• Is there hope for this relationship?

    My boyfriend and I have been together for about four months. He pressured me into moving in with him after 8 weeks. At first, I told him it was too soon but then I gave in and moved in with him because he kept pressuring me. Since then, we've had a lot of problems. I pay him rent, I buy groceries...I cook, he... show more
    My boyfriend and I have been together for about four months. He pressured me into moving in with him after 8 weeks. At first, I told him it was too soon but then I gave in and moved in with him because he kept pressuring me. Since then, we've had a lot of problems. I pay him rent, I buy groceries...I cook, he drives my car. I do everything for him that he complains his exes never did. He picks fights with me almost every day over petty things. Then we argue and he tries to manipulate me and blame me for everything. I called out of work last week because I was too upset to go to work after arguing with him. I am seeing so many red flags with him...he's an alcoholic and he's in massive debt. He lies to me about everything and if I confront him, we get into terrible fights and he never takes responsibility for anything he does. I really can't talk to him about anything because he's super sensitive and he acts like a child. We never go out on dates anymore...I feel like I'm living a nightmare and I have nowhere else to go. We fought yesterday because he suggested that I put his Disney pass on my credit card, because he can't afford it, then he blew up on me. He said, "I'm not feeling good about our relationship. I'll leave it up to you if you want to end it". Then I said that I would leave if he wanted me to and he said, "I don't want you to leave. I just don't know how to fix this". I am so stressed out and unsure of what to do, or if this can be fixed.
    52 answers · Singles & Dating · 2 days ago
  • Don't you think celebrating birthdays is unnecessary and overrated?

    Like... it's for toddlers at the max. It's so goddamn stupid to celebrate your birthday when you're 16+. That's being immature and vain. Don't you agree?
    Like... it's for toddlers at the max. It's so goddamn stupid to celebrate your birthday when you're 16+. That's being immature and vain. Don't you agree?
    33 answers · Family · 2 days ago
  • My girlfriend/fiance is starting to act very bitter, salty, resentful, mean, and very b'tchy towards me since she got diagnosed with cancer?

    her bad attitude is getting worse, depression, misery, and put downs, and negativity. she thinks if she gets really fat it will too. Shes pulled the suicide card already and yells at me a lot. Im not sure what to do.
    her bad attitude is getting worse, depression, misery, and put downs, and negativity. she thinks if she gets really fat it will too. Shes pulled the suicide card already and yells at me a lot. Im not sure what to do.
    11 answers · Family · 20 hours ago
  • How to deal with narcissistic neurotic mother who used me for emotional incest?

    Sorry, this is going to be long.. Basically she used me as an emotional tag growing up. Even though I have a sister, she only came unload all her bs on me. About the emotional incest. She had a terrible marriage with my deadbeat of a father. After they divorced when I was 8, she refused to ever date again which... show more
    Sorry, this is going to be long.. Basically she used me as an emotional tag growing up. Even though I have a sister, she only came unload all her bs on me. About the emotional incest. She had a terrible marriage with my deadbeat of a father. After they divorced when I was 8, she refused to ever date again which is just plain weird to me. So, instead she treated me as a surrogate husband and basically unloaded things on me that were too emotionally advanced for me to handle at that age. I m in my 20 s now and I eventually figured this out for a few years now but I m already very emotionally damaged. Well, I didn t want to deal with her bs anymore so overtime I just shut her down when she tries to open up to me, and eventually she got the point. Now that she knows she can t use me anymore as her emotional rag, she pretty much just tossed me to the side. She treats me with extreme hostility now because she knows she can t get to me anymore. We were very close, and I was once proud to say I was a mama s boy, now I absolutely despise her for the damage she s done to me. I m incredibly moody, neurotic and pessimistic now all thanks to her. I just don t understand why she chose not to date again. Having a father figure is so crucial to children s development, and she screwed it all up for me. Well I feel that it s not too late for me and I can still change into the person I want to be. I guess what I m asking is, should I just leave her for good because she won t change?
    10 answers · Family · 19 hours ago
  • Why I found it hard to stand for myself with my emotionally abusive family members?

