Grow up! What are you twelve years old? People often want what they can't have. If you are bored with your life, either you are boring, or you have given up on your marriage, then you need to make some hard decisions. For instance, what is it about the ex you miss? Is it the way he made you feel about yourself? If this is it, then work on yourself, try to attain what you had then. Like where you in better shape then? Did you have less stress in your life? Make steps to alter your perceptions. Fix you! Now, Is it your husband just doesn't do it for you anymore, in or outside the bedroom, either one? Then it is up to you to talk with him, tell him what you want. Try something new. Pick something you always wanted to do together, but were a little scared to do, then do it. Fix him! Don't forget, he is your EX for a reason!!