Have you ever felt you couldn't speak up or express yourself like a LaMB?

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LaMB is an original animation produced by Animax-Asia. In it, LaMBs cannot speak nor do they have free will. Have you ever been in a situation where you felt you couldn’t speak up or express yourself?

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Answer 1

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Yes. Because naturally, I'm good at keeping things to myself. I've become so good at it that i forgot how to relate and reconnect to the world around me. Because of this kinda 'unique yet irritating' persona of mine, it cost me a friendship for a couple of months. But then again, i had reasons behind my closed mouth - it was a very deep secret that i had to carry the burden all to myself and not say anything even to my two closest friends. When people would ask, i would certainly deny or either ignore the comments, let it pass through the other ear. But when rumors spread and the evidence was getting more and more obvious to the public eye, i had to break the silence and admit that i was among the few who knew the bitter truth. My friend found out and turned the most bitter of them all. She definitely felt betrayed by my silence and denial.
The outcome was uneventful, and pretty much devastating especially to my psychological aspect. i suffered a few hyperventilations, cried a lot alone, having all the paranoia creeping into my brain at most times and among others, these things really kept me down till i was underground. I didn't want the quarrel between me and my friend known to the public, not even to our other close friends - that's how secretive i am - that i chose not to open up nor speak about it at all. Only one was caught in between, and she was neutral..but she chose to be with her more for a lot of reasons, which was fine and sometimes, not fine by me.
We haven't spoken to each other for months, only when it's very necessary since we were all together in the same group. I always had my fears with me, one of them was losing her - which i already did - but then, i wouldn't want to really waste all of the friendship and memories that we had altogether, too.
I didn't want the public to know about the truth and lay their comments on me and especially on her, so i had chosen the option of really closing my doors and not letting any sort of information out. I wasn't able to express myself fully. If i tried to, there would be holes in it, and some people would have noticed then.

But eventually, we communicated through emails, which was all filled with hurts and all..it took a lot of time to patch things up..but gladly, we are back on track right now..much closer and much happier :D


From my experience, i have learned that each of us has the right to express freely or speak up, and as for me, i should not hinder myself just because some secret was in the way. Surely, there are secrets meant to be hidden, but then, not all of them remain as a secret forever, ayt? There will be a right time for a secret to come out, it's just the matter of finding the right timing. Well, i was just a little too late for that situation, but at least, everything went well in the end.
Really, IT IS A PAIN not being able to express yourself out in the open. It was like i was in a prison cell, prohibited to do something that would make me comfortable for once..That immersion of myself into depression was really weakening, but having been able to come out and break free made me feel alive again!
Just make sure that what you express, is expressed rightfully and properly, at the right time, at the right place, with the right people. This justifies the person's right to express himself/herself.

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Answer 2

yes! when somebody called me over the phone, to have a phone interview (coz i was applying for a job)!
i feel like a dumb! i thought i failed the interview. but luckily, i passed! o got hired!

Answer 3

Yes, absolutely. When I was a second year highschool I heard my classmates talking something bad about me, very very bad and I feel so lonely and a little bit of anger. But I have to hold of my temper or else the teachers will scold me. I felt like I'm alone and they're talking about me. I know that they're talking about me because they're looking at my direction. I really could not speak and say to them what's their problem because I have a hot temper so I gotta get hold of it. But my eyes were starting to filled with tears but I cannot cry and express my feelings because I don't want to show them that I am weak and I am affected at what they are saying. So I try to ignore what they are talking and to show that I don't care what they say as long as I know in myself that the bad things they are talking about is not true. I'm sitting in my chair and I feel like my whole body was totally paralyzed except for some of my tears falling down so I covered my face with my hands.After their conversation ends, I rushed of to the bathroom and there I cry and feel guilty to myself. I asked to myself why? Why I act such a robot there that couldn't say anything and defend myself. I know that I have freedom to say to them that they are and to prove them.I realized then that I was wrong too, I should have act because I have to.

Answer 4

Well, yes, of course. It' really normal for people to feel this. Honestly, I always don't speak up and express myself. Sometimes, I think that what I know is not right, so I'll get scared and ending up quiet while the rests are chatting about it.

