Assalamualaikum, Muslims are in the Ramadan section of yahoo answers if you want to ask them then move your question there using the edit butt0n like this: society and culture > holidays > Ramadan.
I will answer in points In sha Allah,,
1. First, may Allah reward you for striving to avoid haram...
Best answer: Assalamualaikum, Muslims are in the Ramadan section of yahoo answers if you want to ask them then move your question there using the edit butt0n like this: society and culture > holidays > Ramadan.
I will answer in points In sha Allah,,
1. First, may Allah reward you for striving to avoid haram relationships like this and seeking to do things right, as well as seeking knowledge and not acting in haste without knowledge, and for asking this question to seek knowledge, and for your patience in the whole ordeal, as well as for your assistance in helping this girl become Muslim, and may Allah forgive you for the sins you did.
2. Prophet Muhammad (s) mentioned that you should marry based on faith and good character. Some people have no faith but good character, so they will go to hell, and further, in Islam, if a spouse is raised higher in Jannah than you, then you will be raised to her level even if you didn't earn it, so we Muslims marry those who will give us the best in the hereafter. Some people have faith in Allah but terrible character, and this will lead to divorce most likely, so both are necessary. If she has good character and is willing to increase faith, then you should marry her.
3. With regards to whether you should cut her off or not, I do not recommend you cut her off. I do recommend you stop spending time with her alone though, because the Prophet (s) said that when a man and a woman are alone, shaytan is the third among them tempting them.
Guide her from a distance, but if it is imperative you be there, then let there be another mahrim be there with her, or another Muslim woman at least. Tell her to read the Noble Quran along with Ibn Kathir's Tafsir interpretation which can be found 0nline for free, this is so that she can understand what she reads. Tell her to read fatwas from islamqa (.info and .org) and islamweb (two Islamic scholarly fatwa websites) on any questions she may have regarding Islam. She should also read the ahadith although this can be done after her conversion.
You should tell her, that once she becomes Muslim, she has given up the right to determine what is right and wrong, this is Allah's job and is interpreted by Islamic scholars which Allah tells us to follow in Quran. If she see's something she doesn't like in Islam, she is obligated to change herself and submit to get rid of this disease in the heart. Islam requires change, she will have to wear hijab, pray 5 times a day, fast in Ramadan, etc. she will have to continue seeking Islamic knowledge for the rest of her life and not stay complacent. This is a life changer, and as per Islam, once you become Muslim, there's no going back, there is haddud punishment in Islam for apostates. Make sure you let her know that rejecting even one Quran verse is disbelief in Islam, preferring other guidances to Allah, such as man made law like democracy as compared to the sharia (law of Allah) is also disbelief in Islam. She has to be prepared to surrender completely to Allah.
So if she reads the Quran with the Tafsir and likes it and believes in it, then she should take the shahada, and you should marry her right away, without stalling, with a nikah.
4. With regards to your friends, we Muslims do not take religious advice from friends, either kafirs or laymen Muslims, only Islamic scholars. So you should ask this question to the Islamic scholars next time. Further, you can test her faith while helping guide her, see how she acts, does she say Bismillah before eating without you reminding, does she remind you to pray, does she encourage good on you and forbid evil, etc all these are signs of faith.
5. With regards to her past, as per Islam, she is not allowed to reveal her sins to anyone, and nor are you allowed to reveal her sins, although to gain some religious benefit such as increasing your knowledge by asking the scholar about a sin you did for example would be fine, and even then you could use third person referencing in this case.. You are correct, once she becomes Muslim, all her sins are gone, and she is chaste again like a new born baby, and all her good deeds remain. So this is a non-issue.
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