• Is it normal when you've been a caring person to eventually stop?

    I don't know what happened to me. I use to be a caring person but now if the other person does not act in a similar way I feel very annoyed and like I'd prefer to take back the energy I feel was wasted on them. I did not use to be like this and wouldn't have even thought about what I got in return. I... show more
    I don't know what happened to me. I use to be a caring person but now if the other person does not act in a similar way I feel very annoyed and like I'd prefer to take back the energy I feel was wasted on them. I did not use to be like this and wouldn't have even thought about what I got in return. I think it started when I was very kind to some people and then they threatened my life and did other things that showed awful behaviour, another person manipulated money out of me and then situations kept happening were I would care about someone but they'd be evil or take advantage. Now I don't feel obliged to do anything for anyone because I feel I'll either get nothing back and feel extremely drained and tired from helping them or that they'll manipulate me or expect it 24/7 or something else. Is this a normal progressive thing with age, or something bad that I can correct? I no longer feel good helping people and getting people to pay me to do any work and not do it for free feels like getting blood out of a stone.
    12 answers · 2 days ago
  • I need 3 reasons to stay alive, please?

    it s been a while, like months and months, since I ve felt this unbalanced and for the first time in years I m outright asking for help and everyone seems to just be pretending they can t hear me And now I m lying in bed awake at 3am next to my beautiful sleeping 11 year old sister and above my fantastically smart... show more
    it s been a while, like months and months, since I ve felt this unbalanced and for the first time in years I m outright asking for help and everyone seems to just be pretending they can t hear me And now I m lying in bed awake at 3am next to my beautiful sleeping 11 year old sister and above my fantastically smart 13 year old brother and my amazingly strong independent mother and I m filled with pride and I feel so lucky to have this wonderful family who all love me and think I, a 19 yo girl, am this fantastic person. And I feel happy, but tired. Like when you leave a party early because even though you re having a great time, you know when it s time to go. I m in a pretty confusing position, I feel like my time is up, it s time to go, not in a sad angry defiant tragic way, but just because... well I m empty now, I ve done all I can do and I didn t really expect to get this far if I m honest so I didn t really bother planning a life for myself I always have 20 reasons (I have 17 rn) to stay and fight just for a few hours or days until someone comes along and responds to my awkward cry for help because on the other hand, I don t really want to leave just yet. It s always after you leave the party early that something great happens and you hear about it the next day and regret making the decision to go, but there are plenty of other chances to go to parties, there aren t really any chances to come back to life. So 3 things please, it can be anything. Sorry
    6 answers · 14 hours ago
  • Why do I hate violence against women, but not men?

    Best answer: I hate violence against both men and women. May be I am a bit more worried about women than men due to obvious reasons that everyone should know. Does that make me a white knight? I don't care.
    Best answer: I hate violence against both men and women. May be I am a bit more worried about women than men due to obvious reasons that everyone should know. Does that make me a white knight? I don't care.
    14 answers · 2 days ago
  • Is it normal that I want to completely isolate myself from society?

    I have no longer the feeling of being with other people, I just want to be completely left alone. I'm definitely introverted, which I hear is okay, but is it common to want to isolate yourself from society? I do not want any friends in my life any longer and I wish to be alone for the rest of my life. I hate... show more
    I have no longer the feeling of being with other people, I just want to be completely left alone. I'm definitely introverted, which I hear is okay, but is it common to want to isolate yourself from society? I do not want any friends in my life any longer and I wish to be alone for the rest of my life. I hate talking or interacting with people, it's painfully awkward unless it's necessary to communicate with them. I've been trying to cut off my friends completely and it seems to be working, which I'm happy about. Does anyone else have the same feeling or is there just something wrong with me mentally?
    22 answers · 5 days ago
  • How do I develop psychopathic traits?

    I must make it clear that I do not plan to inflict harm on others! I just want my emotions to die out! I don’t want this to sound like some sorry call but I’m sick and tired of being everyone’s comfort cushion! For the past year I have been rejected and treated like a scapegoat! By girls mainly. I kept telling... show more
    I must make it clear that I do not plan to inflict harm on others! I just want my emotions to die out! I don’t want this to sound like some sorry call but I’m sick and tired of being everyone’s comfort cushion! For the past year I have been rejected and treated like a scapegoat! By girls mainly. I kept telling myself that the next one would be different and to keep a strong head on my shoulders, but that only ends in heartache. Because the ones to come do the same. So I feel I should just cut down my emotions and prevent any more pain. Like I haven’t been crying recently? Is this bad. The pain sort of sends a chill down me making me want to cry but I never can? I hear say that psychopaths don’t feel any emotion. (Yes they prey on the kindness of others) but isn’t that what people have done to me when I was polite. When I got bullied in school and beaten I used to tell them it was okay and that I’d forgive them. Not any more!! Any ideas??
    5 answers · 1 day ago
  • I absolutely hate being a lesbian and I want to kill myself?

