Why do men always get screwed in a divorce?

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Lost everything, after being divorced almost two years am still trying to get out of hole, ex has nice house, I have a dump of a rental...etc.

Answer 1

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What a bunch of B.S. answers! Listen, men get screwed in divorces because this country has a double standard when it comes to men and women. In our society men are simply regarded as financial "institutions" for women even though women are supposed to be independent and equal. In a divorce the woman is automatically awarded custody of children unless there are extreme circumstances which render her unfit, in which case the man gets custody. The man is required to provide alimony and child support until the woman gets married again, which could be never and the kid (s) turn 18. The system simply favors the woman and men just have to deal with it the best we can.

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In my case this is exactly what happened. But I did quit my job and am working under the table and am not paying $800 a month anymore!!!

Answer 2

Because women get screwed in the bedroom.

Answer 3

because you had a bad lawyer

Answer 4

The reason is because the government doesn't want to have to support these wimpy women who think they deserve all this crap just for existing, instead of working for it.

Answer 5

prob. because the women is sitting there raising his kids now on her own...

Answer 6

My condolences. Really. That really sucks and it's not fair. What state do you live in? I thought it was supposed to be a 50/50 split. Maybe there's kids involved and your ex is raising them? The courts tend to side with the offspring.

Answer 7

well i am in ky and i am going through the bid D and i am getting screwed in every way but the good way so it isnt just men that get screwed

Answer 8

This may not pertain to you. Generally men that think they got screwed more than likely have done something to deserve what the judge decided. My personal experience is that if you are one of the decent men then chalk it up as experience, rub of the STUPID per say on your forehead and go forward. Never ever marry again. Live with someone enjoy the companionship and make sure you make it clear that yours is yours and hers is hers. If by chance you feel you have found the "right one" again...always watch out for you and make sure that you have a prenuptial. LL.

Answer 9

because you were probobly the financer..the financer normally get's screwed..then leaves the house for the partner..wife normally, the car..and he gets an apartment..has to give her money untill she gets married..yip that's what my uncle had to go through.

Answer 10

No men don't get screwed, everyone does. Only the solicitors win

Answer 11

The honest truth is the Judge always sides with the wife. Because you are supposed to be the bread winner, n she is supposed to be good with the house n kids. N that is about the only reason why.

Answer 12

Well I don't know the reason why you and your ex wife got in a divorce, but if maybe you guys have kids and they need a better home than just being stuck somewhere else where they won't even feel comfortable. Maybe she has a good job and knows how to take care of herself and doesn't need anyone ruining her life right now or maybe you just need to get over your divorce and start looking for a better job instead of just wasting your time wondering why your ex wife has a better life than you. Start doing something for yourself and forget about her.

Answer 13

Well think of it this way..
Women get screwed out of jobs, pay rates, from relationships, get beaten, raped, killed, abandoned with children... and the list goes on...
All i can tell you as far as divorce is that I don't know your situation, but it's messed up that you lost everything, but if it was a material thing why didn't you get a prenuptual agreement if you felt like you got screwed. I don't want to go on about a comparison of the two, but women get screwed too in and out of a marriage. Because you didn't have to get divorce it was better or for worse and the worse was more than one of you or both could bare, so you went your separate ways. Thank the courts and the law.... That's a price you pay for a divorce.... Who said a divorce was a trip to Disneyland? But you just need to move on and pick up the pieces, and learn from your mistakes.

Answer 14

They don't always, here are 2 cases I know of where the MAN screwed the woman......My paternal grandparents divorced in 1940 and my Grandfather got custody, FULL custody of their 9 kids. (Only met my paternal grandmother once and that was enough! What a Witch!!!!!) Case 2, actor Parker Stevenson gave up his career when he married Kirsty Alley, when they divorced 14 years later they had 3 kids Parker had raised while Kirsty worked, he took her to the cleaners AND got full custody of their kids.
I'm sorry things went so sour for you, it isn't fair, men have as many rights as women do in marriage, divorce and concerning their kids, I wish more states would recognize this. MEN MATTER TOO! Good Luck and God Bless.

Answer 15

maybe you could rephrase that a little bit. When my marriage brokeup I left him with the house and just about all the assets. I got 2 of the 3 kids,a bed, a dining table w chairs, my clothes and a few pots and pans after 17 years of marriage. Oh and incidentally I also asked for no child support although I really really could have used it. So please don't say that men always get screwed. Oh and I didn't even have a vehicle to drive he got to keep the 2 cause I didn't want to be greedy and I thought he'll always be there for his kids...wrong... the one that stayed with him got everything including the nice vacations whereas the two with me got told if you would have been living with me you could have gone.