I can't express myself further as I want to, especially at school. When I got accepted at UP Rural High School, I don't really want to be there. I just took the exam for my parents and I'm not expecting anything -like passing the entrance exam- especially that I know for myself that I didn't study hard for it. My parents felt happy and proud when they knew that I passed, and that time, seeing their faces with expectations from me... it was really hard to turn them down, so I just accepted it. Next thing I knew, I'm not doing well at school -it's either I don't really like there or because it's just for smart students unlike me. Currently, I'm doing my best to make my parents proud, and I've given my hope that someday I'll tell them what I feel, think, and want I want to do.

Answer 5

Heck yeah.
There is a certain someone that thinks she's all that. Sometimes she would criticize me because I'm not as good/rich as her. But I can't say anything because she has more friends than me, and some of her friends are also mine. And also because she is easily offended. I usually tell people exactly how I feel, not because I'm offended or anything but because I just want them to stop talking. So probably if I say something to make her angry my friends would turn on me. This is something I'm trying very hard to avoid...loneliness.

Answer 6

Yes there are times that i really couldn't speak up what i've felt thinking that my grammar is wrong and i'am always nervous especially the one talking to me is a foreigner. like now i want to say something but i dont know where to start. Mr spotter 888 can you please help me to be a good speaker even not better. I am very thankful for helping us and giving advise.

Answer 7

Yes. More often than not, there comes a time in ones life that having the freedom of speech is neglected or in some ways hindered by outside forces in use. This certain event happened to me before in high school. everyone knows that to be in is to belong, and to belong would sometimes result to completely shutting up. This event made me feel uneasy and uncomfortable. Not having to express my own ideas just to comply with the requirements of a group made me feel sick. That's way tried so hard to break free from the chains of extreme social norms that a group or the society itself dictates its people. It is my goal, from that day on, to create a change by expressing my thoughts and beliefs. This does not, however, mean that I'll not be following rules and norms of the society. Its just that I'll take it as how it suits my ideals. What's wrong is wrong and What's right is right!

Answer 8

Yes, sometimes at work no matter how hard I try to highlight issues or give suggestions to management, at the end of the day they still end up ignoring them. What hurts the most is seeing what I highlighted actually come true and if management had implemented my suggestions, the issues would not have arisen.

Answer 9

Yeah, When I recently joined an Online Talent Competition.. The Organizers called me and they where Singaporeans, I was shocked because of the accent and I'm not used to speak English on phone a lot and with that Singaporean Accent. I thought they will gonna disqualify me or what, But still they have picked me to represent the Philippines to compete with other countries :)

Answer 10

When I was in secondary school (high school) with the constant exams and problems at home, I felt that I can't express myself. When I shouted as I'm angry with myself, both my parents thinks I'm mad at them. I get scolded and I just can't speak anything as its always the parent is right all the time. At school the teacher always lecturing me for not being able to do my home work completely. I just can't tell them what is going on in my head.

As i grew more mature and with my sister guidance, now I can express myself in a proper manner. Just learn from our mistakes and try correcting them and surely we can express our self better. Try it and feel the difference.

Answer 11

When a parent or sibling brag openly about their success or achievement, seemingly to the whole world, sometimes it makes my hair stand on end. You would prefer if they were a bit more humble But because you do not want to downgrade their supposedly self-worth and bruise their ego or even strain a relationship, you keep it to yourself.

Answer 12

Yes, of course! When I wanted to express my feelings towards a girl that I liked, I felt so mute and could not even string a sentence. But I guess for certain things, we do not have to tell it out loud to get the message across.
After some time, she knew I loved her...and vice versa.
Indeed, actions speak louder than words. :-)

Answer 13

Well, yes, of course. Most likely everyone have been in the same situation more than once from now and then. It's really normal for people to feel this. Honestly, I always try to speak up my mind whether it was at home, during school or now during work, but sometimes others are too fixated and evolved around their own conversation or problems that they tend not to heed or notice me.



I guess it was my lack of self-confidence as I was always afraid to be the centre of attention during my hay days at secondary school, but when I was in form six, I actually liked being the centre of attention when it comes to discussions about school work or extra curriculum activities. In my opinion, the lack of expressing one’s self is the combination of the lack of self-confidence as well as the lack of maturity in one’s self which can be due to our age at that certain point.



Now, when I’m already in the working environment, I tend to speak up my mind and express myself fully in order to get colleagues attentions at the work place and even the attention of my family at home, and it feels really good! Every problem has a positive solution and in relation to this problem, one’s own believe in self-confidence is enough to cast a clear path in life towards expressing one’s self. I always had faith in that and I’m thankful to that.

Answer 14

I always did..
with my friends, family, strangers...

it's because I don't open up at all. In fact, I close out the whole world. I don't know why but I do, and somehow I'm used to it, but there are times that I just break down and cry when I'm alone.

