• I found out my wife of 16 years, had a one night stand the night before our wedding, all those years earlier?

    I've been married sixteen years. Two kids, nice house, and very financially stable. We have a good sex life, don't fight a lot and spend a lot of quality time together. But I came across an old journal of hers, and while skimming, I came across a journal entry for two days after our wedding, where she was... show more
    I've been married sixteen years. Two kids, nice house, and very financially stable. We have a good sex life, don't fight a lot and spend a lot of quality time together. But I came across an old journal of hers, and while skimming, I came across a journal entry for two days after our wedding, where she was asking god for forgiveness for having a one night stand with the bouncer at the bar where she had her bacherolette party. I have done some digging, and haven't found any signs of her currently cheating or cheating within the last 10 years. I confronted her and she admitted it. I just feel so gutted. If I knew of this back then, I wouldn't have married her. But now I just dont' know if I can forgive this. Cheating was always one of those things I couldn't forgive. But we have 16 years of marriage, and 19 years total together. I can't fathom throwing that away, over something that she regrets, based on a lot of journal entries following our marriage. She is a good mother, wife, and friend now. I'm so conflicted.
    22 answers · 13 hours ago
  • Opened condom wrapper found in my car?

    It turned up today. I don't understand how it got there. It was a Chinese branded Durex wrapper. I photographed the evidence. My marriage has been rocky recently. I questioned my wife and she categorically denied knowing how it got there. She found the whole thing amusing. Claimed her colleague drove the car.... show more
    It turned up today. I don't understand how it got there. It was a Chinese branded Durex wrapper. I photographed the evidence. My marriage has been rocky recently. I questioned my wife and she categorically denied knowing how it got there. She found the whole thing amusing. Claimed her colleague drove the car. Then when I asked for the name of the colleague, she said she couldn't give the name. Said she will call him tomorrow to ask why he left a wrapper in the car and if he was fooling around with the real estate clients. I don't fully believe my wife and think she may have cheated. Do I just blindly trust her or start divorce proceedings? I have a strong opinion of cheating. If she has cheated, then it is already over between us. Is it plausible that her colleague was being dirty?
    20 answers · 17 hours ago
  • What should I make of this response from my husband?

    Best answer: The fact that he clearly is attracted to her, at least a little bit, doesn't make it necessarily the reason he suggested her. If she was previously your sitter, it would only make sense to think of her as a possibility again. That having been said, the fact that your husband, even jokingly, expressed an... show more
    Best answer: The fact that he clearly is attracted to her, at least a little bit, doesn't make it necessarily the reason he suggested her. If she was previously your sitter, it would only make sense to think of her as a possibility again. That having been said, the fact that your husband, even jokingly, expressed an attraction to her may not make her your best choice. No good reason to tempt fate. At least he was honest about it. That's healthy.
    14 answers · 2 days ago
  • Why do widowed/divorce men tend to remarry much quicker and/or much more often than widowed/divorce women?

    I'm not talking about everyone I know a woman who met her second husband in her first husband's funeral. I mean in general it is much more common for men. Also why do men (and women) tend to marry younger after their 1st marriage?
    I'm not talking about everyone I know a woman who met her second husband in her first husband's funeral. I mean in general it is much more common for men. Also why do men (and women) tend to marry younger after their 1st marriage?
    27 answers · 4 days ago
  • Why do married couples sleep together ?

    Best answer: For most people it is very pleasant to share a bed with someone you love. I always enjoyed it.
    Best answer: For most people it is very pleasant to share a bed with someone you love. I always enjoyed it.
    32 answers · 5 days ago
  • Can a women get spoiled by a large penis and never be able to enjoy sex with average sized guys again?

    If her ex had a huge penis, will she be hooked on it since an average sized penis will not be able to stimulate her like the large sized did? Will she cheat to experience it again?
    If her ex had a huge penis, will she be hooked on it since an average sized penis will not be able to stimulate her like the large sized did? Will she cheat to experience it again?
    14 answers · 1 day ago
  • If you walked in on your husband or boyfriend watching porn what would you do?

    Best answer: It would not be pretty because I never will put up with anyone watching porn. It would be the end of lots of things.
    Best answer: It would not be pretty because I never will put up with anyone watching porn. It would be the end of lots of things.
    13 answers · 1 day ago
  • I have cheated on my wife about 75 - 100 times over the 16 years we've been married. Should i come clean and tell her or not?

