• Am I in an abusive marriage?

    So we’ve only been married 3 months. I’m wondering if I should try to work this out or leave. I have fibromyalgia. I’ve been with him for two years. He knows my condition. I’m in pain every single day. It takes me a good hour just to feel normal in the morning after I wake up. On the weekends he wants sex the... show more
    So we’ve only been married 3 months. I’m wondering if I should try to work this out or leave. I have fibromyalgia. I’ve been with him for two years. He knows my condition. I’m in pain every single day. It takes me a good hour just to feel normal in the morning after I wake up. On the weekends he wants sex the very moment I open my eyes. I’m very cranky from the pain so I tell him I need to wake up first so I feel better. So I just move around to allow my body to adjust from waking up. He goes to the kitchen to make coffee while I get myself together. Then, I go to hug him in the kitchen and he shrugs me off him. I ask what’s wrong and he says that he’s turned off now because I’m selfish and only want sex when it’s convenient for me. I can’t live like this in such an unaffectionate marriage. He doesn’t want to hear about how I feel. He seemed so understanding before we married. Now he calls me lazy and a quitter. Can this be worked out? Right now my pride is hurt more than anything because I’m too logical to let abuse get to me emotionally. W just see it for what it is. Should I just leave? What should I do?
    22 answers · 14 hours ago
  • Husband bosses me around like I’m a child ? Normal ?

    I want a divorce and don’t love him- he has no sense to understand I’m serious ! Anyways, his father is an executive and was very domineering to he and his mom and siblings. My grandma paid cash for my house and he was supposed to reimburse her and never did . He claims she “bought him the house as a gift and it’s... show more
    I want a divorce and don’t love him- he has no sense to understand I’m serious ! Anyways, his father is an executive and was very domineering to he and his mom and siblings. My grandma paid cash for my house and he was supposed to reimburse her and never did . He claims she “bought him the house as a gift and it’s his house his rules and I am to obey”. He tells me what I can and can’t do what pets I can have what I can cook if he doesn’t like it we don’t have it. He often will eat Most of the food and demand to take the leftovers to work and I’ll go hungry. Don’t even suggest counseling they threw us out we are done with them. Is this normal? Why can’t he understand I don’t love him and don’t want him?
    22 answers · 19 hours ago
  • Final divorce decree,is it fair game for either spouse to take items that werent discussed?

    My moms final divorce decree says that the real estate that a business she owned with her ex gets sold and split,there are items such such as tools and supplies at the business that were never discussed in the settlement or final divorce decree,is it fair game for either spouse to take possesion of such items,she... show more
    My moms final divorce decree says that the real estate that a business she owned with her ex gets sold and split,there are items such such as tools and supplies at the business that were never discussed in the settlement or final divorce decree,is it fair game for either spouse to take possesion of such items,she just doesnt want her ex to take all of it,her lawyer is out of the country so she cant ask him at the moment,thanks
    17 answers · 17 hours ago
  • Would you consider this sexual assault?

    Best answer: Unfortunately this guy is douche-bag. It wasn't assault as you are both adults, regardless of what happened, unless you were tied up or you said no, or you tried to push him off you at some point, you had a play in it too. I understand that you may have had some life issues at the time this happened, he came... show more
    Best answer: Unfortunately this guy is douche-bag.
    It wasn't assault as you are both adults, regardless of what happened, unless you were tied up or you said no, or you tried to push him off you at some point, you had a play in it too. I understand that you may have had some life issues at the time this happened, he came to you at your weakest point, but you gave in to that weakness and let him do those things to you. Unfortunately it sucks. But time to move on. The more you dwell on this situation the crappier your life will be. Not his. As he probably either doesn't care, or has moved on from you to some other women.

    If you want closure, only thing you can do is call and talk to him and tell him what he did was crappy, or write a letter to him. Otherwise it is what it is.
    14 answers · 10 hours ago
  • My newlywed husband of 10 months touched another female at an adult club. How do I move forward?

    My husband and I went on a date night this past weekend. I personally have never been to an adult club. We were enjoying our sex life as newlyweds and are trying new things such as nudist places, adult clubs, role playing in the bedroom ,love shops etc.We have never ever discussed swinging and we didn’t have any... show more
    My husband and I went on a date night this past weekend. I personally have never been to an adult club. We were enjoying our sex life as newlyweds and are trying new things such as nudist places, adult clubs, role playing in the bedroom ,love shops etc.We have never ever discussed swinging and we didn’t have any conversation prior to entering the adult club about dos and donts. Me personally I’m all for role play and looking at others however touching is always off limits That’s crossing the line.Yes we were drinking. Anyway in this adult club it’s total sexual freedom . Peoples are making out and having sex everywhere. As the night progressed we were making out next to another couple. My husband asked the guy did he want to switch partners. I pinched my husband and said no and he switched anyway. I watched him as he put his hands in between this females legs and he gasped with excitement and she moaned with pleasure. I got up and left pissed. We went home and fought to the point where my daughter woke up 3am concerned about what was going on. I’m repulsed by him now and have lost all respect for him. I don’t know how to move forward with my marriage I feel disrespected on so many levels. He has 3 kids and I have a daughter. We all live together. I love him but I don’t know how to forgive him or even if I should. I can’t stand to look at him . I’m horney but I would rather die horney then sleep with himWhat should I do?please help me with honest advice thank you in advance 😔
    24 answers · 2 days ago
  • What is the most effective way to run a marriage?

