It hurts, yes. It hurts because it is you, hurting yourself. If you don't want to hurt, stop hurting yourself. It's not other people, and it's not Fate. It's not Life, or Luck, or God. It's YOU. So stop.
How do you do that? Use a little perspective: You want to be pretty. If you were...
Best answer: It hurts, yes. It hurts because it is you, hurting yourself. If you don't want to hurt, stop hurting yourself. It's not other people, and it's not Fate. It's not Life, or Luck, or God. It's YOU. So stop.
How do you do that? Use a little perspective: You want to be pretty. If you were pretty, you'd want to be smart. If you were pretty and smart, you'd want to be rich. If you were pretty, smart, AND rich, you'd want to be popular. If popular, you'd want powerful. If powerful, you'd want love. On and on and on and on. The point is, almost nobody has everything they want, and most people have very little idea of what they HAVE. Would you be miserable because you had almost all those things, but had to do without love? No? How about if you had to do without both Love and Power but you still had all those other things - would you be miserable then? What if you lacked Popularity, too? Wealth? So...you wouldn't be miserable if you had to do without ALL those things, as long as you were still pretty? Well, what if you had ALL those things, from smarts to love, but the one thing you couldn't be was pretty - would you be miserable then?
So you think that just being pretty would be enough? Well, let's say you were pretty, but you couldn't walk. Still happy? How about you couldn't walk or hear? How about you can't walk, hear, or see, but you were still pretty? How about your mental capacity is just reduced to the point that you can't read, or understand arithmetic - but you're still pretty? Still happy? Pretty but stage 4 cancer, and two months to live?
So... Maybe you can start to see that being pretty isn't quite as important as you've always thought it was. Maybe you've got quite a lot going for yourself, and whether you look like those other girls isn't necessarily as big a deal as it seemed. WHO is it that was saying it was such a big deal? Was it your parents, or your teachers, or your best friends? No - it was YOU who was telling yourself that. It was YOU who was making yourself miserable, by repeating a mis-truth to yourself, over and over - saying how awful it was that you weren't pretty.
Well. It's not awful, is it? If you stop telling yourself that it IS, then after a day or two, it ISN'T. EVERYbody wishes that they had something that they'll never have, and EVERYbody also fails to recognize most of what they DO have. But everybody isn't miserable about it, and YOU don't have to be miserable about it either. Stop telling yourself that you have to be. The fact is, you've probably got more going for you that many of those "pretty" girls...maybe not in the looks department, but as we've just seen, that's not all there is to life, is it?