Your husband is a 'follower' and unless you two sit down and discuss the boundaries that you feel your relationship requires, and you both want and are willing to accept and execute them, you will continue to have these issues. as for the friend, talk to him directly and inform him that hs behavior is not appreciated, and if he does not want to alter his program when he is with your husband, then he should not be around him during those 'events'. personally,I don't see anything wrong with a strip club or lap dances...but that is just me. if your husband was uncomfortable enough, he should have declined and if necessary, gotten up and left. It sounds as though he would jump off a cliff if this other guy told him it was a good idea. Talk to your husband, tell his friend where the bear sh1ts in the woods, and go from there. Best wishes.
· 8 years ago