    Libertarian? Everyone minds their own business and they may interact should they mutually want to at that time such as long as ir doesn't take away consent or the rights of others? (aka roommate style) Totalitarian/Authoritarian? One person is the head of the household (either sex) and the other obeys their... show more
    Libertarian? Everyone minds their own business and they may interact should they mutually want to at that time such as long as ir doesn't take away consent or the rights of others? (aka roommate style) Totalitarian/Authoritarian? One person is the head of the household (either sex) and the other obeys their command and does as they are told, even if it is against consent and against their rights or self will? (aka toxic masculinity) Passive Totalitarian/Authoritarian? Same as above but it is unofficial and it's all done through emotional control and manipulation instead of through being bold and abrasive? (aka toxic femininity) Higher power? Both people serve each other because they are told to do so by a higher power such as God or the government and neither people are in control of the relationship but they are not Libertarians either because whether they have consent or not it doesn't matter because you're giving to the other person without expecting anything in return. Which could lead to one person giving more than the other and being taken advantage of. (aka egalitarian) Or some other one that you can explain in your answer?
    12 answers · 18 hours ago
  • I caught my neighbor s husband cheating: Should I tell her?

    I was sitting on my porch and saw my neighbor go off to work. We waved goodbye. I saw another woman show up two hours later at my neighbor s house. He was all dressed up and I followed them to a resteraunt and they kissed Should I tell my neighbor about this? I took a whole video of the whole thing. I couldn t... show more
    I was sitting on my porch and saw my neighbor go off to work. We waved goodbye. I saw another woman show up two hours later at my neighbor s house. He was all dressed up and I followed them to a resteraunt and they kissed Should I tell my neighbor about this? I took a whole video of the whole thing. I couldn t imagine going through this but i would want to know especially since she talks highly of her husband
    21 answers · 3 days ago
  • How can I tell my best friend that I'm dating her dad ?

    Don't worry I'm legal in every country of the world and it's a serious relationship and I'm someone who lives in the moment than think if what's in life after 20 years. So far it's going well and I just feel it's better to go sometime before deciding where it could lead . He is afraid... show more
    Don't worry I'm legal in every country of the world and it's a serious relationship and I'm someone who lives in the moment than think if what's in life after 20 years. So far it's going well and I just feel it's better to go sometime before deciding where it could lead . He is afraid that his daughter won't like that her best friend and dad are dating . He is divorced so he is not cheating . He is not a creep and this is more of a mature relationship. How can I inform my friend and make her accept it without thinking of herself being a victim . Shouldn't she think it's better her dad dates someone he is comfortable than bringing a woman she doesn't like St all .
    12 answers · 22 hours ago
  • How can having a baby with my fiance affect my divorce with my ex when weve been separated well over a year?

    I separated with my ex husband over a year ago and have since met my fiance and am now 7 months pregnant. We are in the final stages of divorce and it could be finalized before the birth of the baby, but my ex is lazy and simply not responding and signing forms. Weve agreed to all terms of the divorce, it s just a... show more
    I separated with my ex husband over a year ago and have since met my fiance and am now 7 months pregnant. We are in the final stages of divorce and it could be finalized before the birth of the baby, but my ex is lazy and simply not responding and signing forms. Weve agreed to all terms of the divorce, it s just a matter of getting him to sign the final papers. It takes 4-6 weeks to finalize once he does, so I only have about 2 weeks for him to do this. This hasn t been brought up in our documents because there is no possiblity of the child being his and none of us thought in our wildest dreams this would still be going on because we own nothing and have no children together and the divorce should have been simple. Will this become a paternity issue if the baby is born before we are divorced? Should we address the issue? Should I continue to hope he signs within 2 weeks? Does it do me harm or good to address this with him? I have no clue what to do. I would like to motivate him to sign right now by addressing the situation but I m afraid it would backfire and create a paternity issue where it s not necessary. I m sure he knows through mutual friends, but he and I have not spoken in over a year.
    14 answers · 2 days ago
  • What would you do, if your wife (or hubby )cheats on your back?

    Best answer: Cheating is a moral crime, but unfortunately no law upholds this in the "free" countries. My ex cheated on me for years, and when I finally caught on he has many, many affairs under his belt. He was also emotionally and psychologically abusive. You bet I wish cheating was technically a crime!! I wanted... show more
    Best answer: Cheating is a moral crime, but unfortunately no law upholds this in the "free" countries. My ex cheated on me for years, and when I finally caught on he has many, many affairs under his belt. He was also emotionally and psychologically abusive. You bet I wish cheating was technically a crime!! I wanted him to pay. Instead, I have divorced him and have let him live with his non-winning cheating self and know that his day will come. I do believe God is watching. My life is a million times better without my ex, now. It's much healthier to focus on yourself and your healing. What good is a criminal charge against your ex when you are still lonely, hurt and miserable?
    22 answers · 3 days ago
  • Should I live in a sexless marriage?

