"Anonymous" is right, Miriam, some women are too. As to why, that's impossible to answer. I suppose if you knew the heredity and the life experiences of these evil men, you might be able to formulate some explanation for why they are the way they are. What really concerns me is that you fear the day...
Best answer: "Anonymous" is right, Miriam, some women are too. As to why, that's impossible to answer. I suppose if you knew the heredity and the life experiences of these evil men, you might be able to formulate some explanation for why they are the way they are. What really concerns me is that you fear the day will come when you "have" to spend the rest of your life with a man. No modern woman in a free society is forced to spend her life with any man. The fact that you want to meet a super-sweet guy indicates that you really don't dislike men, but apparently your experiences have been mostly negative. That's terribly unfortunate. I have several suggestions, none of them easy, which you might consider......and please bear in mind that I'm guessing since I don't know you. You seem overly self-critical. Sensitive and introspective people often are. This is a double edged sword. On the one hand, it can lead to self-improvement and an understanding of the faults of others since you share them. On the other hand it can enervate your will to change things by convincing you that you're incapable of changing anything.You can change, Miriam, but you must want to. Instead of allowing men to approach you first, could you find the courage to approach a man you're attracted to and try to get to know him without any romantic intentions? It probably seems impossible, the more so because you may be rejected, but at least you will have tried and there's always the chance that he feels the same way about the women he meets. Second, try to think less about yourself. If you can free yourself from the self-conscious and very probably undeserved low opinion of yourself, and just try to understand the people you meet without any motive, I think you'll find people, including men, will find you interesting too. In any case, you're still very young and have the opportunity to learn from experience and grow in confidence and self-esteem. We all have gifts. I'm sure you do too, although you may dismiss or be unaware of them. If it's any consolation, you and I share the same traits, except that I never had the courage to approach a woman I was attracted to because I felt I had nothing to offer. Incredibly, women approached me who were attracted to me. Perhaps there's someone like me that you might find...only I don't think anyone ever called me super-sweet!