Like it or not, no one gets any say on where their personal tax dollars go, and once it goes to the government it is no longer a specific little handful of cash that is yours, it becomes part of a much larger number that is used for everything taxes go into, whether you agree with all those things or not.
Do I want my taxes going to red welfare states and going to assist people who sit there and hate on liberals all the time, hating on people from states like mine who pitched in more tax dollars than we ever get back and most of it going to other states, many of them red....? Not really. It's pretty ungrateful. But since it was absorbed into the far larger amount that is used for everything, my little share being very minuscule in comparison... I may as well just choose to believe that mine is helping cover the things I do want it going to. What other choice do I have. It's that or spend time acting like a petty b*tch about it, and I'd rather not.