• Is it wrong to do this to my husband?

    Sometimes I slip tablets into my husband's coffee or tea to help stimulate him to have sex with me. Sometimes he's too tired or never aroused We had a dry spell where we would have sex once a month. Now with using the tablets we have sex 3-5 days a week. One of my girlfriend's suggested this and I... show more
    Sometimes I slip tablets into my husband's coffee or tea to help stimulate him to have sex with me. Sometimes he's too tired or never aroused We had a dry spell where we would have sex once a month. Now with using the tablets we have sex 3-5 days a week. One of my girlfriend's suggested this and I feel good about it. But another friend of mine said its immoral and said I should divorce him for not naturally being able to have sex as much as I desire. Am I horrible wife?
    48 answers · 2 days ago
  • The best way to respond to an insulting wife?

    A lot of people know about my struggles with my wife. Perhaps the worst of it are the insults that affect my self esteem. Comments such as stupid, idiot and useless. I have to do my best to try and be happy with life but it is very hard sometimes. I read a website that said the best way to deal with an insulting... show more
    A lot of people know about my struggles with my wife. Perhaps the worst of it are the insults that affect my self esteem. Comments such as stupid, idiot and useless. I have to do my best to try and be happy with life but it is very hard sometimes. I read a website that said the best way to deal with an insulting wife is to ignore the comments and carry on as normal. Because apparently a wife is so upset subconsciously that they need to lash out and drag the husband down until he is so unhappy that he gives her an easy reason to leave. Now that might be well and good, but I really don't think it will assist in behaviour changes. Yes behaviour change can only come about from the person doing the wrong thing. Also, I feel like it's a bad example for my son. He is too young to understand but what happens when he is older and he sees his mother calling his father stupid and dumb? I might end up with a son that doesn't respect me and joins in calling me stupid. I don't expect my wife to change any time soon. I can try to ignore the nasty comments. But I need something to change :(
    23 answers · 14 hours ago
  • Husband wants to charge my parents for staying in our house?

    So my parents are coming to stay with us for a week next month since we moved to a different state and don't get to see them often. My husband has been dreading this for awhile. He doesn't like them and they don't like him that much. They weren't enthusiastic with me marrying him because he... show more
    So my parents are coming to stay with us for a week next month since we moved to a different state and don't get to see them often. My husband has been dreading this for awhile. He doesn't like them and they don't like him that much. They weren't enthusiastic with me marrying him because he doesn't have a standard job (flipping real estate) and that he smokes weed (we now live in a legal state). My husband has told me he plans on calling them and telling them he will charge them $100 a night to stay at our house. He thinks that they shouldn't be allowed to be in our house without compensation. I don't want him to do this as these are my parents and they don't have much money. Most hotels in our area are more than $100 except bad motels. What should I do?
    30 answers · 2 days ago
  • My boyfrnd of 4 years says he wants to move together first before marriage, but im 4mths pregnant and want marriege before the baby. Advise?

    Best answer: Whelp, looks as though you guys don't have the same goals in life and have reached an impasse. Honestly, neither of you are "wrong" here. It's not unreasonable of him to want to move in with you and see how things go before he makes the commitment of marriage, and it's not wrong of you to... show more
    Best answer: Whelp, looks as though you guys don't have the same goals in life and have reached an impasse.

    Honestly, neither of you are "wrong" here. It's not unreasonable of him to want to move in with you and see how things go before he makes the commitment of marriage, and it's not wrong of you to feel that after 4-5 years he ought to know for sure by now if you're marriage material or not. (Although it's one thing to say "We've been together almost five years, what's he waiting for???" when you're 27, and quite another when you're 19. How old are you guys?)

    But:

    "Im over there everyday cleaning doing laundy we making love its basically like I live there but he says its not how it would be if we actually atayed under one roof."

    Here's your answer, dear. You've already given him the benefits of a Wifey without him having to do the work to commit to you as a wife. Why buy the cow when you're already giving him the milk for free?

    Forget about a marriage and a wedding for now. Concentrate on your health and your baby's arrival, and maybe start looking into lawyers to get your legal ducks in a row so that you know he'll pay child support/etc. if necessary. Because, like you said, if 4 years and a pregnancy haven't lit a fire under his butt to propose to you by now, then it probably ain't gonna happen.
    29 answers · 2 days ago
  • Should a wife who Works Full Time, Have to do household chores when the husband does not work?

