You need to tell your friend "Either you talk to me and come clean about whats happening, or I am going to go to the police because I need to know that you are ok and I need to know what is going on, for your safety".
If your friend talks to you, and opens up, then you will know more about how to best...
Best answer: You need to tell your friend "Either you talk to me and come clean about whats happening, or I am going to go to the police because I need to know that you are ok and I need to know what is going on, for your safety".
If your friend talks to you, and opens up, then you will know more about how to best handle it.
Its possible she's crying for an unrelated reason, and its possible the bruises are from consensual rough sex. Maybe her grandma just died? Maybe she's generally depressed?
Obviously you don't want your friend to be depressed, but just because your friend is depressed wouldn't mean that her boyfriend is a rapist. You know? It's unfair to jump to such conclusions.
I know it sounds weird but a lot of girls start having sex at 16,
A lot of girls like older guys,
And a lot of girls are very into rough sex and enjoy it and orgasm from it, blah blah blah.
That is all common.
Is he raping her? Possibly yes, possibly no, there's no real way to tell.
But I could say "are you (the asker) killing somebody and hiding them in your garage? Possibly yes, possibly no" you see what I mean? Like you have no proof of anything, just speculation. Bruises happen during CONSENSUAL sex too.
DON'T ACCUSE SOMEONE OF SOMETHING WITHOUT PROOF, UNLESS YOU ALSO WOULD LIKE TO BE FALSELY ACCUSED OF A SERIOUS CRIME WITHOUT PROOF. You will never know how horrible a false accusation is, until it happens to you. Luckily, you are PRIVILEGED, you are a woman so you don't experience false accusations like men do.
I am 26 and my girlfriend is 25 (so we are basically the exact same age) and she's into rough sex and sometimes she gets bruises on her thighs, in fact she usually does. That is not "rape". In fact, heck, she wants sex more than I do most of the time lol. Like I'll be playing video games and she'll have to distract me LOL. So yeah. But she likes to be grabbed hard, choked, etc. THat's just pretty normal for girls.
I know you are really young so maybe you have not even hit puberty yet, or developed a sex drive yet, or perhaps you don't even know what sex is like and are a virgin. Its honestly something you shouldn't be focusing on yet, school is more important. However, your friend is clearly a very sexual person and into sex.
One thing I know for sure: If she was not into this guy, she would just dump him, simple as that.
It's also possible the SEX is consensual but maybe he also hits her sometimes? If she has BLACK EYES or BROKEN NOSES or BRUISED JAWS, that is when you should worry. Most domestic violence cases, the man hits the girl in the face. So if she has those sorts of injuries, you should be alarmed. If its bruises on her legs and arms, thats probably from rough sex, yo.
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