Is love at first sight a real thing ?
Can two people really date for a very short amount of time and be in love ? What exactly is love at first sight and is it very realistic ?
- lalaLv 71 year agoFavourite answer
LOve at first sight is rare
but yes it does exist
- PatriciaLv 71 year ago
Love at first sight is a saying. True love happens over time. We need to get to know someone on an intimately personal basis, develop close emotional intimacy. We need to trust and respect each other, and care about each other unconditionally, overlooking their faults and quirks (and believe me, everyone has them!). All of this takes a good bit of time. And all of this takes at least a year or more to discover. Sometimes we discover we can't stand to be in the same room together after a year -- other times, not so much
- FoofaLv 71 year ago
They can be in lust and in infatuation but real love takes years to develop. You can't truly love someone until you've seen how they handle a variety of situations and that's not knowledge you have just by looking at a person.
- Dan82828384Lv 51 year ago
It can happen but most people are exaggerating
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- JanetLv 71 year ago
It is a real thing, except that it is NOT love.
Love takes 2 years or more of living together before it even STARTS to grow.
Love at first sight happens when you have some serious repressed issues/pain that you are not consciously facing. So when you encounter someone whose subtle signals suggest they will trigger your pain, your brain releases chemicals that instantly and strongly attract you to the person.
Chemicals that make us feel "high", and what we are "in love" with is our "high". The other person only triggers this.
Unfortunately the brain will eventually go back to normal, the "high" dies out, and THEN the person starts triggering all of our buried pain.
Our brain seeks out what it "knows" .. so if there is buried pain that is what our brain seeks out in others. And the stronger and more-quickly we "fall in love", the worse the outcome is going to be.
People who are psychologically well-adjusted .. well, the girls take about 6 months of steady dating before they START to be serious about the other person. And guys take about 12 months.
Anyone who "falls" hard and fast .. get away as soon as you can. Unless you enjoy relationships that become painful.