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  • Need Advice (best answer will be chosen)?

    I'm supposed to go on a trip to El Salvador with my roommates after graduating. Not sure I wanna go tho, background:

    Originally my best friend (a roommate) and I were talking of going on a road trip to Grand Canyon, but then one of our roommates invited us to Salvador because he has family there and it would be cheaper. I only said yes because my best friend was excited to.

    Now some family stuff has come up around that time for my best friend and he can't go. He let me know first and said he didn't want to just abandon me or anything but that he couldn't go. 

    No matter what I say knowing him he will tell me still go and enjoy myself. Thing is, I don't really want to go if he's not going and will feel bad going without him. And I can't afford/have enough leave at work to do both trips. If I talk to him about it (should I?), What should I say?

    Thanks and sorry it was long 

    2 AnswersFriends6 months ago
  • Friend advice? (Best answer will be chosen)?

    I'm supposed to go on a trip to El Salvador with my roommates after graduating. Not sure I wanna go tho, background:

    Originally my best friend (a roommate) and I were talking of going on a road trip to Grand Canyon, but then one of our roommates invited us to Salvador because he has family there and it would be cheaper. I only said yes because my best friend was excited to.

    Now some family stuff has come up around that time for my best friend and he can't go. He let me know first and said he didn't want to just abandon me or anything but that he couldn't go. 

    No matter what I say knowing him he will tell me still go and enjoy myself. Thing is, I don't really want to go if he's not going and will feel bad going without him. And I can't afford/have enough leave at work to do both trips. If I talk to him about it (should I?), What should I say?

    Thanks and sorry it was long 

    1 AnswerFriends6 months ago
  • What do you recommend I do or say? (Will award best answer)?

    So I'm a senior in college; at the beginning of the year, my best friend and I mentioned going on a road trip to the Grand canyon after graduating. Then one of our roommates (close friends) invited all 4 of us to go to El Salvador after graduating since he has family there (a lot cheaper). Didn't really want to, but my best friend was excited so I said yes too.

    Now after saying yes my best friend has had a lot going on and will have some family stuff going on at that time across the country, so now he can't go. He felt bad about it and told me first saying he didn't want to abandon me or anything

    I will feel bad going without him. Knowing him no matter what he'll tell me I should go and have a good time, but I still won't feel right about it. I haven't talked to him about it, what do you think? Should I ask him? 

    Btw I can't do both trips because I only have a week of leave at work. Thanks!

    Friends6 months ago
  • Advice? (Will award best answer)?

    I'm a senior in college; at the beginning of the year, my best friend and I mentioned going on a road trip to the Grand canyon after graduating. Then one of our roommates (close friends) invited all of us to go to El Salvador after graduating since he has family there (a lot cheaper). Didn't really want to, but my best friend was excited so I said yes too.

    Now after saying yes my best friend has had a lot going on and will have some family stuff going on at that time across the country, so now he can't go. He felt bad about it and told me first saying he didn't want to abandon me or anything

    I will feel bad going without him. Knowing him no matter what he'll tell me I should go and have a good time, but I still won't feel right about it. I haven't talked to him about it, what do you think? Should I ask him ?

    2 AnswersFriends6 months ago
  • Best friend is being distant. Advice? (will award)?

    Context: met a few years ago, roomed together last year and are now living in an apartment with two of our other friends (college). The two of us grew really close last year, and I eventually told him he was my best friend (and he said the same). 

    We met up a couple times although we were busy this summer and had a lot of fun. The semester started fine and everything, but over the past 3 weeks he's become really distant.

    For context, his grandmother isn't doing well and it's gotten worse, although it has been ongoing all year. I have let him know i'm there for him and if he ever need to talk etc. But my point is it's different because stuff was going on last year but he wasn't distant with me at least.

    We used to snapchat multiple times throughout the day, in between classes, after work, studying etc. We'd also text each other (same as summer too). We would even do a study together once a week (we've done it 2-3 times this semester). 

    But he now only responds once a day on snapchat basically to keep the streak. He takes hours to respond to any texts (not useless texts, usually something like "good luck on your exam! you've got this")

    I feel like I'm annoying him or did something. Should I ask, and is it bad that I care so much? Or should I just give space.

    Thanks.

    1 AnswerSingles & Dating9 months ago
  • Should I tell my best friend I m worried our other friend will steal him from me?

    Look I know it sounds stupid. We ve all got our own baggage. Basically someone stole my childhood best friend for 12 years who I was super close to in the past. Because of that I never get close to people because of no trust. But i have gotten even closer to a friend now, but our other friend keeps spending more time with him and excludes me. My worry is over time he will steal my best friend.

