• How to gain my wife's trust post domestic abuse?

    To make a long story short, i hit my wife several times over the course of two months. I had personal issues she wasnt aware of and it got worse when her parents got into a conflict with me etc. So now she's gone for her own safety and she is in alot of emotional pain. We talk for hours each day on the phone... show more
    To make a long story short, i hit my wife several times over the course of two months. I had personal issues she wasnt aware of and it got worse when her parents got into a conflict with me etc. So now she's gone for her own safety and she is in alot of emotional pain. We talk for hours each day on the phone but she is scared of me. She doesnt want to see me or be in a room alone with me ( thats how serious things are ). I got some treatment and im following her instructions on how to spend my time alone constructivly etc. Is there anything i can do to gain her trust again ? Time is running and we miss alot of the things we did together. I dont need any advice or criticisim about me; just advise on how i can gain her trust..i know im a monster cause ive been made this way by my alcoholic father abusing me and beating me as a kid and juvenile.
    25 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 2 days ago
  • I feel like the woman I nanny for is insecure about me and thinks I want her husband?

    So I’ve been a nanny for a family of four kids for almost a year now. They’re very nice people and I always felt comfortable being in their home. They both work full time, so I hardly see either one of them. Lately, if I even say one word to the husband when he gets off work, because I’m trying to avoid seeming... show more
    So I’ve been a nanny for a family of four kids for almost a year now. They’re very nice people and I always felt comfortable being in their home. They both work full time, so I hardly see either one of them. Lately, if I even say one word to the husband when he gets off work, because I’m trying to avoid seeming rude the wife immediately jumps in and ends the conversation. For example, he told me congratulations for getting into nursing school right in front of her and she interrupted and told him to go outside with the kids. I’ve never even been slightly flirty with him or inappropriate at all and I’m also in a happy relationship, so I’m confused why she’s acting like this all of a sudden. I’ve always been really respectful and careful not to open any doors and I even have his phone number and have never once text or called him even about the kids. I also talk to his wife and would only contact him if there was an emergency. I am 22 and attractive, but I don’t get why she would’ve hired me in the first place if she’s insecure about me. I feel weird completely ignoring him altogether, but I almost feel like I need to. Any suggestions?
    15 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 14 hours ago
  • If your friend paid for your boob job, would you be ok if he then asked to see the results?

    So I’m 30 and male and my friend is female and is 27. We’ve been friends for over 10 years now and we’re very close. Unfortunately we live about 3 hours from each other now and one day when I was in town, my friend told me how she really wanted bigger breast. I told her I’d buy her a boob job for her birthday under... show more
    So I’m 30 and male and my friend is female and is 27. We’ve been friends for over 10 years now and we’re very close. Unfortunately we live about 3 hours from each other now and one day when I was in town, my friend told me how she really wanted bigger breast. I told her I’d buy her a boob job for her birthday under the condition that I get to see them. This is not me trying to be perverted. This is me making sure she uses the money for what she says she’s using it for and the only way for me to ensure that is to be there when it happens. She’s agreed to my terms but what do you guys think? If you were a female and your male friend offered to pay for your boob job, would you be ok in letting him see the results?
    20 answers · Friends · 1 day ago
  • Is flirting with other girls cheating?

    just found out my bf has been messaging a ton of girls on instagram and flirting with them? is flirting cheating?
    just found out my bf has been messaging a ton of girls on instagram and flirting with them? is flirting cheating?
    83 answers · Singles & Dating · 4 days ago
  • Am I controlling for not wanting my wife to wear extremely short shorts if it bothers me?

    Best answer: Lol, okay... first thing, repeat after me.. "I am a very unique and high value man. Any woman who entertains me better be worth it because I bring what a lot of men don't bring".. Keep repeating this to yourself until you believe it....because once you believe it, everyone will.. Second thing you... show more
    Best answer: Lol, okay... first thing, repeat after me.. "I am a very unique and high value man. Any woman who entertains me better be worth it because I bring what a lot of men don't bring".. Keep repeating this to yourself until you believe it....because once you believe it, everyone will..

    Second thing you should love a woman in such a way, that she feels free. Why is this important? Because women are like children.. You tell them the rules, they will follow it in front of you.. but behind your back is another question... So instead of demanding her to follow "your rules and expectations".. You love her in away, where she would be scared to mess it up..