How tight do I close myself from the world? Very tight. They don't even see the other side of me. And it's not my fault they don't know me, because believe me, I have tried a million times to communicate, but they...or I...I'm just too invisible for them. Not being emo or anything, but that's the truth.
How would you feel if you tripped and almost got ran over by a car and then your friends would just laugh at you?
Or try to tell your parents your problem with them ["try listening to me..."] and in turn they'll just scold you more for not listening or understanding them?
Or simply being left alone? Always being forgotten? Barely remembered?
Only seen because of your mistakes?
Always blamed for everything that goes wrong?
Efforts NEVER appreciated?
Accused of being "selfish and vain" just because you won't speak up?

I learned to endure these and others through time. You can see me with my "friends" but I'm not sure if they really are my friends.
Oh wait, they're not.

Friends should always care, right? They should always give and take. Not give and give.
As to why I still hang out with them...I don't have any choice. Being emotionally and mentally alone is enough, at least there are SOME people around me physically.


So why don't I speak up and express myself?
it's because I grew tired of trying to speak without any audience.
The only thing that knows how I really feel are my papers. I write, I draw.
That's my escape.

Compared to people, they're more reliable when you have problems.

Because some people are deaf and blind. Or maybe they choose to be deaf and blind towards a certain person.
They just don't know how much it hurts.

Source(s):

everyday life.

Answer 15

Yes. I find that quite common especially when one feels fear of what other people would think of them. There are even times when even when I know someone who does something wrong and want to tell that person to stop, I am unable to do so in fear that that person would shun me or think that I am in no position to voice out my thoughts.

Answer 16

yes, i have been in alot of situation that i couldnt speak up for myself.

Answer 17

No, I haven't. I've had times where it felt like it would be in my best interest not to speak up or express myself, but it's not the same thing.

Of course, I'm an existentialist. I imagine determinists might feel that way all the time.

Answer 18

yes!! It happened from October 2007-april 2008. I have no ability to express my thoughts and feeling to my ex-bf. He controlled my life. I can't spent time with my gfs and my family. I have to spend 99% of my time with him! alone! & it is so weird! we were not engaged. when I express an idea, he will be like 'why are u complaining? Juz follow what I said.' hey! I'm 19 okay! I know what's right & what's not! & my frens told me to break up with him many times, but i dont want to. until my mom told me to. when I asked for break up, he made an assumption that I have some other guys, i had intimate relationship with some other guys. It was like...AM I THAT CHEAP!? hello! get a life u id***. erk! It was the most horrible relationship I have ever ever had in my whole life...

Source(s):

It's my own life experience as a teenager

Answer 19

Well being here in S******** is as good an example as it can get. Nothing much is heard here and everyone is too afraid to voice out any opinions. Even if there are anyone brave enough, they risk everything in their livelihood. Or either the content would be censored so much that its of no more meaning to even voice out. Free will? Since when did we had such choices? If we are talking about free will on the surface level than there is. Other than that, one got to look elsewhere for it. Even then your not safe. There are only those who follow the majority* and condemn others who do not follow their example. Kudos to those who try to stand out and create a better tomorrow for themselves.

Answer 20

I was like that for a long time and at times I feel pissed off at life itself. I just couldn't understand why.

But now I have found the answer and life is beautiful and awesome everyday.

The key thing that made me CLOSED is FEAR.

The thing I wanted the most is PEACE and HAPPINESS.

The thing I lacked most is OPENNESS, UNDERSTANDING, AWARENESS and BALANCE.

I found that the secret is that we all have a choice to take the **** the people dish out to us, confront or walk away.

Be positive about it out negative. IT'S ALL OUR CHOICE IF WE DON'T TAKE CHARGE of our lives NOBODY WILL OR someone else will do so.

This is my 17'th week and my life have changed ever since for the better.

Answer 21

One of the most LaMB like experience I had involved me and my ex-girlfriend.

She was talking about how we weren't going along in a good way and she was planning to break up with me. I had put all my efforts on trying to maintain our relationship but suddenly out of the blue she tells me she needed time to be alone. Dumbfounded I just stared blankly and couldn't even speak. I sat on the bench where we were talking for almost 15 min. until she just kissed my cheek and left. By the time I came to my senses 3 hours already passed. Time for me stood still at that moment.

I spent the rest of that day just walking aimlessly towards nowhere. Just to find myself lost and confused all over again.

