• Why would a married man continue seeing his single lover for 3 years if he has no intention whatsoever of leaving his wife?

    Why keep living a double life and hurting the wife he claims to love and the single lover he claims to also love?
    Why keep living a double life and hurting the wife he claims to love and the single lover he claims to also love?
    33 answers · 2 days ago
  • Why Won’t He Marry Me?

    Ok, so My Boyfriend and I have been together for 2.5 years. We love each other, we respect each other, we live with each other and do everything as if we were married...the thing is..He won’t marry me. I asked him when are we going to get married and his reply is that there are things in the relationship that he... show more
    Ok, so My Boyfriend and I have been together for 2.5 years. We love each other, we respect each other, we live with each other and do everything as if we were married...the thing is..He won’t marry me. I asked him when are we going to get married and his reply is that there are things in the relationship that he needs me to be better in such as communication and sex. (Really?) He told me that if I don’t improve by December, he’s done. I support him..I show love to him..I cook, clean, etc. There was a time where he lost his job and I was there for him supporting him, and even helped him get another job. I gave him money to help him out sometimes, etc so why is he so stagnant about us getting married? I know I qualify to be his wife..but he won’t make me his wife..so lately, I stopped doing everything. I feel stupid for giving so much of myself without the ring. Why do you think he won’t marry me? I’ve even considered moving out
    32 answers · 2 days ago
  • What would you do, if your wife (or hubby )cheats on your back?

    Divorce? Just that's it? Shouldn't s/he be punished, since cheating is a crime?
    Divorce? Just that's it? Shouldn't s/he be punished, since cheating is a crime?
    16 answers · 15 hours ago
  • My husband wants a divorce, but says he still needs me to help him with his school work. Says he just wants to be my friend. What do I do?

    My husband and I have been together for a total of 17 years (married for 3). A few months ago he told me that he didn't love me anymore and wanted a separation and eventual divorce. He tells me that he may have feelings for someone else who is also married with a child but says they are just best friends and I... show more
    My husband and I have been together for a total of 17 years (married for 3). A few months ago he told me that he didn't love me anymore and wanted a separation and eventual divorce. He tells me that he may have feelings for someone else who is also married with a child but says they are just best friends and I shouldn't care. He has recently gone back to school and started a new position at work. He still asks me to help him and like an idiot I still do. I have done almost every single one of his assignments for school (about a year and a half worth of work)and much of the paperwork that is required from his new position at work. He says that he needs me to help him get back on his feet and when he's ready, we'll finalize the divorce. I still do many of the same things I did as his wife (laundry, cook, iron his clothes and do the dry cleaning). He says he doesn't want me, to stay out of his business especially his relationship with this other woman. Still, sometimes, he'll give me hope that we can work it out and I fall into that whole routine again. Then, he'll tell me that there is no hope for us, he doesn't love me and doesn't want me, but still needs my help and just wants to be friends. I want to help him so that he doesn't fail, because I care about him, but I also no longer want to do these things anymore because it's mentally not healthy for me. How can I get past this? I'm unsure of what to do, I feel conflicted.
    16 answers · 21 hours ago
  • Do you believe in marriage? My boyfriend thinks its stupid and doesn't believe in it.?

    I love my boyfriend and we've been together for almost 5 years. Since then my desire to get married is stronger than it was when I was 'young.' At this point he wants us to start saving together and 'building' a life. I agree with him we are at the point in life where this is the next step but I... show more
    I love my boyfriend and we've been together for almost 5 years. Since then my desire to get married is stronger than it was when I was 'young.' At this point he wants us to start saving together and 'building' a life. I agree with him we are at the point in life where this is the next step but I told I want to be married or that to be in process if we are going to have a bank account together. He laughs and says 'isn't me saying I want to spend the rest of life with you enough?' I respect that and it's like I want a big wedding or even a ring. He says marriage is a government agenda and I get so upset. Basically I am not sure what to do. Is this too much to ask? What are your thoughts. He is 40 years old by the way.
    26 answers · 2 days ago
  • How should I deal with my husband?

    Best answer: When you are mad at someone, you don't want to accept any nice things they do for you. Of course, it would be a sign of good maturity if he did wear your ironed clothes and eat the breakfast you prepared even if he was upset - but let's face it - finding a "mature man" is like finding a needle in... show more
    Best answer: When you are mad at someone, you don't want to accept any nice things they do for you. Of course, it would be a sign of good maturity if he did wear your ironed clothes and eat the breakfast you prepared even if he was upset - but let's face it - finding a "mature man" is like finding a needle in a haystack.