    So when your intertwine these two quotes in your marriage/relationship, when you see her in shorts shorts, you go behind her, touch her shoulders, and whisper in her ears "get those sexy thighs in the bedroom in the next 5 min, " and make love to her...

    You have to look at it, as of course that sexy woman in shorts shorts is with me, compared to OMG, SHES WEARING SHORTS SHORTS... WHAT IF A GUY NOTICES AND FLIRTS WITH HER BUHAHAH 0_O...

    Last thing, never purposely show your insecurities in front of your woman... why?? because of the first quote above...You re James freaking Bond to her, don't forget that
    18 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 1 day ago
  • If your house was on fire and you could save your child or husband/wife, which would you choose?

    I would definitely try to save my child first and then my husband. I would die trying.
    I would definitely try to save my child first and then my husband. I would die trying.
    14 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 4 hours ago
  • What is the protocol when someone is underpaying their child support?

    My husband's exwife is supposed to pay us (based on her income) about $200 a month in child support. It's all automatically coming out of her checks. However she has been switching jobs lately and is pregnant with her 5th child and we suspect is not working. the past couple months the payments have only... show more
    My husband's exwife is supposed to pay us (based on her income) about $200 a month in child support. It's all automatically coming out of her checks. However she has been switching jobs lately and is pregnant with her 5th child and we suspect is not working. the past couple months the payments have only been about $20 a time. how is this possible if they take it directly from her check? also.. does the county watch this and what do they do about it?
    14 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 12 hours ago
  • Why do I feel so bad about myself?

    Hello, I’m 21 years old. I am currently in nursing school at UT and I work a retail job 35 hours a week. I am exhausted. On my days off I volunteer at the hospital. I still live with my mom because I save all my money to pay for my education. I don’t want to graduate with loans and my mom doesn’t help me pay for... show more
    Hello, I’m 21 years old. I am currently in nursing school at UT and I work a retail job 35 hours a week. I am exhausted. On my days off I volunteer at the hospital. I still live with my mom because I save all my money to pay for my education. I don’t want to graduate with loans and my mom doesn’t help me pay for school. My mom expects me to do something everyday, and when I don’t meet that expectation she gets mad at me. I’m in my third year of college, I had made straight A’s all the way through until I recently got one B+ in my first semester of nursing school. My mom was very disappointed in me. I feel like my mom sets the bar too high and when I can’t meet expectations I feel very badly about myself. How do I boost my confidence? I feel like I haven’t achieved as much as I am supposed to and I’m not sure if I even will feel satisfied.
    12 answers · Family · 7 hours ago
  • Does friends with benefits really work?

    I told this guy I really like him as a friend and that I didn't want to ruin our friendship with sex. And this is what he said but people always say sex ruins friendships. Me:Well, I really like you as a friend that's why I bought you a present for your birthday and I don't want sex to ruin it.... show more
    I told this guy I really like him as a friend and that I didn't want to ruin our friendship with sex. And this is what he said but people always say sex ruins friendships. Me:Well, I really like you as a friend that's why I bought you a present for your birthday and I don't want sex to ruin it. Him:Sex will only ruin it if you want something more that I'm not willing to give. Keep your expectations low and you won't be disappointed. That's what I do. **I was the one who mentioned sex to him. I asked him if he wanted to be friends with benefits. He never said anything to me about sex until I asked him. Before I ever asked him about having sex he had asked me to hangout.**
    13 answers · Friends · 8 hours ago
  • If a husband uses porn to masturbate only when he is away from his wife for a month, should the wife be angry about it?

    In general, the wife prefers to have sex only once or twice a month, whereas the husband would prefer to do it at least once a week. For reasons of work, the husband was sometimes away for a month, during which he used porn for masturbation. On one occasion, the wife discovered it, and she was extremely angry,... show more
    In general, the wife prefers to have sex only once or twice a month, whereas the husband would prefer to do it at least once a week. For reasons of work, the husband was sometimes away for a month, during which he used porn for masturbation. On one occasion, the wife discovered it, and she was extremely angry, complaining about the issue even 3-4 years later. Were her complaints justified? Cheating or sexting never occurred.
    27 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 2 days ago
  • Vegetarian and nonvegetarian marriage- I need help/advice?

