It all depends, it sounds like your divorce was pretty recent. And since you don't feel that comfortable yet, I would suggest taking some time to concentrate in yourself.
I was separated for a year before I got divorced. Right after I separated, I started exercising and lost about 60lbs. Then I felt so good and looked better than ever!, I finally dedicated so much needed time to myself, not only exercising but doing all the things I loved, whenever I felt like it (Reading, shopping, traveling, partying etc.). So I started to have "FUN" with new guys after that. They just fell out of the blue, and I had so many options!
If you dedicate time to yourself until you feel comfortable, things will just happen. You don't actually have to make a conscious decision to date. Hang out with your friends and family, enroll in a gym, take a course in something you enjoy or had ever wanted to learn but never had time, I guarantee you doing these things will not only make you feel better about yourself, but at the same time offer opportunities to get out there and meet people with your same interest... but ..do give yourself some time, or you will end up making wrong choices.. GOOD LUCK .
LIFE, (was married for 13 years, dated for 2, long term relationship 2yrs and counting)
· 1 decade ago