    Well, with anyone It is easy to stand up for myself if someone tries to cross the line with me. But , it is hard for me to do it with my uncles and aunts who are really emotionally abusive.
    Well, with anyone It is easy to stand up for myself if someone tries to cross the line with me. But , it is hard for me to do it with my uncles and aunts who are really emotionally abusive.
    9 answers · Senior Citizens · 1 day ago
  • How do I make my mother understand that not everyone is cut out for a job?

    Hi I'm 27 and my mother wants me to get a job so I can move out. The problem is, I don't think I'm quite cut out for a job. I'm still a virgin and I think that I should get laid before I get a job and move out so that way I have someone to buy a home with, but most girls don't like me for some... show more
    Hi I'm 27 and my mother wants me to get a job so I can move out. The problem is, I don't think I'm quite cut out for a job. I'm still a virgin and I think that I should get laid before I get a job and move out so that way I have someone to buy a home with, but most girls don't like me for some reason. I'm horny all the time and I don't wanna take away my time from pleasing myself because it's kind of a burden. I can't even go to the grocery store without having to wear baggy pants because I'm hard all the time. She also recently found my hentai collection and threw it all away and I was super pissed because I worked hard on drawing it. I also don't wanna take away from my gaming time because I have a passion for Fortnite. My mother also said I need to go on a diet and even signed me up for a gym membership. I only went to the gym once and it was super lame so I never went again. I don't have many friends so I do get kind of lonely but I MAINLY wanna get laid so I can feel accomplished in life, y'know? But the main thing my mom wants me to do is get a job. She called me pathetic and told me to get my lazy *** out the door. My dad left me when I was 5 so I can't contact him. I miss him sometimes. I was so young and innocent and he left me and it messed me up and for my mom to have the audacity to wanna push me out. I think my mom needs a dude around not in a sexual or weird sense because my mom is pretty ugly but just because my dad left.
    28 answers · Family · 2 days ago
  • Should I leave my boyfriend because months ago he undressed me when I was asleep and sick?

    Months ago I posted a question in which I described the whole situation and most of the answers justified his behaviour claiming that he did the right thing. I had high fever (39°), and he was sleeping at my house for the first time because my parents were abroad. I was alone at home and had fever. The first day... show more
    Months ago I posted a question in which I described the whole situation and most of the answers justified his behaviour claiming that he did the right thing. I had high fever (39°), and he was sleeping at my house for the first time because my parents were abroad. I was alone at home and had fever. The first day that I was sick he stood by me, gave me medicines and cooked for me. The second day the temperature raised and I really really sick, and I woke up in the middle of the night shivering, naked (without the upper part of the pj, the undershirt and bra) and when I asked him why, almost crying, he said: because you were sick and your clothes were wet and I had to. He gave me dry clothes and something to lower the temperature. He turned off the light and I felt so ashamed and angry at him and at myself because he had seen me naked. He had never seen me naked before, it was humiliating. I'm also hurting because I think that I'm mean for thinking bad about him, because he did it for good, but I don't know, it's like he isn't the perfect guy I had always thought of, I was really in love with him, but I dare you to find yourself suddenly naked and not to be angry or resent him. I always thought he was perfect but after all these months I still have nightmares about that night.
    64 answers · Singles & Dating · 5 days ago
  • My husband keeps having "slips" in our marriage?

    I try to be the perfect wife. I try to have lots of sex with him so he will be sexually satisfied. I try to cook and clean and run his bath water and I try to have his clothes set out for him and make breakfast for him and make his lunch for work. But he still has "slips" in our marriage. He has been... show more
    I try to be the perfect wife. I try to have lots of sex with him so he will be sexually satisfied. I try to cook and clean and run his bath water and I try to have his clothes set out for him and make breakfast for him and make his lunch for work. But he still has "slips" in our marriage. He has been having affairs and he guiltily tells me. we tried counseling and he tells the councilor he will stop But he told me his urges grow everyday and he cant control it. He says he thinks about me when hes with other women but this makes me so sad :( What do we do? We tried counseling and I cant help but feel insecure and cry about this a lot. I want to stay committed and try to help my husband through this. This is "struggle" that we have to surpass in our marriage. please help
    15 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 17 hours ago
  • Can my parents search through my search history?

    I m16. It makes me uncomfortable when they do. Should parents be doing this? I m not being dangerous...
    I m16. It makes me uncomfortable when they do. Should parents be doing this? I m not being dangerous...
    17 answers · Family · 1 day ago
  • Your opinion on a woman who only dates black guys?

