Do Marriage and Children, Effect Friendships A Lot?

When people get married and begin having children, do you find that you have less in common with your single, or non-married friends without children? Does marriage automatically mean a time when you and your hubby are supposed to be looking for friends that are couples, and therefore, have more in common with you? I have friends that are now married with children, or that have one without the other, who I rarely talk to anymore. I guess you can't change the fact that people grow apart...but it'd be nice to think that some friendships actually do last forever.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    Yeah, girl i agree. I am 24 single w/ no kids. I would say most of my old childhood friends are all either single moms or married w/ kids and I hardly ever talk to them. I have also found myself making new friends, which like you said I have more in common with. What sucks is that my boyfriend still talks to most of his childhood friends on almost a daily basis. I guess it's more common for women to lose touch w/ their old friends than it is for guys. It almost seems like it's just the way it goes! ):

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  • 1 decade ago

    Yes and for Good Reason, When They Get Married you're Consider Taken off the Dating Scene, When You have Children You don't have Time for a Personal Life, You have to take care of Your Children for over 20 Years of your Life, but they are some Couples who decides Not to have Children hold on to their Friendships and Careers, Its Best to Not get Married and Not have any Children that means You have time to yourself.

    If you don't have a Husband or Children you're Friendships will be Fine, Celibacy is the only to save your Friendships You get Married You'll get angry at your Friends taking your Man, or you have Children you'll get Angry at something they don't know what they're doing Your Friendships will be in Jeopardy.

    Stay Celebant

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  • 1 decade ago

    They do affect things, definitely especially depending on the age of the marraige and children. When the kids are younger it makes life harder in general. Your friends will be your friends always, it doesn't matter if they're married, single, straight, gay or Irish because these things are just labels. Friendship has deeply seeded roots that cross and grow, sometimes in different paths. The only thing good about life is that it's constantly changing, and with it's changes, we change also. Love your friends for what they bring to your life :)

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  • buczek
    Lv 4
    4 years ago

    It seems such as you comprehend what's needed of an grownup, yet you're so preoccupied which includes your life till now which you're feeling you are able to no longer substitute it. i'm sorry you had this variety of undesirable formative years, some parents are not great. yet you're an grownup now and can substitute. you at the instant are not from now on based upon your parents to hold you up. have you ever talked to a counselor? It seems such as you relatively ought to. additionally, attempt getting into church. I had a coarse formative years too and being in touch in church and being a Christian, understanding that God could look after me whilst no person else could grew to become into the only concern that stored me shifting. Now i'm 22, a stay at domicile mom/spouse, and that i've got the excellent husband and maximum attractive a million twelve months old boy. merely considering you had a foul life does no longer propose it can't be stable. do no longer stay on what befell.

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  • 1 decade ago

    I am the only one out of my group of friends who is married and have a child. I love my friends and I love the time I spent with them (even if I only see them a few times a month). But it seems like they are the ones who lost interest in me. They enjoy being single and out scooping; while me, I enjoy spending weekend nights with my son and my guy. I know my friends got sick and tired of me telling them 'no' on outings because of family activities. I have met other married couples thru my son's school and it works out nice. I just miss my old friends. Sometimes I wish they would hurry up and get married and have some kids, because maybe then I'll have more in common with them.

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  • 1 decade ago

    I'd like to think that friendships stand the test of time and marriage. I'm not married but I have a very good relationship and I don't feel good about going out to see people without my partner, as I don't want him to be lonely.

    Unless you seriously dislike the partner of your friend, I don't see why you could not all hang out together.

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  • Jenn
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    Marriage and children completely change people's priority lists. Suddenly their spouse and children come before friends. It can definately cause friends to grow further and further apart. My best friend is now pregnant with twins and I haven't seen her since last March! We're definately not as close as we used to be and we have grown apart, but we'll more than likely always be friends, just not as close as we were in high school.

    J

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  • Bella
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    people without children are less understanding then of people with children. when you have children your personality changes. it always does. you aren't selfish anymore. not everyone lives around your clock. (if you are, maybe you shouldn't be having children) and friendships can last forever in spite of this. if it is a real friendship.

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  • 1 decade ago

    I found it depends on the basis of the friendship in the first place and the activities we did together. We had friends we bowled with who's kids were grown and friends who never had kids we stayed friends with. It will also depend on how much time you have to invest in a friendship as well as their commitment to the friendship.

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  • omvg1
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    I would say it is all about priorities. When you marry and have children your family comes first friends second.

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