    Best answer: No, keep doing it. You will never get caught.
    Best answer: No, keep doing it. You will never get caught.
    62 answers · 5 days ago
  • My husband installed a camera in my daughter's bedroom?

    So my husband and I have been married for eight months now, but he didn't officially move in with me until just recently. I also have a teenage daughter from my first marriage who lives with me for most of the year. Up until yesterday, he and my daughter have gotten along great and I really enjoyed having a... show more
    So my husband and I have been married for eight months now, but he didn't officially move in with me until just recently. I also have a teenage daughter from my first marriage who lives with me for most of the year. Up until yesterday, he and my daughter have gotten along great and I really enjoyed having a real family unit again. However last night when my daughter was doing laundry she discovered some kind of recording device with a little camera lens taped under one of the shelving units in her bedroom closet. We have no idea how long it's been there or if it's even functional. We weren't too alarmed at first, but over the course of the night she became increasingly panicked at the thought of somebody watching her in her sleep. I texted my husband (he's currently out of town) and asked him if he knew anything about it. At first he denied knowing anything, but after a couple of hours he called me and admitted that he put it there. He claimed that he only put it there to "keep tabs" on her and that it was "for her own safety". It's true that she was HAS gotten into trouble recently for drinking alcohol, and she DOES have a history of sneaking out. Even if he did put it there for those reasons, this is still way over line, right? I want desperately to believe his reasoning, but I'm starting to suspect that he probably has other motives for putting it there. He won't be home for another two days. How should I handle this until then and what should I do when gets back?
    15 answers · 2 days ago
  • My boyfriend of 2 years left me via text and married his ex wife?

    I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years everything was going well. We were even talking about marriage and he was the one one who brought it up. But last week out of the blue he broke up with me via text message to go back with his ex wife. I found out later that they got married on that same day that he sent me... show more
    I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years everything was going well. We were even talking about marriage and he was the one one who brought it up. But last week out of the blue he broke up with me via text message to go back with his ex wife. I found out later that they got married on that same day that he sent me the brake up text. I am so confused I mean who does that? They were married for 3 years and They have a kid togheter. They were divorced for almost 4 years. She even was married to someone els in the mean time but it didn t work out. I texted him back and wished him all the best and haven t contacted him since. He called but I didnt answer. I don t know what to think or do. I feel so hurt and humiliated. What are your thoughts? I mean what kind of person does that to someone who loves and respects them?
    9 answers · 10 hours ago
  • Is it normal to want sex everyday?

    Best answer: Well, no. If you wanted it every day, all day, you might have a problem.
    Best answer: Well, no. If you wanted it every day, all day, you might have a problem.
    22 answers · 4 days ago
  • Am I in an abusive marriage?

    So we’ve only been married 3 months. I’m wondering if I should try to work this out or leave. I have fibromyalgia. I’ve been with him for two years. He knows my condition. I’m in pain every single day. It takes me a good hour just to feel normal in the morning after I wake up. On the weekends he wants sex the... show more
    So we’ve only been married 3 months. I’m wondering if I should try to work this out or leave. I have fibromyalgia. I’ve been with him for two years. He knows my condition. I’m in pain every single day. It takes me a good hour just to feel normal in the morning after I wake up. On the weekends he wants sex the very moment I open my eyes. I’m very cranky from the pain so I tell him I need to wake up first so I feel better. So I just move around to allow my body to adjust from waking up. He goes to the kitchen to make coffee while I get myself together. Then, I go to hug him in the kitchen and he shrugs me off him. I ask what’s wrong and he says that he’s turned off now because I’m selfish and only want sex when it’s convenient for me. I can’t live like this in such an unaffectionate marriage. He doesn’t want to hear about how I feel. He seemed so understanding before we married. Now he calls me lazy and a quitter. Can this be worked out? Right now my pride is hurt more than anything because I’m too logical to let abuse get to me emotionally. W just see it for what it is. Should I just leave? What should I do?
    45 answers · 6 days ago
  • Have you ever heard of a couple married for 7 years with no children?

    Best answer: I was married for 8 years before we had our first child. Still happily married after 43 years.
    Best answer: I was married for 8 years before we had our first child. Still happily married after 43 years.
    19 answers · 3 days ago