what age to tell a child on the spectrum the truth about santa?
i have an 11 year old who has aspergers and a 2 year old who is not on the spectrum. We want to tell my older son the truth but we are afraid he will tell other younger children, and ruin it for them. My 2 year old finding out is not a big deal, as he is to young to remember but other children are. any recommendations?
- BumbleLv 61 decade agoFavourite answer
You say that you are afraid to tell your children the truth ....
but the real question here is what do you consider to be the truth?
The one thing I will never understand is why we as parents would
perpetuate the existence of Santa Claus only to "break the truth"
to them that he never was real ...
But what exactly is the truth? The truth is that Santa Claus is real -
Saint Nicholas, the patron saint of children was just as real as you
and I - it was his gift of kindness that grew and spread throughout
the world which made him larger than life and it was his love of
the children that has remained to this day - in many forms throughout
all the world it was that gift that had taken hold and has breathed life
into him and has made him whole..
Santa Claus lives
Although you may not see him in the flesh he will always be there -
and that gift of love will be passed on to your children's children just
like your parents passed it on to you ... and Santa will live once again
Santa is more than just a myth - more than an image
Santa is a representation of what the true meaning of Christmas is all
Santa is about the children
Santa is about one man's wish that the birth of one child should be
celebrated not just for that one child but for all children - and it is
that legacy that lives on to this day
A legacy of love
I understand that it is a sign of "growing up" to want to put away all
of the things that we once cherished when we were younger...
boys will put away their Transformers and little girls will put away their
and it is this reason that there are those that would say that Santa
doesn't exist - to feel grown up
but he will always be there
The irony of the situation that those who say that there is no Santa
will one day have children of their own -- and Santa will be there to
make his rounds for them
and their children will all share in this love
A special kind of love that is given from loving parents to their child
Santa is alive and well
Santa will outlive us all
and I could not be anymore
because I would not want
to live in a world where
there is no Santa
a world without a Santa Claus
is a world without love
and that is what Christmas is
The truth is this ...
Santa Claus is love
and that love is real
In time, your children will understand
- KitLv 51 decade ago
I also have AS and when I first learned the truth at age nine, mom told me to not tell my brothers and other kids at school because it would upset them to hear he isn't real. I didn't want them to be upset so I didn't tell them.
- 1 decade ago
why tell him at all?
kids eventually figure it out as they get older