What age is best to tell a child the truth about Santa?

My daughter is 10 who still really believes in Santa and I feel I should tell her but I also have a 3 year old son and I don't want her to ruin it for him because he is just realizing about Santa.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    I was 10 when my father told me about santa, however.. it being so close to christmas, why dont you just wait until a week or so after christmas and before she goes back to school and then tell her the truth. 10 is a great age and truly you don't really want her to believe any longer then this, she will be going to middle school soon and how many middle schoolers do you know believe in santa? just explain to her that she must realize that as much as believing in santa meant to her, she needs to understand how important it is to keep up the spirit and secret for her younger brother in the years to come until like her, he is old enough to be told the truth. 10 is a perfect age. good luck. = )

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  • 1 decade ago

    I think most kids just end up figuring it all out. They hear other little kids at school, thats how i found out the truth. As for when the 10 year old does find out, tell her not to let the 3 year old know. Maybe you can take the 10 year old with you to pick out gifts from santa for the younger child. Include her in it, and maybe suprise her with a gift from "santa" even after she knows the truth. Good luck....im glad im a few years off from having to worry about what to tell my kids and when, they are only 2!

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  • ARTmom
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    1 decade ago

    My son was 5 yrs older than my daughter- he became part of the "secret" in keeping up the tradition and really liked that after he was old enough to figure that (in our home) Santa represents certain things and the idea of him is real but he is based on a story and person a long time ago...he helped with Christmas presents and stories and loved doing it- I think he was 10-11 yrs like your older child. That way the younger sister got her childhood time kept and enjoyed....

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  • 1 decade ago

    My 7 year old just found recently about Santa thanks to an "Everybody Loves Raymond" episode. (She asked so I was honest) but I also told her about the real St. Nicholas and how he gave secret presents and that as parents we are "pretending to be Santa" in honor of the idea of giving. Now she thinks she's big stuff because she's helping out with the little ones. I also teach 6th grade and it sucks when a kid finds out at school because they go crying to the teacher and I don't know how the parents expect me to respond, plus they get a little teased. I'd tell her after this Christmas if you think she's ready.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Well, I would not go and bust her bubble so close to Christmas! Just kidding, let her help you wrap some of her brothers gifts or fill the stockings, she will catch it on her own. Personally, I did not tell my children about Santa, well not really, they believe Santa to be the spirit of Christmas, the spirit of giving and sharing, not an actual man who lives in the North Pole.

    Source(s): Mother of 6
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  • 1 decade ago

    Wait until she starts asking you questions that tell you she is obviously starting to doubt the whole thing. If you tell her when she still truely believes, it will be really shocking and disappointing. It shouldn't be long now before she starts to realize just how implausible the whole thing really is. At that time you should just explain to her that Santa was real a long time ago and that he still exists in spirit..yada yada yada. And have a little talk with her about keeping the magic alive for younger brother. They can't believe forever, but it's so much more fun for them and for you when they do.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Every kid is different. If you don't mind her still believing in Santa, then don't tell her. It is really fun when they still do. I have a 10yr. old daughter she started figuring it out about 2 or 3 years ago, so we told her. Whatever works for you.

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  • 1 decade ago

    My aunt always told my cousin that Santa only gives gifts to kids until they are 10. So he doesn't expect anything from Santa anymore. Also by that time kids usually ruin it for other kids at school anyway.

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  • 1 decade ago

    What's so bad about not believing in Santa? It doesn't make Christmas any less fun when you're a kid. I grew up knowing there was no Santa and I promise Christmas was just as much fun.

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  • 1 decade ago

    No, don't tell your children about Santa. It is great that your children still believe in Santa. Let them find out the truth for themselves. It is way more fun to believe in Santa than not to. :)))

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