Is this a polite way to reject someone?

A friend/acquaintance asked me out on Valentine’s Day.

I’m planning on telling him this

“You’re a really nice guy but I’m just not looking to get into a relationship right now.”

I’d still like to be friends with him but I’d tell him I’d understand if it would be too weird for him.

We’re both 17, he’s okay, social but not too loud. Has already been in a relationship but it ended in drama and I’m allergic to drama. I consider myself borderline apathetic so honestly idk why he thought I was attractive or “cute”?? (Like, I’m not a cat), all I do is nod, fake laugh and respond to his questions which seems pretty horribly boring to me.

My friends are all losers and have never been asked out before (I hadn’t either so I’m new to this) and their advice was half assed so yeah.

I’d also like to know how you (yes, you) would rather get rejected.

Ok thanks bye


Ok so he said “think you could give me a chance?” And I’m still not sure what he exactly meant by that. Should I ask him to specify of would that be dumb?

6 Answers

  • LG
    Lv 7
    3 years ago
    Favourite answer

    What does "a chance" mean? One date? Two dates? Sleep with him? Marry him and have his children to really see his true beauty? You talked to him. That was his chance.

    If you think he's the stalker type then I guess you have to lie a bit and let him down as easy as possible. Or become like Jello and absorb all his energy, not giving any back, until he tire's and gives up. Otherwise, be as direct as possible. "Sorry but I'm just not interested in you" If he asks why you can simply reply that you're entitled to like whomever you want and you DON'T owe him an explanation. Normally I would not recommend being so blunt. But it sounds like he's the type that doesn't take a hint very well.

  • Anonymous
    3 years ago

    just give him the old "i just wanna' be friends" line chicks always give to the nice guys, while they're busy banging the "bad boys."

  • Anonymous
    3 years ago

    Sounds 📣🤣 fine to me, I don't see why someone would ask you out on a day that has just passed though 😕

    If a girl were to reject me, I'd prefer she be out with it, no beating around the bush!

    Source(s): Mystery
  • 3 years ago

    What you said in quotes would be Exactly the right thing to tell him IF he wanted a relationship and you didn't.

    It is Not a good way to refuse a simple date, which may be all he really wants right now.

    The past is not always the best indicator of the future,

    so don't let that "drama" interfere with what might otherwise turn out OK.

    Give him at least one chance.

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  • Meow
    Lv 7
    3 years ago

    "You’re a really nice guy but I’m just not looking to get into a relationship right now. I wish you well."

  • 3 years ago

    You're answer is a polite one that lets the person down in a kind way. (You're smart to stay away from drama.)

    May I suggest that the first question to ask yourself when considering whether or not to date someone is, “Is this person a strong person?” If they’re not, no matter how much you like them, how much they like you, or how “cute” or “hot” they are, - please don’t date them. A strong person has good character (honesty, integrity, trustworthiness), displays a positive attitude (cheerful, caring, friendly, forgiving, helpful, and respectful), fulfills their responsibilities (for handling pains in a positive way, for always trying to make a good choice, for taking care of themselves, for serving others), gives their best effort, and demonstrates self-control (of their body, anger, mouth and money).

    My suggestion is that you put in the effort necessary to become a strong person (if you’re not already) and eventually look for this type of guy (otherwise you are setting yourself up for a broken heart). Unfortunately this type of man is difficult to find – but save yourself the heartache and don’t settle for less.

    (Please remember that you eventually want a 50 or 60 year marriage - not a 5 or 10 year marriage.)

    Hope this helps!

    PS The best way to get to know a strong man without dating is to participate in the activities of a community service or a school organization.

    Source(s): True Love Lasts - written with a character emphasis for teens through young adults, Straight Talk About Teen Dating - written with a Christian emphasis for ages 13-19, Straight Talk About Dating - written with a Christian emphasis for ages 20 and up
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