Am I the control freak? ?

Hi - 52 years old male. Nice girlfriend, very nice. At the weekend she went to a leaving party for a friend at work. A colleague she planned to go with let her down. As she was nervous I offered to escort her. She said no. I asked if the people knew about me. She said no. I was surprised and a bit hurt but mostly... show more Hi - 52 years old male. Nice girlfriend, very nice. At the weekend she went to a leaving party for a friend at work. A colleague she planned to go with let her down. As she was nervous I offered to escort her. She said no. I asked if the people knew about me. She said no. I was surprised and a bit hurt but mostly confused. 2 years into a relationship would make me feel that I should be visible. This is an ongoing angst. Not a jealousy issue but it spooks me that a partner can be selective about who knows I exist. Makes me feel that she may be a little ashamed of me in front of her colleagues (and I'm no caveman) or that she does not understand that I need an identity within her life? I'm beginning to think that I may be some kind of control nut. But my mind keeps saying that my expectations are not abnormal. Advice gratefully received.
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