My boyfriend doesn't have time for me. What should I do?

My boyfriend and I have been together for a year now. But lately he's been so busy that he doesn't have time for me. It's gotten to the point where he can't tell his mom that he's with me, he has to lie and say he's somewhere else to please her. We used to text all the time but now he hardly texts me at all. He makes up strange excuses like "I can't text you because my mom is home" because apparently she's an overbearing, psychotic tyrant. He's still completely invested in the relationship and isn't pulling away from me. If we can't hang out, it's really his mom's fault. I feel like breaking up with him would give me the opposite of what I want. We're in a really bad place and I don't know what to do. I feel hopeless about our relationship. I love him and I don't want to end it with him. Please help.

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  • Mauve
    Lv 5
    8 years ago
    Favourite answer

    Is he busy or is it his mom? Is she really so overbearing he can't even send you a text? And you've never met the woman? A year into your relationship? Maybe it's time you sort that out. If he can't be straight up with you about it he might be making excuses for something else that's going on. I'd be a little paranoid about that if I was you.

    You can give him an ultimatum to say he doesn't have to ditch his mom, but giving you no attention makes it not much of a relationship on his part does it? Keep yourself busy with other interests that make you happy. Maybe you can tell him one day you have no time to text him.

  • 8 years ago

    Right now his mom clearly has more control over him than you do. To make that change is up to him, not you; all you can do is tell him exactly what you've said here. If he really wants to be with you, he'll make time for you; if he doesn't, then his mom won and you should move on.

    (There is also a possibility he's using "My mom's making me too busy" as an excuse to try to push you away without having the ba**s to tell you himself).

  • Jay R
    Lv 7
    8 years ago

    You both sound quite young. This is the reason that you can't have a comfortable relationship. Time will fix your problem, but don't put it all on the mother. You bf's relationship with her needs improving.

  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    Dump him. Im sorry your a girl, girls need to be appreciated, they need to feel like princesses not a slab of meat rotting in the f-cking sun.

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