    Best answer: I don't know why but I usually think of them as sl*tty or big ego.
    Best answer: I don't know why but I usually think of them as sl*tty or big ego.
    42 answers · Singles & Dating · 4 days ago
  • Boyfriend bought himself dinner and ate it in front of me without asking if I wanted anything.?

    He had an option to get the salad bar to share with me but he didn’t even do that. I had told him before hand that I couldn’t afford to buy anything until I got payed the next day but he didn’t take the hint. He did this on another occasion whilst with his friend, he bought himself dinner and me and his friend... show more
    He had an option to get the salad bar to share with me but he didn’t even do that. I had told him before hand that I couldn’t afford to buy anything until I got payed the next day but he didn’t take the hint. He did this on another occasion whilst with his friend, he bought himself dinner and me and his friend watched him eat. I have bought him dinner before and he has bought me fast food but never a sit down meal. If we have ordered food together we generally go Dutch. I’ve bought him clothing and he hasn’t bought me anything. He is working part time and I see money in his wallet but he never seems to want to treat me to anything. I am a student and get sporadic work but I feel like he’s making more than me but not making an effort. Is this right? I’ve talked to him about him making more of an effort to organize dates and his answer was he wanted to take me for a walk on the beach. We have done that twice, we’ve never gone to a movie together and he’s never organized a proper date. It’s been 3 months. Is it time to say goodbye?
    12 answers · Singles & Dating · 5 hours ago
  • My boyfriend won’t be intimate with me, and I don’t know how to fix it.?

    I don’t mean just sexually, although that is a major part of it (if I never initiated, we’d probably have sex less than every other month). I mean, he’s gotten super non-affectionate or romantic, and I feel more like I’m just a friend of his who he happens to sleep in the same bed with. I understand that he hurts... show more
    I don’t mean just sexually, although that is a major part of it (if I never initiated, we’d probably have sex less than every other month). I mean, he’s gotten super non-affectionate or romantic, and I feel more like I’m just a friend of his who he happens to sleep in the same bed with. I understand that he hurts constantly, and is tired from work (he is a technician), but I just want HIM to cuddle with ME sometimes. Or to hold MY hand. I’m always the one who has to ask to cuddle, or take his hand. I know it sounds like he is just not interested in me anymore, but I am sure it’s not that. And I’ve brought up a conversation about it a few different times, but he always just ends up convinced he’s a jerk and doesn’t oay attention to my needs, even though that’s all he tries to do constantly. He always makes me choose whatever I want to do, and he tried to do what he thinks will make me happy. But anyways, how to I try to fix this? Or at least, how can I try communicating with him in a way that he doesn’t feel bad? (Even though that’s all I try to do. Each time I’ve brought it up I’ve tried phrasing things differently, etc, so he recieves it better, but he always ends up thinking he’s the a**hole.)
    30 answers · Singles & Dating · 3 days ago
  • My boyfriend won’t buy me a car?

    My boyfriend is wealthy and I’m a student. He’s 20 years older and is a very generous man..... he brings me on holidays and expensive dinners.... the thing is I’m starting a job and I really need a car.... any old car really I’m not fussed, it’s just I’ve got a large student loan that I’m paying off so I can’t... show more
    My boyfriend is wealthy and I’m a student. He’s 20 years older and is a very generous man..... he brings me on holidays and expensive dinners.... the thing is I’m starting a job and I really need a car.... any old car really I’m not fussed, it’s just I’ve got a large student loan that I’m paying off so I can’t afford the car..... he spends at least 600 dollars a week on going out for dinners, the thing is I’d be happy not going out in order to get the car as it’s something I really need. I explained this but he dosnt want to get me one..... am I right in being a little pi**ed off that he only spend his money when he is involved or where it benefits himsuch as holidays and dinner and won’t help me out with important things such as the car? It’s just I don’t see the point in all the expensive meals when I need a car for work...... maybe I’m selfish? It is his money after all
    13 answers · Singles & Dating · 12 hours ago
  • Best Man issues?