    OK here’s the thing I stopped eating meat three years ago for moral reasons. In the last year I’ve become more militant and more against meat fish animal flesh. When I got married my husband after year he moved into my house that I bought by myself before we were married and I asked him one thing is if you wants... show more
    OK here’s the thing I stopped eating meat three years ago for moral reasons. In the last year I’ve become more militant and more against meat fish animal flesh. When I got married my husband after year he moved into my house that I bought by myself before we were married and I asked him one thing is if you wants to eat meat to eat it outside of the house and not in front of me. I told him I don’t want any meat in my refrigerator or on my pots/pans or plates or silverware. I had a pot that I saved from when I used to cook meat and I told him if he insists on cooking meat to use that pan and it still decent pan and last night he refused to cook his meat in the pan I asked him to and he cooked it in my new frying pan I got so upset I just didn’t say anything I walked out and went to the movies. How can I help him come to a compromise because my house was the only place I had it was my sanctuary to get rid to get free for meat because there is meat everywhere except my house. How can I make him understand? (PS he knew all this before he married me
    12 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 8 hours ago
  • Every time I bring the possibility of marriage, the my boyfriend always brings up a prenup. Should I break up with him?

    I’d bring up marriage and he’d say something like “yeah but just so you know I’m getting a prenup” and he’s reminded me at least 4 times in the two years we’ve been together and ruins a good moment to think of the future with him. It bothers me that every time I think of us having a future he’s basically like “yeah... show more
    I’d bring up marriage and he’d say something like “yeah but just so you know I’m getting a prenup” and he’s reminded me at least 4 times in the two years we’ve been together and ruins a good moment to think of the future with him. It bothers me that every time I think of us having a future he’s basically like “yeah but our future could end”. Is it bad that I don’t like that that is the first thing he thinks about? I feel like he’s more worried about his money and house than thinking about a good, happy future? We’re in our early twenties and he’s never even been married to be this skeptical but I understand getting one in general but why bring it up every time??
    22 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 2 days ago
  • Is this bad or am i just sensitive?

    okay so I'm in a group of 3 friends and one of them is really popular and we get along really well until the other one keeps trying too hard to be her friend so it pushes me out. I try and talk to them but the other one just clings onto the popular one so I can't get a word in. every time we are in class... show more
    okay so I'm in a group of 3 friends and one of them is really popular and we get along really well until the other one keeps trying too hard to be her friend so it pushes me out. I try and talk to them but the other one just clings onto the popular one so I can't get a word in. every time we are in class they are laughing away and I'm just sat there with no one to talk to. And they don't even notice that I'm upset. I feel like they don't care about me at all. Am I just being sensitive?
    12 answers · Friends · 10 hours ago
  • Did I do wrong?

    I loaned some of my wedding savings to my brother. He was unemployed and he needed money for rent. My girlfriend found out and she’s extremely mad. I couldn’t leave my brother in the streets. I had to do something.
    I loaned some of my wedding savings to my brother. He was unemployed and he needed money for rent. My girlfriend found out and she’s extremely mad. I couldn’t leave my brother in the streets. I had to do something.
    15 answers · Engagements & Weddings · 21 hours ago
  • Friend constantly tells me I am not invited to her wedding. Proper etiquette?

    A girl I went to highschool with is getting married early next year.She has always been "out there" and invited herself to my 2nd wedding a decade ago and appointed herself bridesmaid without being asked. I was polite and allowed it since nobody else would participate. She talks about her upcoming wedding... show more
    A girl I went to highschool with is getting married early next year.She has always been "out there" and invited herself to my 2nd wedding a decade ago and appointed herself bridesmaid without being asked. I was polite and allowed it since nobody else would participate. She talks about her upcoming wedding a lot and always says "you are not being invited just putting that out there" or she will mention where she is registered for gifts and when I mention what all do you need she says "dont buy me anything, its not like you are being invited anyway we don't have the space we are having 150 people". I understand she has free will and she can do as she pleases regarding her wedding. But I can't help but feel she is being a childish brat by constantly saying this. My relative told me this is not a true friend and at being in our mid 30s this is asinine behavior and to cut off the friendship stat. What should I do?
    15 answers · Friends · 21 hours ago
  • My Grandpa is rude and selfish, is it normal for people his age and health condition to act him or how should we deal with him?

    Best answer: You should never be too busy for your family. Spend time with him. Find a museum or ball game he may enjoy with you. Put a smile on the old man’s face!
    Best answer: You should never be too busy for your family. Spend time with him. Find a museum or ball game he may enjoy with you. Put a smile on the old man’s face!
    10 answers · Family · 2 days ago