Source(s):

Personal Experience.

Answer 22

During my houseman ship in Gynaecology i was assisting my boss in operation theater,during hysterectomy (removal of uterus) of an old lady my boss stitched the ureter of the patient while closing the abdomen,i have seen that but i was in situation not to speak in front of my boss,but when next morning the urine out put of the patient was less than normal and she was crying with pain and swollen abdomen,i just whisper to my senior Medical Officer as MAY be BOSS stitched the ureter,after opening again the abdomen Boss find it out what i told my senior.After 10 yrs i cant forget my this stupid LAMB like silence.

Source(s):

self

Answer 23

Yea why not... Especially when you are in love with someone else and the other side, your parents want you to focus on study first. Parents are always worry about their son/daughter future, they scare that if their son/daughter is in love with someone will affect their studies.. Therefore, sometimes is really hard to speak up as I respect both parties and both parties have their own points.

Answer 24

Yes I have. I transferred into a new school when I started high school. Unlike my classmates I didn’t know anyone of them so I was quite shy and I seldom leave our room. I used to get in a lot of fights when I was in elementary but I decided to change and start over a new leaf and that’s when the problem occurred. I think people began to perceive me as a push over. One morning my chair had gone missing and there was only one vacant chair left and it’s located in the left side of the front row. As I was about to get that chair one of my girl classmate said to me “don’t take that chair! You’d only messed our row, we have complete seats here and I don’t want one to go missing”. I was speechless in my head I thought” if I punch your face right now, you’d know what a mess is”. In the end I just walked away and seek for other chairs in others rooms. I felt that I’m such a loser for not answering back.

Answer 25

Lol more often than not XD! But that's because I'm naturally an introvert person - I let other people do more talking than me. I generally prefer to be the listener - I listen to what they all have to say, then make deductions or thoughts based on what I've listened to quietly. When I time it right, I speak up my opinions.

Back when I was in school, this sort of approach kind of backfired most of the time, they think that I never wanted to participate in group or class discussions in the first place. When tests came out based on what we've learnt and I came out tops, they demanded where have I copied from. I was like, WTF?!

But alhamdulillah, now that I'm in university, most of the students and lecturers are great to hang out with and are a lot more assertive, plus they make room and allow space for those who are falling back in communication skills (like me, I suppose *gloom*). Still, at least now that I'm being heard, I feel a lot more comfortable being around with people, and am glad that I can give my input on issues without hesitancy or the need to hold back.

I hope that there'll be some other alternative for those LaMBS. At first I thought, "Cool! That means that those criminals can't do harm to others anymore!" When they said criminals, I'm thinking along the lines of rapists, child molesters, murderers, mercenaries, sodomizers and the like.

But then I consider the other "criminals", those who are forced to do wrong such as thievery for starving families, those who are simply caught in the wrong place at the wrong time like a passer-by who is unfortunate to come across a grisly murder scene and is wrongly caught and tried as a suspect, those people who are not harmful, but due to circumstances, they strayed and do wrong things. Do they deserve to be turned into LaMBs as well? And we're talking about hundreds of years.

Answer 26

singaporeans, please stand up.

Answer 27

yes. i suppose most guys feel that way too...you know. when you're with your wife or girlfriend...it's like you want to watch Ip Man, but she wants to watch KungFu Panda... and... and..it's so helpless because if you don't, she starts pouting, throwing fits and you can't be yourself. you have to act like a fool to calm her down and finally have to watch KungFu Panda.

oh yes. that happened to me before.

Answer 28

yes!i felt that way,when you do something,if you worry what people will think of you,what history will record your worth,then your not concentrating on the job.A job is to be done,do it.Let people decide later,history will make its own judgement.That's my view;so i have been,excoriate,denounced,but i do what i have to do and at the end,let people decide.

Answer 29

well i find tat it is still not a sad thing,
casue at time when we speak up our feelin of how we felt over certain thing,,
it might hurt the other party.
express myself like a lamb,i find tat in singapore,it still a gd thing,
certain people would fight or kill juz because of a small speackin matter

Source(s):

if people really really like to speack what they had tink,,
tink hard again n agian,,does your words later hurt the other party,or is it a useless sentense

Answer 30

Speaking of expressing myself, I'd like to say that I feel that this question is exploitative, as it pretends to be interested in our personal experiences, but it's really just a marketing exercise for some animated movie.

Source(s):

Common sense

Answer 31

yes and i support ur 100%