    Is it even worth telling my best friend? At least to let him know how I feel and apologize for worrying or being annoying?

    Serious answers only please, will award best answer to a good answer. Thanks.

    2 AnswersFriends10 months ago
  • Is it wrong to ask someone who their best friend is?

    He's my best friend but I'm not sure if I'm his?

    6 AnswersFriends1 year ago
  • Best Friend Help?

    I'm an introvert and like to keep a few people I keep really close. But there is one friend I have who I am closer with and always enjoy being around and consider him that person my best friend. How do I find out if I'm his best friend too? Should I just ask? Or would you find it weird or annoying.

    Thanks

    2 AnswersFriends1 year ago
  • Why not send nuclear waste into space?

    If money were no issue ($$$)

    Obviously NIMBY (not in my backyard) has been a big part of the debate of where it should go. Why not space?

    13 AnswersAstronomy & Space1 year ago
  • Christians, do you have a favorite chapter of the Bible?

    I love Romans 8, Psalm 139, and Psalm 40, but Romans 8 is probably my favorite. What about you?

    5 AnswersReligion & Spirituality1 year ago
  • How to convince a friend to go traveling with you?

    I'm a Junior in college, and I'm planning to graduate next spring. I've always wanted to go traveling, but one thing that I think would be really cool is to drive across the U.S. to see the Grand Canyon (trip of around 2 weeks).

    I'd prefer not to go alone, and I want to invite my best bud. I think it would be a cool thing to do right after graduating and before life gets too busy to do stuff like this. He is often pretty busy though, and I am not sure if he'd want to leave his family for 2 weeks.

    How should I try to ask him about going? Have any of you gone traveling with a friend, and if so how did you talk to them about it?

    Thanks

    3 AnswersFriends1 year ago
  • Is Speaking in Tongues, as mentioned in the NT, still seen today?

    I went to a conservative Christian high school, and the teachers had somewhat different views. One showed us a video of an Asian cult (or hindu worship, I can't remember) where their "priest" would lift his hands over the people and this 'spirit' filled these people. They would shake, collapse, scream, and babble (similar to the exact "speaking in tongues" I've seen videos of from Pentecostal churches). The video claimed that this evil spirit (demonic) infiltrated the church today and that the true speaking in tongues as described in the NT no longer occurs.

    What's your view? The Bible does say that one of the signs will be speaking in tongues. Does this actually mean the babbling or does this mean speaking in a foreign language fluently that you've never learned before as described in Acts 2?

    Thanks!

    15 AnswersReligion & Spirituality1 year ago
  • What's your biggest fear?

    Curious what everyone's biggest fears are

    9 AnswersPolls & Surveys1 year ago
  • Is it wrong for me to feel this way?

    My friend group and I (4 in total) go to college together and we're pretty close. 2 of them room together, and the other one and I room together, but we're all planning on rooming together next year.

    But everyone has favorites. And sometimes I wonder if I'm any of their favorites in the group. Tbh I do consider my current roommate my closest guy friend, but idk if he feels the same way. Anyway, is there a way to become someone's favorite friend, and is it wrong for me to feel this way?

    Thanks.

    4 AnswersFriends1 year ago
  • Christians: do you believe in evolution, and can you support it with Scripture?

    I believe in a literal Creation because evolution is driven by mutations, which are imperfections. The world was perfect before the fall. But I believe after the fall, God allowed for natural selection and microevolution (finches beaks changing etc) to occur.

    What do you think?

    14 AnswersReligion & Spirituality1 year ago
  • Snapchat's Secret Algorithm?

    What do you think actually determines best friends on snapchat??

    We all know the amount and frequency you snap someone affects it, but there is something else that Snapchat won't say. Any ideas?

    1 AnswerOther - Internet1 year ago
  • Should I tell him he's my best friend even if it's not reciprocated?

    So I met my friend in college and we're living in an apartment together on campus. We're part of a group of 4 of us guys who are all close, but to be honest I'm closer to my roommate than the other 2 guys. And I realized that he is probably my best guy friend. I kinda feel like telling him, just saying how he's my best bro or something. Only thing is idk if it's reciprocated (obviously from the question). I also don't want to say it and then it be awkward because I'm not his.

    How do you recommend telling someone they're your best friend without the fear of their not saying it back? (and yeah, I over-think everything)

    Thanks!

    2 AnswersFriends1 year ago