• Does this situation sound more like a sugar baby/sugar daddy arrangement than a relationship?

    My 41 year old brother in law started dating a 20 year old back in February, she recently turned 21. They work together part time as she works as a waitress and he is the restaurant manager. Their co workers know they have something going on and that's no secret. He recently took her on a trip to Costa Rica,... show more
    My 41 year old brother in law started dating a 20 year old back in February, she recently turned 21. They work together part time as she works as a waitress and he is the restaurant manager. Their co workers know they have something going on and that's no secret. He recently took her on a trip to Costa Rica, they're there right now and have been there for a week. She has posted photos everyday but only of herself, landscapes, food and drinks. She never puts the location or that she is with my brother in law Kevin despite them being connected on Facebook and having mutual friends and co-workers. She never tags him or even mentions his name. He doesn't leave her any comments and as a matter of fact many young boys her age comment and say she's hot and flirt with her and kevin says nothing. Kevin has never been married and he has no kids so I don't know why he'd care if she shares the photos, knowing him I'd think he'd want people to see them almost as a bragging right that hes vacationing with a 21 year old who looks hot in a bikini. 2 weeks before they went on the vacation she was complaining about how much she hates people and how much her life sucks and now here they are in a tropical paradise and neither one is revealing they are with the other. Should I be concerned for him? Who do you think is the victim here? Is she being used for her body or him for his money? He's very attractive and looks 30, i cant imagine she'd be embarassed to show him off either
    18 answers · 2 days ago
  • How old were you when you lost your virginity?

    Best answer: I was 19. I'd been on my own for two years guarding myself fairly well.. quite a feat for a young girl out in the world without a safety net but I managed it. I wasn't interested in pretend love or little horny boys or creeps.. A mutual friend introduced me to a lovely adult man, 12 years my senior, well... show more
    Best answer: I was 19. I'd been on my own for two years guarding myself fairly well.. quite a feat for a young girl out in the world without a safety net but I managed it. I wasn't interested in pretend love or little horny boys or creeps.. A mutual friend introduced me to a lovely adult man, 12 years my senior, well respected in his community, who became my first lover and he was an excellent choice. We remained a couple for about a year and were very good to each other.
    12 answers · 1 day ago
  • What should I do about my dad (read below)?

    Best answer: Why are the contractors expecting to be paid for work that they should have completed on Thursday, but have not completed by EOB Friday? I agree that it is wrong for him to set an expectation, and then not keep it - but it was also wrong for the contractors to set up an expectation (done by EOB Thursday) and then... show more
    Best answer: Why are the contractors expecting to be paid for work that they should have completed on Thursday, but have not completed by EOB Friday?

    I agree that it is wrong for him to set an expectation, and then not keep it - but it was also wrong for the contractors to set up an expectation (done by EOB Thursday) and then not keep it (still not done by EOB Friday)


    But two wrongs do not make a right.

    There were much better ways to deal with this. you need to talk to your dad and say that you understand why he did this, he is just returning the behavior that he is getting, but point out to him that there were batter ways o deal with this, that he needs to keep his contractors reasonably happy.


    As for the firing of the employee - he is firing someone for telling the truth. It is an inconvenient truth, but the truth never the less.


    Ask him if he would like to be put in that position? If he did not want the chance that this employee would "rat" on him (not to the contractors, just to his family!) then he should not have involved him in this lie.


    The problem here is that until he sees that he handles the contractor situation badly, he will not understand the dilemma he put his employee under, and until he understand that dilemma he can not empathize with the employee.


    So you need to work on getting him to understand that the bad behavior of the contractors does not justify his bad behavior. You have seen enough of the "reasoning" here to be able to recognize the different fallacies in his excuses, and know how to counter them. Just as long as you can keep it calm and try to not let it get adversarial.


    Once you have that, they you can work on getting him to understand the bad position he put himself in, and the huge dilemma e put his employee in.


    Once he sees that you need to make it clear that he needs to apologize to the employee, and offer to rehire them. Hopefully this behavior is sufficiently far from the normal that they will want to come back.
    14 answers · 2 days ago
  • How do I help my boyfriend get through the death of his wife and child?

    His wife and daughter died in a wreck 20 years ago. He still struggles with it everyday. To the point where he left one Friday and I did not hear from him for two days. He lied about where he was and what he was doing and after almost a week he finally told me the truth. It was Thier anniversary and he went to the... show more
    His wife and daughter died in a wreck 20 years ago. He still struggles with it everyday. To the point where he left one Friday and I did not hear from him for two days. He lied about where he was and what he was doing and after almost a week he finally told me the truth. It was Thier anniversary and he went to the spot he proposed and Thier grave and fished in between. I was so worried about him. I don’t know if something bad had happened. He lied and said he was offshore fishing. I knew he was lying and I already thought it had something to do with them. When he finally came home after 5 days and the truth...I didn’t complain. I was glad he came back and was ok. I listened and hugged him. It’s been two weeks since he disappeared. I was mad because I didn’t know where he was and if he was ok. I told him not to be ashamed and never forget them. Since then things have been rocky. He left again last night and didn’t come back. Won’t answer anyones calls or text.he keeps saying he wants to be here but I won’t stop reminding him of his lie. Which reminds him of the whole weekend. What I’m trying to figure out is what am I suppose to do or say? Nothing? Just let him come and go as he pleases because of why? It does not seem fair to me to wonder where he is. And I don’t think he should put me in that spot no matter where he is still going through. Am I wrong? I ask myself is he using this to go do whatever. I would hope not. But here I sit. Alone. Again.
    12 answers · 2 days ago
  • Will he accept my apology?

