What is your definition of the word love?
Please be as descriptive as you can...
- 1 decade agoFavourite answer
OK... You want me to be as descriptive as I can? Well...You asked for it!
Firstly... I don't actually have a definition of what "love" is, but I found a good recipe for love... And it is as sweet as your pastries!
Please share this recipe with others!
"How To Fall in Love"
It is true we live in hectic, trying, scary, stressful times. It is not surprising that it is ok or common to speak of violence and the economy and a host of fearsome things CNN will draw your attention to: things that try your compassion and make you wonder at humanity and lack thereof. People will talk comfortably of sexual issues as they do of violence and tragic events but to mention things like love and romance? They scoff; they snicker. They twitch in discomfort. At best, it is seen as silly fiction. At worst, a lightweight new age soul search and yet..... At any rate, here is my own user's guide to love in the millennium.
To fall in love, you must put away everything you have learned up to now. You must put away pride, wisdom, street smarts, and sophistication. You may keep dignity, patience, instinct and an open spirit. Relax your body, unclench your hands and open your palms. Look up to the stars and let snowflakes fall on your face without intercepting them.
First, you must find someone or let them find you. In fact, it is better if they find you and you find them but this is only possible if you both walk backwards and into each other. But you must start unaware and without expectations. If you are waiting and ready, you will not fall in love. You might find romance but you will not fall in love.
The next thing you must do is to think of yourself as a house with all the doors and windows open. The other person will appear as sunshine that sneaks its way in and sends unexpected warmth upon you. You will bask in this delight. But then, it will change. That sunshine will become alternately rain and wind and cool breezes, and topsy-turvy gusts that upset your furniture and send your pictures on the walls all askew. You will want so very much to close the windows and slam the doors and slap your hands together in that brisk motion that says, 'enough of this nonsense'. You might feel fearful and cover up the fear with the most wicked of all tonics: rationalization.
You might be so good at this that the rationalizations of things that are really a blessing and a gift, will seem as the truth. In fact, the opposite is so. The rationalizations are the lies - the truth will seem, well, unseemly. But no matter - if you go this route and forget this counsel, there is little to be done.
You will protest the weather and shut it out and forget that in minutes, days, hours - that same annoying wind of fearsome gusts can turn back into that sunshine that first warmed and beguiled you. But I urge you to become a student of the weather and simply watch it unfold. Welcome the rain and wind, knowing it will not harm you and besides, will soon pass. If you can manage to keep the door open, the rain will dry up and the winds will settle. You can look out again and see those rays which first caught you. You might marvel how it all changes while you have sat still.
If you can sit still.
Then there comes a hard part. You will relax and get used to the changing weather. You will learn to take to the wind and rain and not notice as much. Instead, happily, you will focus on that sun. That sun will become glorious. It will become larger than your own open house. And just when you get to that point and are reveling in this light, a big cloud will come. This cloud might stay and obliterate that sun which you have grown to love so well. It will stay so long until you know this is not a change in the weather. It is indeed, the new landscape and a painful reality of the heart.
At first, you will hope the sun will return but as the days turn into borderless chunks of time, you will know that is unlikely.
Now this is odd - because clearly, this is not simply weather changes but a permanent state of affairs but still, you will have that same urge to shut the windows and close the door. Now, there is no rain, snow, or wind to make you do that but still - you will want to take a hammer and nails and hammer down shut every crevice that sun or any light might creep through.
You might even close the shutters around your heart. I urge you not to.
If you are telling the truth about wanting to fall in love, this is how it is done:
Take the glow from your own heart and your own truth. Set it in each window sill. Make candles of your faith. Take the glitter from that plant called hope and the twinkle from the dreams you cannot give up. Adorn your home with these things. In time, you will not miss that sunshine you grew to love. The light will go from inside, from your own heart, to the outside. You will not need those flippant rays you first experienced and learned to rely on. That warmth that starts from within and stays.
