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  • Relationship?

    I have known this friend for many years.

    She has been living apart from her partner  for many  years he works away and he won't allow her to visit 

    Every time he is due to come home he makes up a lot of excuses and leaves her hanging on and he don't turn up with no explanation. 

    My friend calls me and she pretends that all is well and she makes a lot of excuses for him. 

    When I try to be a friend and encourage her to talk to him about his behaviour she gets annoyed with me and gives me the cold shoulder for a few days. 

    I find it very hard to go along with her excuses about him 

    I try to make her understand that she needs to communicate with him and let him know how She feels

    I am frustrated because she calls me upset but don't listen what I have to say 

    How do I manage this  situation? 

    I care about her 

    2 AnswersFriends2 weeks ago
  • Buying property ?

    I am a few years away from retiring.

    I have a large mortgage on my current property. 

    I have found this one bed room apartment at a reduce cost in a desirable area and I am thinking of renting my current property and buy this apartment without selling my current property. 

    My question is do think increasing debt before retiring is a wrong move 

    I desperately trying to have one more chance of investing and hopefully make a right decision 

    What is your thoughts please 

    3 AnswersRenting & Real Estate3 weeks ago
  • Christmas ?

    Am I being boring?

    I have cancelled Christmas this year 

    The year 2020 has been awful with the pandemic and the current state of the economy. 

    I have worked flat out since the country lockdown 

    My friend says this should not be the case and I should keep Christmas the same

    I plan to slim down Christmas no tree buy very little presents.

    I prefer to donate the money to charity 

    7 AnswersChristmas1 month ago
  • Boys names ?

    Any ideas of any boys names beginning with the letter C

    23 AnswersBaby Names1 month ago
  • Political Views ?

    What interest you the most? 

    The Black Lives Matters movementOr when people are boycotting  all chinese products due to the apparent original spread of the virus coming from China causing this world wide pandemic 

    1 AnswerOther - Politics & Government2 months ago
  • Writing a poem ?

    Any one out there who is good at writing a poem?

    I have been nominated to write a poem for a nurse who is retiring after 30 years  nursing she has worked very hard throughout thoes years 

    These are the things that she loves and should be included in the poem 

    Cats

    Yoga

    Books 

    She is a vegetarian 

    She is very organised and creative 

    and very clever 

    Her name is Sue

    I would be grateful for any support 

    Any idea? 

    3 AnswersPoetry2 months ago
  • Relationship ?

     If your daughter was  21 years old and she was dating  a man who is 39 years old 

    and now she is pregnant for the second time Would you be concerned? 

    4 AnswersFamily2 months ago
  • Friends relationships ?

    Am I being unreasonable please advise me

    My dad is in a nursing home  and I struggle not seeing him due to the virus. 

    My Husband has Cancer 

    and my son has been going through challenging times and need my support. 

    I have two friends  who both telephone me every day and off load with various things going on in their lives every time we talk 90 percent of the conversation is about them and they barely ask about me. They are aware of my situation 

    Why are they like this? 

    I really do need time out however I don't want to offend them. 

    How would you manage this situation? 

    Other then just switch my phone off 

    6 AnswersOther - Family & Relationships3 months ago
  • Pregnancy?

    My step daughter is 20 she already has a young baby aged 10 months 

    My stepdaughter telephoned and told me that she is pregnant she has asked me to keep it a secret until she is ready to tell her father my husband. 

    ( I already know my husband will be very concerned how she will cope with two small children) also he will be very angry. 

    His daughter is unmarried and her partner is aged 40. 

    My husbands friend called me and said that he saw my step daughter and she looked very sad is everything OK with her. 

    I am feeling very upset that my step daughter told me to keep her secret from her dad 

    I feel torn and anxious I have asked my stepdaughter several times to please tell her dad 3 weeks later she has not said a word. 

    Help what should I do? and why do I keep feeling that it will back fires on me for keeping her secret 

    8 AnswersFamily3 months ago
  • Relationship?

    I am feeling very sad

    My son who is 26 years old lives at home. I have been a single parent since he was 3 years old. 

    When he was younger I worked very hard I went to university finished my degree then went on to do my masters. This is so that  in the future we would  never have to suffer financially. 

