I agree with another person who answered and said to pick your battles. Did mom do a nice thing by adding the diamonds from a pair of earrings to her daughter's engagement ring? Well, yes she did. But, did your fiancee ask mom to do this? The only way to know would be to ask her. But, asking that question could...
Best answer: I agree with another person who answered and said to pick your battles. Did mom do a nice thing by adding the diamonds from a pair of earrings to her daughter's engagement ring? Well, yes she did. But, did your fiancee ask mom to do this? The only way to know would be to ask her. But, asking that question could bring about a pretty nasty argument. Personally, I would have talked to my fiance before letting my mother add diamonds to the engagement ring. Since this discussion didn't take place and presumably you don't want to rock the boat, let it go. How were you told about the ring having these diamonds added to it? How did you react to seeing the enhanced ring? I'm guessing you didn't make a fuss or say anything that would bring an end to the engagement. So, it's too late now to say anything negative. But, at some point when the two of you are married and settling in, be aware of your mother-in-law's influence on her daughter. If she constantly is butting in and trying to change things like the colours in the apartment or house, having her daughter change the china pattern to one that the two of you didn't choose, or maybe weighing in on when the two of you are ready to be parents, then you need to step up and talk to your now wife and the two of you together approach mom and nicely tell her that while her views are important, that the two of you will make the decisions.
Right now, if your fiancee is happy and you feel that you can accept the revised ring, then let it go and don't make a fuss over it. Hopefully, your fiancee's mother did this as a gesture of goodwill and in no way was saying anything about the ring not being grand enough for her daughter. She just had these earrings that she wasn't wearing and thought it would be nice to add them to the ring. It's too late to make a fuss over the situation and maybe this is a learning curve for the two of you on how to adjust to having in-laws and how they can interfere where it wasn't really necessarily in the best interest of the couple. Let it go and move on. There will be other times where speaking up is more important.
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