One day, you might even look out again - because after all, you are still, in your heart of hearts, a student of weather. You might see another home - similarly lit. That might be an indication of another full, strong, open house - the only possible match for your own abode. It might be a place worth visiting. It might be a place to go to.
They say falling in love is wonderful. It is. But at first it will be scary and it might not always work out. You might only taste romance which, as lovely as it is, is simply love's residue. To fall in love you have to be smart but naive. Hope against hope. Hold your heart high, proud, but unfettered. Celebrate its scars. Cry until you do not know what to do anymore. Sleep. Dream. Wait and be ready. There is always more weather. There is more sun. Put the hammer and nails away. Turn your palms open and upwards.
And that is how you fall in love!
- Anonymous1 decade ago
love is many things; it is that feeling that causes your eyes to light up when they walk in a room or call you or when you see an email from them..that last thought as you're falling asleep and the first thought the moment you awake..the one that brings a smile to your mouth even though you've not opened your eyes yet...it's knowing the world is not right when things are not right with this person. It's the huge relief you feel when you find out they're ok. That's just the beginning of it though (of course I skipped over that whole chemical I have to have you NOW part...we are all familiar with that =) ...but then it's a verb..it is the things you do everyday, it's honestly something you have to actively tend...because once it's gone..the absence of love is like this huge void (that was never there before love). Wow, I think I need some food..this knitting stuff has gotten to my brain , lol. =)
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Well, I wait until the time is right since I've always heard when it comes to Love you have to be patient. Then, I turn down the lights, turn down the volume on the T.V, then I hold on with both hands and start with a very gentle teasing lick. After that I hurry up because while I might love an ice cream cone ,it does melt rather fast.
- JoanneLv 44 years ago
Love describes someone you would die for, so they had another day on the plant at your expense. There are only 3 people walking the earth I would do this for...my wife and kids. Note: To many people today throw the word around like a punchline in a joke.
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- Paul MLv 51 decade ago
My definition of the word 'love' is that it is a word that only has meaning when in a given situation it is beyond definition.
Mazzy dear no pressure but if 'dream brother'
Does not get best answer I am gone from P/S forever
- Matt DLv 41 decade ago
Love is the thing that allows you to see the light in another human being... it inspires you to be a better person for the one that you love .... the birds sing sweeter , the stars shine brighter, and the beauty of the world around you becomes more evident ... true love is always greater than self love.Source(s): life, love and my heart
- TokvonLv 71 decade ago
The WORD love inspires new meanings other than generics
Love:#1 soul mates bound and shackled in restraints to one another during fires of passion, lust, sex, desire
Love:#2 soul mates whom dance to their own tunes together as one soul incarnate
Love:#3 soul mates that journey to the center of they minds as one
Love:#4 soul mates that share confusion, chaos and disorder
Love:#5 soul mates that if or when they have reached the end of their rainbow find that they are no longer compatlbe ( *not soul mates no more lol ) introduce themselves to others as, "meet my future ex"
Love:#6 soul mates that kiss and make up via new categories of loveplay (* kama sutra comes in handy at this point lol )
Love:#7 and last but not least (* lost me train of thought..happens lol ) soul mates that after deciding they never want to grow old together, hold hands and jump off a cliff together (* Ireland ) singing this song..well at least a portion of the song
- Kade Supernova™Lv 71 decade ago
That stuff that keeps couples together, makes people feel obligated to buy expensive presents before they are married and then not see a thing until their birthday once married, and what all those songs sing about on the radio.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
The love a parent has for a child. It stands the test of time, because it's unconditional.
I think that's the only true love in this world. xo
- Pawan JLv 41 decade ago
It's little tough but still--
Thinking about someone else (positively) regularly,
Day in n day out u'll found ur self busy, busy in thinking about her/him,
Wishing her /her around u all the time.
Just imagine all day & night (in her absence) that how she'll react in the current situation.
In short ADDICTION.