Answer 16

If u think that is bad, try being divorced twice from same man---He divorced her first. But came by once a week to "visit" kids sleep with x wife. He is the one who goes after the kids as soon as the woman gets a boyfriend after 2nd divorce of which he just suggested when she divorced him. Knowing she does not want to marry just have a relationship--and he accuses b/f of child molesting his kids--- Oh BOY dhs- state police -all involved and this man did not lift a finger to offer to take the kids for a visit to his house---not one time! So Here I am for the 3 rd time in a marriage i do not want!!! I will not lose my kids no matter what!
Women get screwed in divorces too. even if it is the x watching the house with binoculars after the fact. I never had help during marriage, during divorce nor after about the kids, he just never took a role model. I have been threatened, choked and "possibly poisoned".
When I had enough and started fighting back--yeah u have too, I scared the crap out of him--cause the first thing I did---not being mean or anything---I needed baby clothes out of the bedroom but he had locked the door----I took a butcher knife and cut my way in to get clothes. No I would not hurt anyone, but I realized later, I could have been bought and paid for and dead because of the act and all I needed was my babies clothes and diapers for the night of which were in my bedroom.
I do not care about his "things", I just want to be left alone----I do not care about my "things" either.
If it were not for my baby, a bright 8 year old son, I think I would just leave and disappear, been with this man since i was 16!
I know one thing------if ever out of this relationship---Never never another!!!! It is too complicated and I like alone.

Answer 17

Just the nature of the beast.
I'll be glad when men and women do become EQUAL in the eyes of the law. When they do men won't automatically get screwed out of their house and children.

Answer 18

Maybe one should ask one's self, "what did I do to her during the marriage to make her hate me so much now?"

Answer 19

Because usually they don't get everything. They usually have the kids and need the house, and yu don't. Usually the house and mortage are all they get. If you fight it in most cases yu aill split the value of everythihg you an dyour wife brought together. However if she has the kids she should have th ehouse and very seldom is the child support anywher enear enough to raise them and or house them. I know people with 3 kids ***** about 200 a month support payments and wonder why she got the house.
but if you are entitiled to half of the value of property in georgia at least that was accumatelated during your marriage. but not inherited property. also usually t eman does not get agood lawyer. If your lawer is not doing the job get another one,a and women lawyers are bette rin divorce cases.

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friends and family and divorce.

Answer 20

That's because, it's a dirty game and I'm sure you that. There is a way to win and knowing is half the battle!

Answer 21

Well its not always that way, satistically women and children of divorce move down in financial standings.
Few women are fortunate enough to provide for themselves and childern outside of a poverty level..........but they do survive......while men go on to marry again, forget they have children both financially and mentally.........
There are few case senerios that are differen't. Its the men that stick by thier childern, that pay the support, keep the visiting schedule that get screwed, so looks like you are in the "MEN THAT GIVE A DAM" catagory..........
So if you call taking care of your responsibilities getting screwed then you got screwed.......
I collected a total of 100$ in child support in 17 years of rasiing my daughter alone. Never once did I keep him from seeing her,trash talked him, or called him a dead-beat dad......or for that matter take him back to court time after time to collect more childsupport.........
I was lucky though I only had one child, I had a great job with benifits so I really needed nothing from him, but my daughter did, she needed to know her father.! Keeping her from knowing him would have only hurt her and caused her to resent me, he was her father nomatter what I felt or who he was, and the only way that she would ever learn the type of person her father was is by spending time with him and seeing for herself! She loved him and I generally believe that despite his ways his heart loved her and I would be dammed before I would allow him to take that away from her!
She is now almost 21, attending college ( again by no financail support from him) do I harbor any hard feelings.....I did at first.....but not now.
My daughter loves and respects me, never had to speculate or hear only my reason for the divorce.......she has learned it all from being able to know him...........I had to tell her nothing!!
Plus KARMA..........always remember what goes around comes around!
He had an affair because he thought I was fat at 130lbs..........got the other women pregnant......they both used drugs........... but after 15 years I got my revenge, and I didn't even have to lift a finger!
He and this women went on to have 6 childern.........she became addicted to meth............so now he has a crazy, ugly, women that sued him for child-support and now has to give up more than half of his income to her but still won't move out of his house,..........plus has to support his kids because she spends all the support money on her drugs......she looks 20 years older than her age, (and she is younger than me), sleeps with any male with a penis for drugs, and threatens him that she will take the children far away so he can never see them if he objects, and given her state of mind I don't doubt that she would harm them and herself if he tried!
He has not lost the love of his daughter but has lost her respect,for the mannor in which he has allowed her sisters and brothers to live, has even contacted child protective services, and at 19 even tried to get custody of her sisters and brothers, but was unable to due to her age (I was even willing to help her)........and because we live in another state
I am still drop-dead sexy at 47, 120 lbs with a lean fit body.........and he looks at me and only wishes!!
I have 2 homes, 2 cars, and a 35 year old man I've been with for 12 years! Plus my daughter has a heart of gold, compassion, and the love of a man that helped raise her from the age of seven his only child, and who she refers to as her "real father"
So those that scew in the beginning..........
Best of luck to you, next time get a better Lawyer, tides are changing......so if you see that your children are not being taken care of ........don't give them up!!

Answer 22

Depends on if there are kids involved. I've seen several women get screwed as well... I guess you should have been more careful who you married cuz she obviously knew how to screw you over. Why doesn't anyone believe in a pre-nup these days?

Answer 23

If he cheated on his wife and pretended like he was unmarried and single with the other woman than he needs to get screwed for doing his dirt.