    I don't want to be a lesbian. And don't give me that "date a man" bullshit. I'm 18, never had a girlfriend, never kissed a girl, never had sex. I'm fu*king terrified that i'll never meet ANYONE and that i will die with no dating or sexual experience. I don't know how to meet girls,... show more
    I don't want to be a lesbian. And don't give me that "date a man" bullshit. I'm 18, never had a girlfriend, never kissed a girl, never had sex. I'm fu*king terrified that i'll never meet ANYONE and that i will die with no dating or sexual experience. I don't know how to meet girls, and it makes me so depressed that I can't date all the pretty girls i see because they will most likely be straight. I also have depression, and it makes everything so much worse. I'm scared that i will end up lonely with no one in my 20's and even worse in my 30's. I don't want people to know that i'm single because of my shi*ty dating pool. I honestly can't take it anymore. There is no hope.
    21 answers · 3 days ago
  • How to make friends when you suffer social anxiety and low self esteem?

    A lot of people label me as antisocial because I’m quiet. I’m not antisocial, I’m just don’t know if people like me. I’ve been picked on throughout high school years for my looks. That made me really shy and introverted. I’m afraid that people will mock me if I just walk up to them and try to be friendly. I had... show more
    A lot of people label me as antisocial because I’m quiet. I’m not antisocial, I’m just don’t know if people like me. I’ve been picked on throughout high school years for my looks. That made me really shy and introverted. I’m afraid that people will mock me if I just walk up to them and try to be friendly. I had orientation for a new job that I start this Sunday. All of the people kept asking why I was so quiet and getting an attitude. I mostly sit and observe. I don’t really like to interact with people that seem drama filled and these people were already gossiping about each other, loud, etc. They didn’t seem nice. I don’t know how I can fake being outgoing. I just can’t do that. I want to make friends but I don’t want to come off as antisocial were they don’t like me. How can I build confidence? What ways can I make new friends?
    5 answers · 2 days ago
  • 10 points!! I don't know who I am and it scares me? (Help please)?

    Best answer: Mom liked to bring out old, embarrassing family pictures that I had forgotten about. And my old drinking buddies sometimes bring up a story or two. There's nothing I can do about those things, they happened. But they're in the past now and I have a new, different life. One where I can decide things... show more
    Best answer: Mom liked to bring out old, embarrassing family pictures that I had forgotten about. And my old drinking buddies sometimes bring up a story or two. There's nothing I can do about those things, they happened. But they're in the past now and I have a new, different life. One where I can decide things aren't working and change it up once in a while just because I can.

    Where I'm going with that should be clear: your real self is right now. Your unknown self is a snapshot of a different time. That time may have sucked. There may be things that need fixing. There may be things to shrug and move on from. OR, that time may have been really good and worth another look. Go ahead, cross your fingers and open the box.
    8 answers · 3 days ago
  • What is psychology?

    8 answers · 15 hours ago
  • My world is dark now, how about yours?

    11 answers · 2 days ago
  • I’m afraid of dying and can’t stop thinking about it?

    Hey all, I’m a 16 yr old and I just can’t stop thinking about dying. This has been a huge fear of mine for years now. It gets me so upset and depressed thinking about it. The tiniest thing about death sets m off. I must not be normal. Can someone tell me what happens when I die. I’m literally so afraid like. No one... show more
    Hey all, I’m a 16 yr old and I just can’t stop thinking about dying. This has been a huge fear of mine for years now. It gets me so upset and depressed thinking about it. The tiniest thing about death sets m off. I must not be normal. Can someone tell me what happens when I die. I’m literally so afraid like. No one knows im afraid of this and I don’t want personal people to know. Someone help me get over my fear, any suggestions
    8 answers · 19 hours ago
  • Your enemy saved your life so you wouldn't die at the hands of your other enemy. Would you thank your enemy savior?