    Now let me start off with before this year My husband held a full time job, where after our child was born he supported me for three years; until he has shoulder surgery and get a part time job. after his recovery he return to his job and I return to my part time. He however grew tired of his workplace and the fact... show more
    Now let me start off with before this year My husband held a full time job, where after our child was born he supported me for three years; until he has shoulder surgery and get a part time job. after his recovery he return to his job and I return to my part time. He however grew tired of his workplace and the fact he never had time to play games,or attend tournaments for.40k. He then asked me to find a full time Job so.he could leave his job. I did, however over an.hour so we sold our home, to help my now homeless parents buy a home.He Did Leave his Job.He gets to attend every 40k event and gaming event he wants too now that his time his free. It worked for a.few months until our vehicle had broken down .He then stated he wants $500 from each of my paycheck to put twords repairs and afterwards he will then put it in savings. He has slipped up.a few times.claiming he is so frustrated with not having his own money. So I assume the $500 is really so he can have money. That leaves me with Bill money and grocery money by the end of it all.Now flash forward to recent times, I just took on a new job paying $2 more then the previous one. it'll be nice to get some help around the house. then proceeded to set rules that I and our daughter must follow. He is sick of being the only person doing work around the house, That it's always him, and everyone is lazy.Anyway tho I work full time to support him should I be the one to take over household chores, while he works Outside?
    23 answers · 1 day ago
  • Financial imbalance in marriage, what do do?

    My husband and I have been together for 6 years, we don't have a kid yet but planning to have one very soon. Our relationship has up and downs just like others, we love each other but lately I've been feeling a lot stress from work and life in general. My husband lost his job 2 years ago, ever since... show more
    My husband and I have been together for 6 years, we don't have a kid yet but planning to have one very soon. Our relationship has up and downs just like others, we love each other but lately I've been feeling a lot stress from work and life in general. My husband lost his job 2 years ago, ever since I've been supporting us financially, lucky enough I got a well paid job. I'm nearly 10 years younger than him, it's a bit tough that I have to be the one supporting everything financially for two. I feel I'm losing my freedom because I'm working too hard, no weekend or holiday is normal for me, I'm doing two jobs to keep us going. He's trying his best I know, but definitely not in the right position to earn enough money to support the family. I understand once you're married, everything should be shared equally. Sadly my family and I have always been the weather part, now I'm reaching to a point that I'm tired of paying for two, I know this can be very selfish thinking. That if I was single, or with someone else who is in better financial situation, I could live with a lot more freedom in life. Now I'm looking after two. once we have a baby, I have to look after 3. I'm only 30, I don't want my life get stuck like this, am I being too selfish feeling that I shouldn't pay for two in a relationship?
    18 answers · 15 hours ago
  • How to gain my wife's trust post domestic abuse?

    To make a long story short, i hit my wife several times over the course of two months. I had personal issues she wasnt aware of and it got worse when her parents got into a conflict with me etc. So now she's gone for her own safety and she is in alot of emotional pain. We talk for hours each day on the phone... show more
    To make a long story short, i hit my wife several times over the course of two months. I had personal issues she wasnt aware of and it got worse when her parents got into a conflict with me etc. So now she's gone for her own safety and she is in alot of emotional pain. We talk for hours each day on the phone but she is scared of me. She doesnt want to see me or be in a room alone with me ( thats how serious things are ). I got some treatment and im following her instructions on how to spend my time alone constructivly etc. Is there anything i can do to gain her trust again ? Time is running and we miss alot of the things we did together. I dont need any advice or criticisim about me; just advise on how i can gain her trust..i know im a monster cause ive been made this way by my alcoholic father abusing me and beating me as a kid and juvenile.
    25 answers · 2 days ago
  • I feel like the woman I nanny for is insecure about me and thinks I want her husband?

    So I’ve been a nanny for a family of four kids for almost a year now. They’re very nice people and I always felt comfortable being in their home. They both work full time, so I hardly see either one of them. Lately, if I even say one word to the husband when he gets off work, because I’m trying to avoid seeming... show more
    So I’ve been a nanny for a family of four kids for almost a year now. They’re very nice people and I always felt comfortable being in their home. They both work full time, so I hardly see either one of them. Lately, if I even say one word to the husband when he gets off work, because I’m trying to avoid seeming rude the wife immediately jumps in and ends the conversation. For example, he told me congratulations for getting into nursing school right in front of her and she interrupted and told him to go outside with the kids. I’ve never even been slightly flirty with him or inappropriate at all and I’m also in a happy relationship, so I’m confused why she’s acting like this all of a sudden. I’ve always been really respectful and careful not to open any doors and I even have his phone number and have never once text or called him even about the kids. I also talk to his wife and would only contact him if there was an emergency. I am 22 and attractive, but I don’t get why she would’ve hired me in the first place if she’s insecure about me. I feel weird completely ignoring him altogether, but I almost feel like I need to. Any suggestions?
    15 answers · 14 hours ago
  • Am I controlling for not wanting my wife to wear extremely short shorts if it bothers me?