    Too little detail to know exactly how this interaction took place and who is mostly at fault, but obviously your husband should not be upset about your not going to the salon. And he probably wasn't. He was probably upset about something else, and that was the thing that set him off. Again - maturity issues.

    To answer your question - I would just say "I am sorry we had a disagreement" (you are not assigning any blame or taking responsibility), and say "I am happy to iron your clothes and prepare your food, but I am not going to do it for nothing and be ignored, so you let me know when you are ready to resolve this and get back to normal."
    11 answers · 9 hours ago
  • My new husband really wants me to dress as a French Maid for Halloween. He loves the look of the outfits and swears they are comfortable?

    and fun. Has anyone worn one of these, they seem really revealing and short and I am not as excited about the ruflle butt undies as he is. He wants us to go shopping for the costumes this weekend. What would you say or do ?
    and fun. Has anyone worn one of these, they seem really revealing and short and I am not as excited about the ruflle butt undies as he is. He wants us to go shopping for the costumes this weekend. What would you say or do ?
    24 answers · 3 days ago
  • I caught my neighbor s husband cheating: Should I tell her?

    I was sitting on my porch and saw my neighbor go off to work. We waved goodbye. I saw another woman show up two hours later at my neighbor s house. He was all dressed up and I followed them to a resteraunt and they kissed Should I tell my neighbor about this? I took a whole video of the whole thing. I couldn t... show more
    I was sitting on my porch and saw my neighbor go off to work. We waved goodbye. I saw another woman show up two hours later at my neighbor s house. He was all dressed up and I followed them to a resteraunt and they kissed Should I tell my neighbor about this? I took a whole video of the whole thing. I couldn t imagine going through this but i would want to know especially since she talks highly of her husband
    9 answers · 5 hours ago
  • How would you deal with your husband ignoring you when he’s upset?

    He ignores you for a week sometimes 2 how would you feel?
    He ignores you for a week sometimes 2 how would you feel?
    9 answers · 8 hours ago
  • Wife touching another man?

    So me and my wife been married for a year but been together for 12 years and got 2 kids. We went out to a bar the other night with some friends and I happen to put my hand on her lap to grab her hand to hold and was shut down. She was drunk by the way. So I happen to lean back and see our one male friend and her... show more
    So me and my wife been married for a year but been together for 12 years and got 2 kids. We went out to a bar the other night with some friends and I happen to put my hand on her lap to grab her hand to hold and was shut down. She was drunk by the way. So I happen to lean back and see our one male friend and her holding hands and her hand on his lap under the bar. I got up and left. Well next day I confronted her and she’s like I’m sorry I did wrong. I feel so bad. Then she tells me that last time we all went out the guy was doing the same thing touching her and begging to go outside the bar to make out but she told him no. I am just so upset with her now. Like why not pay attention to me. What did I do. Does she still love me. And what if me and the other friends were not there. She said nothing else would happen
    9 answers · 12 hours ago
  • Wife did everything(Every sexual acts) with her exes many times and nothing is left for me to be first, so what will I be special for?

    Even though every act is new for me as I am a virgin...but she won't feel any special as she did each and everything with all her exes and even lived like husband and wife with them...so what will this husband be special for? He will be the beta provider forever and as a settlement after she got bored of sex.
    Even though every act is new for me as I am a virgin...but she won't feel any special as she did each and everything with all her exes and even lived like husband and wife with them...so what will this husband be special for? He will be the beta provider forever and as a settlement after she got bored of sex.
    10 answers · 1 day ago
  • Do you think that not getting married or having kids and not being in any form of sexual relationship is a good decision?

    I don't want to get married or have kids or be in any form of any sexual relationship.
    I don't want to get married or have kids or be in any form of any sexual relationship.
    35 answers · 5 days ago
  • I’m about to break my husband heart because ...?

    Best answer: If you guys can't agree on a place to live together, then either someone has to give in and live in the place other prefers or you have to live separately. You can do that without ending the marriage and give him a year or so to make up his mind about whether living with his parents is worth losing you... show more
    Best answer: If you guys can't agree on a place to live together, then either someone has to give in and live in the place other prefers or you have to live separately. You can do that without ending the marriage and give him a year or so to make up his mind about whether living with his parents is worth losing you over.

    You don't mention anything about circumstances like living rent free, like him being needed to help provide care, like grandparents providing fee childcare, &c.
    8 answers · 9 hours ago