    Best answer: Why did you decide that he wants to have sex with you in the first place? Acting so aggressive and pushy is not the right strategy and doesn't say "Hey I'm into you", It sounds more like "Sex, now! Do your biological job!". He won't have sex with you not because of the way you look,... show more
    Best answer: Why did you decide that he wants to have sex with you in the first place? Acting so aggressive and pushy is not the right strategy and doesn't say "Hey I'm into you", It sounds more like "Sex, now! Do your biological job!". He won't have sex with you not because of the way you look, but because of the way you acted. It is not about skin colour or race. For what it is worth I think that you have a problem with that, not the instructor. Next time try to be more gentle and don't make nasty racist or body shaming comments if you got rejected. Everybody has the right to say NO regardless of their gender.
    13 answers · 3 days ago
  • What do I have to do.no way out of this situation?

    What do I have to do.no way out of this situation?

    what to do my mom washed the pans and everything in the kitchen with steel wool and now everything sticks and burns underneath. but I try too much so it doesn't burn but still sticks . and I can use oil my dad doesn't let me .also if I add oil it doesn't help. and my brother says Teflon give you cancer.... show more
    what to do my mom washed the pans and everything in the kitchen with steel wool and now everything sticks and burns underneath. but I try too much so it doesn't burn but still sticks . and I can use oil my dad doesn't let me .also if I add oil it doesn't help. and my brother says Teflon give you cancer. so what to do eat food burnt from underneath or add Teflon to them? what do I do? I told my mom she said very well that I washed away the Teflon (none stick) it gives you cancer. also, they say if food burns it will give you cancer. and if I use other than oil my dad will annoy me and also no lubricant help without Teflon. also if I use high heat it will smell bad burn food horribly this time. also if I use and not burn it will stick and my mom says hay I washed that stuck food like she is proud.here is the picture of that **** she uses to ruin them pans and everything.
    10 answers · 2 days ago
  • Would you be in a relationship with someone who works 10-13 hours each day and could be on call or work weekends?

    Say if someone work from 6.30 am to 6.30pm would you be OK with that or get fed up
    Say if someone work from 6.30 am to 6.30pm would you be OK with that or get fed up
    6 answers · 7 hours ago
  • Why is this girl taking a picture of me?

    I’m working out at the gym doing my own thing and for some chance I caught a girl on the other room trying taking a picture of me what she didn’t realize the flash was on so I knew she took a photo. What’s the deal with her?
    I’m working out at the gym doing my own thing and for some chance I caught a girl on the other room trying taking a picture of me what she didn’t realize the flash was on so I knew she took a photo. What’s the deal with her?
    4 answers · 9 hours ago
  • What are you known for in your family ?

    I am known for throwing elaborate dinner parties especially around fall.
    I am known for throwing elaborate dinner parties especially around fall.
    24 answers · 6 days ago
  • Anyone stayed with someone who was wrong for them because they were literally the only person they have In their life ?

    Just wondering how it ended . I just keep thinking if I leave I go back to that feeling that if I got in a car accident no one would even know I was gone . Jane doe . He’s emotional abusive even so much he got Me fired, threatens to kill me etc. why can’t I just have one friend or family to get away from this
    Just wondering how it ended . I just keep thinking if I leave I go back to that feeling that if I got in a car accident no one would even know I was gone . Jane doe . He’s emotional abusive even so much he got Me fired, threatens to kill me etc. why can’t I just have one friend or family to get away from this
    7 answers · 2 days ago
  • Extremely sad song recommendations for breakup?

    So I just want some songs to cry my eyes out for. I'm just in that depressed mood you know? The more depressing the better! Thanks!
    So I just want some songs to cry my eyes out for. I'm just in that depressed mood you know? The more depressing the better! Thanks!
    8 answers · 3 days ago
  • Should I break up with him?

    Best answer: It sounds from what you have put that he is stringing you along so you have to ask yourself if this is what you want. Whilst marriage is not everything these days, if someone proposes to you without a ring they were either drunk at the time or were just seeing what you would say. Sorry to say this but id challenge... show more
    Best answer: It sounds from what you have put that he is stringing you along so you have to ask yourself if this is what you want.
    Whilst marriage is not everything these days, if someone proposes to you without a ring they were either drunk at the time or were just seeing what you would say.
    Sorry to say this but id challenge this man and see why he wont make it official and go from there. Do it in a tactful way so as not to cause an argument but try to get it addressed for your own minds sake.
    6 answers · 2 days ago
  • What are the favorite drugs of the Trump family?

