I don't believe he is a good friend. If he was, he would stop touching you when you said so and he would apologize for making you uncomfortable. I think he's not worth keeping as a friend. Friends are there to make you comfortable, feel better, and look after you. This friend is not looking after you and looking out for you like friends should. Did you know you could report him to the police and he could be charged with sexual assault? It is totally inappropriate for a 'friend' to be touching you like that. I know it's hard to understand because if 'he' were a 'she' it probably would be considered ok, girls feel each other up all the time. My bestie pinches my butt and my school guidance Councilor told me it was totally normal and ok as long as I felt comfortable. But if it's a guy, he is obviously either; is very sick and wants to hurt you, likes you very much more than a friend and isn't sure how to show it any other way, or is taking advantage of you because you're there and you're a girl. I definitely think confrontation may be good. Ask him why he does this. If you're worried about his reaction, maybe bring a friend but don't go with your whole gang of friends, that might make HIM afraid. But if confrontation doesn't sit too well with you, then you shouldn't stay friends. But if you really want to stay friends and don't want confrontation you could try telling him if he doesn't stop you won't be friends. But just remember whatever you do, it's your body and he has no right to be doing that to you without your permission. If it gets too much, you could report him to your school, or to the police or even your parents or a sibling. Don't let him or ANYONE else take advantage of you like that. You ARE NOT a source of entertainment for every ****** who feels like it. I think you should not be friends, he's not a very good one, in my opinion, and I think if you really, really want to stay friends, try something I or someone else advises you or something you come up with. But only if the friendship is worth saving. And if you do try to save it, one; I admire you because I would destroy the friendship beyond recognition and shove it back in their face, two; you are one hell of a caring friend and, three; he must be one hell of a good friend (when he ain't feeling you up, that is).
My School Guidance Councilor/Student Mentor
· 9 years ago