    I am 31, husband is 33. We have been married 2 years now. Before we met I was single but had sex about 5 days out of the week. Before that I was in a relationship for 4 years and had sex multiple times a day. Then I met my husband and I was actually the one to take his V-card. We had sex about 3-4 times a week and... show more
    I am 31, husband is 33. We have been married 2 years now. Before we met I was single but had sex about 5 days out of the week. Before that I was in a relationship for 4 years and had sex multiple times a day. Then I met my husband and I was actually the one to take his V-card. We had sex about 3-4 times a week and I thought that was really bad at the time but understood we had different work schedules and didn't live together. Then we got married and now I have sex maybe once per 3 months. I think we might have had sex last year like 9 times or so. Also, when we have sex, he cums really fast and he doesn't ever help me out in anyway. He used to be way better at this, longer lasting, happy to make me happy. But now he just doesn't want to have sex. I have done everything I have read about doing. I have talked to him numerous times, I have gotten mad, I have pretended like he is amazing and the best thing ever (if it was a confidence issue), we have been to counseling (he just begs me to stay with him, he loves me, he will try harder), wearing lingerie to bed, etc. I now just no longer press the issue, I thought well maybe if I don't beg him for sex, he will want it more, nope, he plays xbox all night long with his friends, and when I ask him to just watch a movie with me, he gets mad and says this is the only time he gets to spend with his friends. Sadly it is also the only time he has to spend with me and he doesn't. I am just sexually frustrated and don't know what to do.
    15 answers · 2 days ago
  • Why didn't my husband want me to touch him last night?

    My husband is always walking through the house grabbing my butt and feeling on my breasts when we're in bed at night. Last night we were in bed and he was slightly turned away from me playing on his phone. I reached under the covers and started grabbing his butt. It startled him and he jumped. So much so... show more
    My husband is always walking through the house grabbing my butt and feeling on my breasts when we're in bed at night. Last night we were in bed and he was slightly turned away from me playing on his phone. I reached under the covers and started grabbing his butt. It startled him and he jumped. So much so until it seemed like he didn't want me to touch him. Long story short he said that men don't really like to be grabbed that way. Was he right? I told him that his butt was mine to do what ever I wanted to since we're married. He doesn't think so. He said that he couldn't just grab me anytime or anywhere so why would I think that his butt was mine to do with what I want?
    8 answers · 12 hours ago
  • My husband wants a divorce, but says he still needs me to help him with his school work. Says he just wants to be my friend. What do I do?

    My husband and I have been together for a total of 17 years (married for 3). A few months ago he told me that he didn't love me anymore and wanted a separation and eventual divorce. He tells me that he may have feelings for someone else who is also married with a child but says they are just best friends and I... show more
    My husband and I have been together for a total of 17 years (married for 3). A few months ago he told me that he didn't love me anymore and wanted a separation and eventual divorce. He tells me that he may have feelings for someone else who is also married with a child but says they are just best friends and I shouldn't care. He has recently gone back to school and started a new position at work. He still asks me to help him and like an idiot I still do. I have done almost every single one of his assignments for school (about a year and a half worth of work)and much of the paperwork that is required from his new position at work. He says that he needs me to help him get back on his feet and when he's ready, we'll finalize the divorce. I still do many of the same things I did as his wife (laundry, cook, iron his clothes and do the dry cleaning). He says he doesn't want me, to stay out of his business especially his relationship with this other woman. Still, sometimes, he'll give me hope that we can work it out and I fall into that whole routine again. Then, he'll tell me that there is no hope for us, he doesn't love me and doesn't want me, but still needs my help and just wants to be friends. I want to help him so that he doesn't fail, because I care about him, but I also no longer want to do these things anymore because it's mentally not healthy for me. How can I get past this? I'm unsure of what to do, I feel conflicted.
    21 answers · 3 days ago
  • Why Won’t He Marry Me?

    Best answer: He knows that he does not have to marry you. He knows that he can get the best from you without marriage. So -- he just does not want to get marriage. Surprise him -- STOP everything with him .. no explanation .. nothing … just stop it all .. and don't let him push your buttons to get you to come around. Never... show more
    Best answer: He knows that he does not have to marry you.
    He knows that he can get the best from you without marriage.
    So -- he just does not want to get marriage.
    Surprise him -- STOP everything with him .. no explanation .. nothing … just stop it all .. and don't let him push your buttons to get you to come around.
    Never give up on wanting what is right .. however, you don't want to make a person marry you … if he isn't marrying you - it's because he doesn't want to marry you - and he can get you to do all things for him.
    Surprise him big time … he will respect you more for it.
    35 answers · 5 days ago
  • I got married a couple months ago and my husband rarely wants to make love. What could this be due to?

    Best answer: There could be a lot of reasons for this. Have you asked him why this is happening? If he struggles to explain it, ask him if he's willing to do couples therapy.
    Best answer: There could be a lot of reasons for this. Have you asked him why this is happening? If he struggles to explain it, ask him if he's willing to do couples therapy.
    11 answers · 2 days ago