    Best answer: Lol, okay... first thing, repeat after me.. "I am a very unique and high value man. Any woman who entertains me better be worth it because I bring what a lot of men don't bring".. Keep repeating this to yourself until you believe it....because once you believe it, everyone will.. Second thing you... show more
    Best answer: Lol, okay... first thing, repeat after me.. "I am a very unique and high value man. Any woman who entertains me better be worth it because I bring what a lot of men don't bring".. Keep repeating this to yourself until you believe it....because once you believe it, everyone will..

    Second thing you should love a woman in such a way, that she feels free. Why is this important? Because women are like children.. You tell them the rules, they will follow it in front of you.. but behind your back is another question... So instead of demanding her to follow "your rules and expectations".. You love her in away, where she would be scared to mess it up..

    So when your intertwine these two quotes in your marriage/relationship, when you see her in shorts shorts, you go behind her, touch her shoulders, and whisper in her ears "get those sexy thighs in the bedroom in the next 5 min, " and make love to her...

    You have to look at it, as of course that sexy woman in shorts shorts is with me, compared to OMG, SHES WEARING SHORTS SHORTS... WHAT IF A GUY NOTICES AND FLIRTS WITH HER BUHAHAH 0_O...

    Last thing, never purposely show your insecurities in front of your woman... why?? because of the first quote above...You re James freaking Bond to her, don't forget that
    18 answers · 1 day ago
  • If your house was on fire and you could save your child or husband/wife, which would you choose?

    I would definitely try to save my child first and then my husband. I would die trying.
    I would definitely try to save my child first and then my husband. I would die trying.
    14 answers · 4 hours ago
  • What is the protocol when someone is underpaying their child support?

    My husband's exwife is supposed to pay us (based on her income) about $200 a month in child support. It's all automatically coming out of her checks. However she has been switching jobs lately and is pregnant with her 5th child and we suspect is not working. the past couple months the payments have only... show more
    My husband's exwife is supposed to pay us (based on her income) about $200 a month in child support. It's all automatically coming out of her checks. However she has been switching jobs lately and is pregnant with her 5th child and we suspect is not working. the past couple months the payments have only been about $20 a time. how is this possible if they take it directly from her check? also.. does the county watch this and what do they do about it?
    14 answers · 12 hours ago
  • If a husband uses porn to masturbate only when he is away from his wife for a month, should the wife be angry about it?

    In general, the wife prefers to have sex only once or twice a month, whereas the husband would prefer to do it at least once a week. For reasons of work, the husband was sometimes away for a month, during which he used porn for masturbation. On one occasion, the wife discovered it, and she was extremely angry,... show more
    In general, the wife prefers to have sex only once or twice a month, whereas the husband would prefer to do it at least once a week. For reasons of work, the husband was sometimes away for a month, during which he used porn for masturbation. On one occasion, the wife discovered it, and she was extremely angry, complaining about the issue even 3-4 years later. Were her complaints justified? Cheating or sexting never occurred.
    27 answers · 2 days ago
  • Every time I bring the possibility of marriage, the my boyfriend always brings up a prenup. Should I break up with him?

    I’d bring up marriage and he’d say something like “yeah but just so you know I’m getting a prenup” and he’s reminded me at least 4 times in the two years we’ve been together and ruins a good moment to think of the future with him. It bothers me that every time I think of us having a future he’s basically like “yeah... show more
    I’d bring up marriage and he’d say something like “yeah but just so you know I’m getting a prenup” and he’s reminded me at least 4 times in the two years we’ve been together and ruins a good moment to think of the future with him. It bothers me that every time I think of us having a future he’s basically like “yeah but our future could end”. Is it bad that I don’t like that that is the first thing he thinks about? I feel like he’s more worried about his money and house than thinking about a good, happy future? We’re in our early twenties and he’s never even been married to be this skeptical but I understand getting one in general but why bring it up every time??
    22 answers · 2 days ago
  • Why doesn't my husband understand that he hurt my feeling over his comment?