    Just recently my son dropped a bombshell and told me that he resents me because I was an absent parent when he was younger and he had many caregivers all family members  because of this he  suffers with self confidance and anxiety. 

    This has made me feel remorseful and wish that I can rewind back time. 

    Working so hard back then was never my intention to ever make him feel this way. 

    Prior to him telling me this 

    I have always supported him 

    New car live rent free so that he can save money. I paid his university fees 

    I cook his meals and I always tell him that I love him 

    When ever he gets annoyed he then let's me know how he felt back then

    Help how can I make amends? 

    11 AnswersOther - Family & Relationships4 months ago
  • Menopause ?

    Please share your Menopause symptoms

    I am not sure if feeling anxious and palpitations are symptoms of Menopause I thought it was just hot flushes

    5 AnswersWomen's Health4 months ago
  • Married Relationships ?

    I have a wonderful girlfriend she is lovely in lovely in every way.

    Sadly she lives apart from her husband for many reasons. 

    When ever myself and my husband go on vacation she ask a multitude of questions when?  where? How much?    and when will I be back.

    Whist we are away I feel like a child who is   about  to  be scolded knowing when I return there will be a fury of questions.

    At times I feel like I dont ever want to tell her anything and I continually down play what we are doing

    Every weekend she asks the same questions when are we getting together.

    The other day I went out with a neighbour and My friend  found out  I avoided my friends calls for a few days and hoped she would have forgotten  when I eventually spoke to my friend the first question she ask was How was the meal? Where did you go? Her questioning was very sarcastic

     

    Unfortunately many of my friends are unmarried I do try my best to share myself with friends and hubby .

    I have recently returned from a one week vacation and during that time I felt uneasy and I felt like I was preparing in my head the answers ready to give her on my return 

    This particular friend I cant work out why she behaves in this way?

    What should I do?  Advise please 

    6 AnswersMarriage & Divorce4 months ago
  • People of colour ?

    There is a lot said about Black people.

    Are you meaning African-Americans only

    Or when you refer to Blacks does that includes  Asians people or people of  mixed heritage   

    Or are you thinking people  who are Non white.

    2 AnswersOther - Cultures & Groups4 months ago
  • Property Advise o?

    I live in a nice neighbourhood 

    I have a large mortgage left on my property  $100,000

    I am thinking about downsizing to reduce the mortgage 

    I am keen to retire in the next two years.

    My brother has offered to pay my mortgage off  however he want to be put on the deeds..

    My worry is I have a son and if my brother pays off my mortgage my son will receive no future  inheritance 

    What is the best option please ? 

    4 AnswersRenting & Real Estate4 months ago
  • Keto diet ?

    Can some one explain what is the keto

    Diet ? and how does it workThank you 

    2 AnswersDiet & Fitness5 months ago
  • Driving Lessons?

    I am going to teach a teenager to drive a car

    Where should I start ? 

    Any advise would be greatly appreciated 

    5 AnswersOther - Cars & Transportation5 months ago
  • As verse Has ?

    I struggle when as should  be used oppose to has 

    Also there has been

    Or

    There have been 

    2 AnswersLanguages5 months ago
  • Married and paying Tax ?

    Does a married couple pay more taxes then someone who is single 

    When a couple gets married should they inform the tax office 

    5 AnswersUnited States5 months ago
  • Black Lives Matter ?

    I am the only Black employee  in a team of Doctors.

    The rest of the employees are all white 

    We all get along very well and I enjoy their

    Company.

    Since the unlawful death of George Floyd with all the protesting/ Marches  

    And Black Lives Matters demonstrations which I wholeheartedly support.

    I am surprised that no one in my team has asked me how I am feeling or even acknowledged our struggles. Or at least say something that will show me they are aware of the situation.

    When I walk in the room nothing is said 

    I am not sure if it is a good thing or a bad thing that  11 of my team members  keeping quiet. 

    What are your thoughts ? (Genuine answers please) 

    Thank you 

    1 AnswerOther - Politics & Government5 months ago
  • Diet and Exercise ?

    When you are trying to loose weight 

    What is more important 

    Exercise only

    Diet only

    Or Both 

    Also what is the best exercise for beginners we were told 10,000 steps a day will help you loose weight

    Please advise  me 

    4 AnswersDiet & Fitness5 months ago