    Best answer: Yes. There are actual events of this nature occurring in the history of warfare, where a somewhat more benevolent "enemy" has saved people from the hands of a harsher enemy. This requires a tremendous amount of courage actually, as standing up to your "friends" is usually more difficult than... show more
    Best answer: Yes. There are actual events of this nature occurring in the history of warfare, where a somewhat more benevolent "enemy" has saved people from the hands of a harsher enemy. This requires a tremendous amount of courage actually, as standing up to your "friends" is usually more difficult than standing up to your "enemies."
    11 answers · 2 days ago
  • Why can’t I feel love?

    For as long as I can remeber, I can’t feel love or connections with people very well. Even with close family members, there’s nothing. I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I’ve had multiple boyfriends and I can’t stay with one guy. I feel a connection for a little while then bam it’s gone. I feel absolutely nothing.... show more
    For as long as I can remeber, I can’t feel love or connections with people very well. Even with close family members, there’s nothing. I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I’ve had multiple boyfriends and I can’t stay with one guy. I feel a connection for a little while then bam it’s gone. I feel absolutely nothing. I’m like that with more than just guys though. I’ve cut off friends I’ve known forever because I just don’t feel anything anymore. It’s like one minute someone means the world to me, then I get this empty feeling and I get rid of them. My family realized I had some sort of problem when I felt no emotion when my dog died (I know super sad) or when a family member would be sick and id just get annoyed. We never got it checked out though because I was too scared a doctor would say I’m barely a person or my family wouldn’t love me anymore. Idk... I just wish I could feel real love with someone and keep it that way for a long period of time. Should I see a doctor? Is there actually something wrong with me? Will I ever be able to feel love?
    9 answers · 5 days ago
  • Do you believe the evidence that show violent video game playing and mass shootings are related?

    The desensitizing of humans has been practiced throughout history to make a better Warrior. The Japanese trained pilots for suicide attacks for the Empire of Japan. I have witnessed young people loose complete mental and physical control while playing violent video games. Screaming, jumping, kicking, throwing... show more
    The desensitizing of humans has been practiced throughout history to make a better Warrior. The Japanese trained pilots for suicide attacks for the Empire of Japan. I have witnessed young people loose complete mental and physical control while playing violent video games. Screaming, jumping, kicking, throwing things. Walking away in a serious fit of anger. Carrying this anger on for hours even when moving to another environment. The seem to lose a sense of reality and believe life is just a matter of pushing the "new game" choice. Many of the older males I know that are chronic violent video game players are gun owners. Not just a pistol or a shotgun. But the exotic custom made assault type weapons. I have heard the make comments about how they would use them and act out their intentions with physical movements. The media seems to want to blame the "Gun" when it really appears to be the Individual and the choices to be desensitized to violence.
    8 answers · 1 day ago
  • Does an older gray hairs having guy in my college class like me if he looked at me when I was presenting and when he was talking in front?

    of the class he looked at me a bit too
    of the class he looked at me a bit too
    7 answers · 13 hours ago
  • Is suicide really a bad thing?

    Sure you can say that suicide is the easy way out of a temporary problem but what if that person doesn t want to live anymore because he/she thinks life is boring. We didn t ask to be here so why are we forced to live? Also it s not like you re killing someone else, you re just killing yourself so it s not a crime.... show more
    Sure you can say that suicide is the easy way out of a temporary problem but what if that person doesn t want to live anymore because he/she thinks life is boring. We didn t ask to be here so why are we forced to live? Also it s not like you re killing someone else, you re just killing yourself so it s not a crime. If someone is really really really depressed and they want to end their miserable lives why force them to keep living. If you want my honest opinion I think it selfish to forced the depressed person to live. It s their life so they should make that choice. Am I right or wrong?
    9 answers · 1 day ago
  • What’s the best place for people like me who is all every man for himself?

    Best answer: You may not know yet, but "No man stands alone". We are all here to help each other. That is what love is.
    Best answer: You may not know yet, but "No man stands alone". We are all here to help each other. That is what love is.
    9 answers · 2 days ago
  • Want to tell this girl that is infatuated with me , just leave me alone?

    I think she is cool, but I have too many problems with my penis and testicles. I hate them, want to hurt them, ill wrap wire around them until they turn black, but for some reason they still are living.
    I think she is cool, but I have too many problems with my penis and testicles. I hate them, want to hurt them, ill wrap wire around them until they turn black, but for some reason they still are living.
    7 answers · 20 hours ago