point out sweetly that he said he didn't want a girlfriend, so you consider yourself a free agent.

    Right now you're mixing up sex with romance. Stop that. Take a cold hard look at this guy. If he really did care about you, he would find a way to make a relationship. He's not that bothered. So walk. And don't look back.

  • 1 year ago

    Hey girl, if he was falling for you, he would be eager to lock you down and make it exclusive. For him to say, he has to focus on buying a home and car so he can't be in a relationship is nonsense. I was in a relationship that was a few years back and managed to work 3 jobs saving for a home. It's not impossible, his excuses are worthless. People have time for what they WANT to make time for. He has time for the sex.. but not time for YOU. You deserve far better and the more time you waste on this guy you could be missing out on the man who will treat you far better and see all your great qualities. Good luck :)

  • 1 year ago

    oh dear sounds like he thinks you are a friend with benefits and you want something more - think you might have to move on

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