Two things here - One, an awful of of porn is crude, gross and humiliating> I've always bee horny guy, but, till porn began to become more artful and showed sensitivity in sex, it was only slightly better than nothing. Even what is called Por for Women is often the male stuff on a different site.
As far as innocence goes, I was "too slow" for one girl and "too fast" for.another I knew just after. If a male guy is truly interested in a girl/woman as a person, inocence can be truly endearing as can a degree of aggressiveness. I found my first real girl friend moving too fast, but went along with it as I wanted to be with her. It was all to much of a rush and the sex was really not good and the feelings afterword were hollow. Sex with the right peerson brings you to another plane of existence - for a while!
It's the person that is either attractive, or not. Innocence is really very secondary. My wife had been married to her first husband. I met her a year after he left her. She was still more innocent than many HS girls. I found that attractive, because it mean that she takes sex seriously and, once we were exclusive and committed I could relay on her totally and she me. We've been together 35 years and it still feels far better to me than being by myself (which I prefer to being with most people!). Be yourself. That's the most attractive thing of all when it matters most!