Sounds like you're talking about narcissistic personality types.I grew up in a fairly narcissistic family so I inherited a good number of traits of that personality type.But I'm also capable of a lot of empathy which true narcissists supposedly have a very hard time with. So I guess it's all relative. But I'm definitely there on the narcissistic spectrum somewhere. Have i used people? Yes. Have I been used? Yes. In fact I've probably been used more than I've used others. Again, it's all relative everything is along a spectrum or a scale. I'm there somewhere. Along with everybody else who's there somewhere. I also care a lot about my son, even though I've been a pretty bad father because of my narcissistic upbringing which makes me think of myself more than I should. But I still love my son, even though my personality has surely been difficult , even painful for him to deal with often. Anyway, for such a simple question, it's actually a fairly complicated one to answer.