    My best man has randomly turned vegan and has been for a year but neglected to tell me... - our food choices have been confirmed (roast beef) and he agreed with it although he was vegan when I asked him so why should I fork out an additional £198 because he didn't have the minerals to tell me? - His time in... show more
    My best man has randomly turned vegan and has been for a year but neglected to tell me... - our food choices have been confirmed (roast beef) and he agreed with it although he was vegan when I asked him so why should I fork out an additional £198 because he didn't have the minerals to tell me? - His time in replying drives me insane, he's supposed to be my best man and can't reply to a text or call within 72 hours. How can i expect him to be on the correct timings at my wedding day or come to a suit fitting? - He's too lethargic and laid back (which is great socially) but not when we're planning such a big event. - The lying of his phone not showing a notification, i've been alone with him and when his GF was texting him his phone was pinging and tinging more than a business mans phone on the brink of a deal. - I asked him to be my best man the day my fiancee and I got engaged he said yeah, I don't have a clue what to do though. So I told him the basics and when i said about a speech he said ' why? do I really have too?' I also asked the other week if he's looked into it more and he said ' not really '. - I love him to bits but even my Fiancee who said he's lovely has said she's got zero confidence that he'll do well as a bestman and we both agreed that my other cousin who isn't a tortoise would excel and do a great job Now my main issue is how do I tell my original best man that I don't want him to be my best man any more and that he'll be a groomsman instead?
    17 answers · Engagements & Weddings · 1 day ago
  • My parents don t want to cope with me anymore?

    I m 19 years old, and for as long as I can remember, I ve had all sorts of anxieties and depression from a young age. Long story short, the other week, after my mum got married to her new husband, she had a go at me for crying when I dropped my phone on my toe. I thought crying when you ve hurt yourself is a... show more
    I m 19 years old, and for as long as I can remember, I ve had all sorts of anxieties and depression from a young age. Long story short, the other week, after my mum got married to her new husband, she had a go at me for crying when I dropped my phone on my toe. I thought crying when you ve hurt yourself is a completely normal reaction, but then it continued with her telling me I need to get help and that she s fed up with it. I really don t get how it s gone from hurting my toe, to I need therapy... Whenever I try to talk to her about my personal problems, it always ends up in shouting and arguing. She will now cut me off straight away when I try to open up. She s the only person who has been with me my whole life, and now she doesn t want anything to do with me. This has really affected me badly. And even though I feel I m better, these situations drag me back down again. I don t know what to do anymore. I can t move out, I ve got no one to stay with, I can t even talk to my own parent anymore... I couldn t get any advice online so I ve come here. I m sorry if none of this makes sense, and that it s really long, I m just all over the place about this and need someone to give me advice or their opinions.
    38 answers · Family · 5 days ago
  • Boyfriend acted inappropriately. What should I do?

    My boyfriend went to a wedding for one of his friends last night. He went with some of his friends. He and I don’t follow each other on social media but I do follow some of his friends (he doesn’t know I follow them). This morning I woke up and checked my Instagram and saw multiple videos of him at the wedding... show more
    My boyfriend went to a wedding for one of his friends last night. He went with some of his friends. He and I don’t follow each other on social media but I do follow some of his friends (he doesn’t know I follow them). This morning I woke up and checked my Instagram and saw multiple videos of him at the wedding “dancing” with this lady. However, I wouldn’t even consider it dancing. They were basically having sex with clothes on. In one video, he was on his back on the ground and she was sitting on his lap basically “riding” him while he humped her. In another video she was on her hands and knees and he was behind her literally humping her while everyone else was standing around taking videos. It was disgusting and embarrassing to watch. Nobody else was doing that except him and the lady. Everyone else was acting accordingly for a wedding. Should I say something? He doesn’t know I follow his friends so I know my snooping is why I found this out. But I feel disrespected and quite honestly turned off by him, which is the first time I’ve felt like this towards him in our 3 years together.
    14 answers · Singles & Dating · 22 hours ago
  • What should I do to punish my brother for feeding my vegan kids cheeseburgers?

    Best answer: Don't let Ted babysit anymore. Most vegans and vegetarians will at some point make a mistake and eat something they shouldn't. It's hardly the end of the world (except for the fact that your brother seems to take such glee in it).
    Best answer: Don't let Ted babysit anymore. Most vegans and vegetarians will at some point make a mistake and eat something they shouldn't. It's hardly the end of the world (except for the fact that your brother seems to take such glee in it).
    15 answers · Family · 1 day ago