    Best answer: It’s a good point you make. The amphetamine diet pills that he has been on for years are known to cause brain damage. That and his family history of Alzheimer’s explains a lot of his current dementia symptoms, like the lack of focus and inability to stay “on point”, perseveration, etc
    Best answer: It’s a good point you make. The amphetamine diet pills that he has been on for years are known to cause brain damage. That and his family history of Alzheimer’s explains a lot of his current dementia symptoms, like the lack of focus and inability to stay “on point”, perseveration, etc
    13 answers · 5 days ago
  • What makes a man feel loved?

    My bf mentioned he doesn't get that lovey feeling from me sometimes and I want to find new ways to express love to him. What are little things your gf/wife does that makes you feel loved and important? Small insignificant things and bigger things too
    My bf mentioned he doesn't get that lovey feeling from me sometimes and I want to find new ways to express love to him. What are little things your gf/wife does that makes you feel loved and important? Small insignificant things and bigger things too
    6 answers · 2 days ago
  • How can I tell my fiance's friend's fiance she insulted me just to get a sale, without coming off as if I don't want to talk to her anymore?

    I've known this group for 11 years. Both me and my fiance have tried talking to this girl multiple times throughout. If it's not interesting topics, like celeb stuff, she walks away. Her & her future husband are normally use to being the leader of the group. Since we've moved 5 yrs ago, the group... show more
    I've known this group for 11 years. Both me and my fiance have tried talking to this girl multiple times throughout. If it's not interesting topics, like celeb stuff, she walks away. Her & her future husband are normally use to being the leader of the group. Since we've moved 5 yrs ago, the group hasn't talked as they normally would have...except ever since the couple took this seminar. They've only been talking to all us again because of the program, despite my prior attempts to reach out. She recently told my fiance how lazy he was and how he needs this $3K+ program because , and her words, "[your] clearly not enough motivation for him." I know I can't get mad because this is coming from a girl who has cheated on her spouse and obviously needs this program. They canceled their wedding a month b4 but still went on their honeymoon & their bachelorette/bachelor parties (wasn't invited or told). For her engagement party, I flew in without a "Hi", "Thanks" or "How've you been?" the whole night. We celebrated the Holidays after our engagement & wanted to celebrate with friends by giving them hand-made gifts while they locked themselves in 2 rooms among 33 people just to do blow. She made out with 2 guys, only admitting it when she was going to get upset that he had a stripper's number in his phone; That doesn't include the 3rd guy when he was studying abroad. She told me my job as a woman was to convince the man to do what is necessary & I'd be the reason for his regret.
    13 answers · 5 days ago
  • Is it normal for my ex-boyfriend to be stalking my Snapchat and Instagram stories? He’s the one who ended things with me.?

    It’s been almost three months since he ended things with me. He didn’t watch anything I posted for a while after we stopped talking, but for the past two months, he has literally watched everything I post. I don’t want to be petty and block him. I’m just curious as to why he still cares what’s going on in my life... show more
    It’s been almost three months since he ended things with me. He didn’t watch anything I posted for a while after we stopped talking, but for the past two months, he has literally watched everything I post. I don’t want to be petty and block him. I’m just curious as to why he still cares what’s going on in my life if he chose to end things with me. He’s also 40 and I feel like that’s a little too old for playing games (I’m in my late 20s). I’m just a little bothered by it.
    5 answers · 1 day ago
  • Boyfriend didn’t stand up for me and his son.?

    Best answer: Your boyfriend is a lousy dad because he put his roommate and a cat ahead of his child. Plus he's narcisstic, which again means he'll always put the child second, third, fourth, or lower, and paranoid, which means he may blame the child for his own fears. There's no way he'd be granted custody. And... show more
    Best answer: Your boyfriend is a lousy dad because he put his roommate and a cat ahead of his child. Plus he's narcisstic, which again means he'll always put the child second, third, fourth, or lower, and paranoid, which means he may blame the child for his own fears. There's no way he'd be granted custody. And you're absolutely right not to allow him to be alone with the child.

    You had every right to ask the roommate to keep his cat out of the room you and your child shared. But I suspect your boyfriend often left the door open, allowing the cat to slip in. He sure didn't care about the damage the cat did.

    Think about all his reactions and you come to this conclusion: Your boyfriend doesn't really care about your or his child. He's most interested in himself first and in his roommate second. You and the child are no more important than third (and maybe not even ranked that high in his life). Consider this your chance at a new life.

    Is your boyfriend even your child's legal father? If he didn't sign the birth certificate, no, he is not and has no legal rights. Did a court order a DNA test and declare him the father? If no, again, he is not your child's legal father and has no legal rights. YOU are the sole legal parent.

    I think he's using the threats of calling ACS and going to court to try and control you. A narcisstic guy doesn't like it when a woman tells him he can't do something. If he really does file a court case, then go to court and tell the judge all about all your experiences with him, including all the times he's been selfish, narcisstic, paranoid, and uncaring about protecting the baby. And get yourself a lawyer to help you.
    13 answers · 6 days ago