    My husband recently found out that his daughter's mom is on crack and cocaine. She's lost everything and is sleeping in her car. My husband has had full custody of his, now 21 year old, daughter since she was about 2 years old. Her mom has several younger children and they are now with the older sister. ... show more
    My husband recently found out that his daughter's mom is on crack and cocaine. She's lost everything and is sleeping in her car. My husband has had full custody of his, now 21 year old, daughter since she was about 2 years old. Her mom has several younger children and they are now with the older sister. Well, he called me upset because they have always had a good relationship through the years and knowing that my ex-husband was on drugs he just needed to talk and get some advice. During our conversation he made the comment that he's going to do what he can to help her and right now "nothing trumps her and her situation." I took that to mean that he was placing his daughter's mom over me. I became highly angry and hung up the phone on him. They haven't been a couple in some 20 years so why is he so dead set on helping her out? No, I don't like her due to some drama she and I went through about 10 or 12 years ago. He met up with her after he got off work last night and when he finally came home around 9 PM you could tell he had been crying and of course, we got into it again. Now he's not speaking to me. I just wanted to know what happened but he felt that with the way I acted on the phone earlier in the day I didn't have a right to know anything. Is he right? Why can't he understand that he hurt my feelings with his comment?
    13 answers · 16 hours ago
  • Husband obsessed with his parents!?

    My husband is 34, I am 32. We both work full-time and our 3 yrold daughter goes to preschool 5 days/wk. I am generally very unhappy about having to leave her but for a multitude of reasons we felt that daycare was the best option. I am generally fiercely protective of any time that I do get to spend with her. The... show more
    My husband is 34, I am 32. We both work full-time and our 3 yrold daughter goes to preschool 5 days/wk. I am generally very unhappy about having to leave her but for a multitude of reasons we felt that daycare was the best option. I am generally fiercely protective of any time that I do get to spend with her. The issue is that my husband is severely devoted with his parents & demands that we see them every single Sunday, we end up spending 3-4 hours which is down from years past. His mother and I have a strained relationship, and her tendencies to hoard my child during our visits, results in little time being spent with my daughter and I am furious.I find it reasonable to visit bi-weekly. At the very least, I think the visits if more than biweekly should be kept to 1 hour-max of 2. My daughter is just a toddler, and it's very important for me to spend time with her. Also the fact that I feel betrayed by my husband as he is out and out choosing his (overbearing) mothers over me. She has made huge issues and enjoys regularly making this an issue for her son and I, and encouraging us to fight about it. Fights about this issue have led to all-out battles and divorce is mentioned frequently over it. How would you handle this issue?
    15 answers · 2 days ago
  • Why don't most people marry and have kids young anymore?

    My grandparents told me in the olden days, almost everyone used to marry and have kids young. My grandma said her friends married as young as 15 and 16. The vast majority of people then married right out of school or shortly after and had several children by their late 20s. Nowadays many people are still single at... show more
    My grandparents told me in the olden days, almost everyone used to marry and have kids young. My grandma said her friends married as young as 15 and 16. The vast majority of people then married right out of school or shortly after and had several children by their late 20s. Nowadays many people are still single at 30 and don't even have kids.
    11 answers · 9 hours ago
  • I don't get how my wife can walk out like nothing happened.?

    Okay we had our issues but we both showed that we loved each other till the day she moved out. I don't get how she can act like the last 4 years didn't matter. She is living her life find and i'm sitting here suffering every day. How can she act like the last 4 years meant nothing? I never cheated on... show more
    Okay we had our issues but we both showed that we loved each other till the day she moved out. I don't get how she can act like the last 4 years didn't matter. She is living her life find and i'm sitting here suffering every day. How can she act like the last 4 years meant nothing? I never cheated on her or never put a finger on her. We argued and had trust issues even though neither of us did anything wrong. How can she just be living life everything we had is gone. We did everything together had fun had memories and i'm sitting here like a tool everyday missing her and she's just living life like it's just another day.
    13 answers · 1 day ago
  • Starting to question marriage?

    My husband and I are pregnant with twins. I’m due in September. I’m planning to take off for a year to take care of the kids. He told me that if I take a year off he’s not supporting me but will support the kids. He asked me why should he support me financially while I’m on a “year long” vacation. I’m devastated.... show more
    My husband and I are pregnant with twins. I’m due in September. I’m planning to take off for a year to take care of the kids. He told me that if I take a year off he’s not supporting me but will support the kids. He asked me why should he support me financially while I’m on a “year long” vacation. I’m devastated. We both currently work full time. I’m actually taking 4 weeks off prior to having our sons which my husband is also upset with. I’m really considering divorce after having the boys. Any advice?
    24 answers · 3 days ago
  • My wife wrecked my car?

    She gave my car to her teenage brother who got his licence like yesterday. She didn’t ask me or anything. She just gave it to him. I get no insurance money because the punk was driving while drunk. I really wish he died. Tell me what to do with this anger? And what to do with my shityy wife and her **** family?
    She gave my car to her teenage brother who got his licence like yesterday. She didn’t ask me or anything. She just gave it to him. I get no insurance money because the punk was driving while drunk. I really wish he died. Tell me what to do with this anger? And what to do with my shityy wife and her **** family?
    23 answers · 3 days ago