Husband goes clubbing?
Lately he has been going to dance clubs though and this is making me upset. He says I should trust him. But when he didn't come home from work one night I went to the club that's near our house (only one in town) and I walked in to see him dancing with some girl. Her back was to him and his arms were around her. It looked like she was rubbing on him and he seemed to certainly be enjoying it. I grabbed him from behind and asked him who the hell she was and what the hell was he doing. Then I just got so mad I walked out. He claimed she was drunk and was a friend of the group he was with there and she grabbed him to go dancing and that he didn't have his arms around her - she was grabbing his arms. My response to that was, "I'm sorry is your excuse that the 120 pound little girl FORCED you to dance?????"
He asked me to forgive him but I wanted a fight. we got into it and he told me to just leave and that it wasn't going to work out because I EMBARASSED HIM IN FRONT OF THE PEOPLE FROM THE SMALL TOWN HE WORKS IN and that he can't show his face there anymore. I mean, he's more concerned about the people in town and being embarassed I called him out infront of them than hurting me!!!!!!
Then after we calmed down (well he calmed down I am still pretty PO'd), he called me and said that a husband shouldn't have acted that way and he understands why I'm mad.
I don't have reason to suspect he's cheating. I do have facts that show he's crossing the line though - for example the above. Another is that he went to a strip club. Another is the town tramp was texting him (but I will give him credit becuase he told her to leave him alone). He does tell women when they hit on him that he's married and he won't cheat, but then he goes and does THIS!!!!!
Uhh...I can't even stand him right now and when it's quiet all I can do is picture him dancing with her in that way. I am totally furious and I don't know how to/if I can get over this and he seems to want a "personal life" and thinks I'm too clingy because I check up on him. I check up on him because he pulls this crap!!!!!!
I want to make it work but it can't go on like this and I don't know how to get the image out of my head.
Also I have been married for 10 years so don't presume to tell me how to react in this situation.
Since this happened like a day ago, I say I still have a right to be pissed. I think it speaks a lot to your values that you wouldn't be.
Thank you everyone for your advice.