Is it still shallow to want a hot wife for the sake of your children?

Question

If your children are good looking, they get it better in life. Should that not be a priority, to do what is best for your kids and helps ensure they live as good a life as they can get?

Answer 1

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Is it shallow? To a degree. But most people are, whether they want to admit it or not. All these people with the loud mouths and the crappy comments don't want ugly kids. Nobody does. Nobody says, "man, I hope my kids are hideous". Of course you'll love them if they are, and you probably wouldn't notice anyway. And it's the same with a wife. People want attractive partners for their own sakes, not just for reproductive value. Ignore the people up on their soapboxes.

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Asker's Comment:

The only answer that didn't have loads of stigma attached.... im guessing a lot of the answerers were ugly themselves or something.. it was jsut a question no need to get all CUT UP ABOUT IT!. anyway, thx for the answer

Answer 2

So Shallow!!!!!!!!!! if you were married with kids i would hope your wife would want to exchange your for a hot man!!!! or a man who was not shallow

Answer 3

love the person youre with regardless of their looks. if youre attracted to her thats what matters. just dont have kids. adopt some really good looking babies!

Answer 4

maybe your thinking is right about what is good for your kids but we don't know what kind of partner that god give us.

Answer 5

It sounds like you want your kids to be attractive, which is kind of shallow too. Just because someone is attractive doesn't mean they will have a better life. There are some pretty strange looking people who have made it big with their TALENTS AND INTELLIGENCE. So, find a smart women. Intelligence should be the priority. You don't want attractive children with no learning capacity, now do you?

Just my opinion, not trying to be rude or anything.

Answer 6

yes it is shallow, good looking people can have not so attractive children too, I have seen it, sometimes the combination, no matter how good looking the two parents are does not make for a beautiful child. I consider myself average on the looks department, but I gave birth to 2 very beautiful children. so it is what it is...love is what matters to children.

Answer 7

I think this wanting a hot wife "for the kids" is just a front for the fact that YOU want a hot wife for yourself. Intelligence is more likely to make kids succeed but i don't see you wanting to marry a quantum phycisist "for the sake of the kids".

Answer 8

There have been some recent studies stating that children with what we would consider "above average" looks usually come from parents who are usually average themselves.
I have seen some fairly beautiful people and some not so pretty people come from parents who could be said to be attractive. When it comes to finding a mate and trying to produce pretty children you are much better off finding someone who is healthy and has a good genetic family history. Trying to win the genetics game by marrying someone "hot" is simply you being shallow and wanting a trophy wife. Being able to laugh and grow old with someone and letting your children watch the love you share is going to be far more beneficial than producing pretty, artificial kids.
But anyone who asks questions like this make me wonder who would have you.

Answer 9

It makes more sense to want a hot wife for the sake of yourself. Good looking people can produce not so good looking kids. I don't think my in-laws are that great looking, but my partner is a spunk! Anyway, you don't want your kids to look too good. Slightly above average and they reap the rewards. Too far above average and they are penalised. Tricky isn't it. Just don't tell your wife that you chose her because she was only a bit good looking. That wouldn't be a good way of keeping her long enough to have kids.

Answer 10

Why don't you just get hot yourself? Then your wife can be normal..

Answer 11

Pretty people don't always make pretty kids. Sometimes the parents features come up in the worst places.

Answer 12

Just because your wife is good looking does not mean that the kids will be. I have seen some beautiful people have children, and the kids are cute, but not that cute. So really I would just marry a girl becasue you love her, not just becaues she is hot. Of course it is necessary to be attracted to her. But if looks is all a girl has, then move on.

Answer 13

Being hot does not necessarily mean that you will have good looking kids - who is to say that you are good looking??????? And anyway, would you not prefer to have intelligent, happy kids??? Get your priorities right and stop putting pressure on yourself to look perfect.

Answer 14

First of all what do you look like and who are you to judge others? Second beautiful people can make not so beautiful children and not so beautiful people can make beautiful children. There are no guaranties in this.
Third making this your first priority instead of finding a good woman that you can trust, love, and build a strong family unit with is cheating your children of a happy home and many life lessons. Your children learn about relationships from yours their parents. Don't they deserve more then this?